FabGuys.com forum: Never been to a gay bar

By *exualCumeleon OP Man
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

I have never been to a gay bar, before today. I went for a quick drink in one in Birmingham today, I don't know what I was expecting at 4pm in the day, a few guys talking and a couple sitting alone, didn't speak to anyone better luck next time.

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By *ockFunUpmMan
2 weeks ago

Upminster

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By *ockFunUpmMan
2 weeks ago

Upminster

First time in a gay bar was in Glasgow last year, but it was on my last day there and was mostly killing time before having to get my train back to London. Shame as 2 guys started chatting me up but I had to leave 😞

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Bedford

Spend all your money in a gay bar gay bar xx

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By *eedsbearmanMan
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I've been to many a gay bar

But I've never been to me x

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By *vionxMan
2 weeks ago

Nuneaton

I’ve never been to a gay bar or club would love hook with someone from there and have erotic passionate fun

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By *ohnbi1965Man
2 weeks ago

Aberfeldy

I took my wife into one once we were meant to meet her cousins ( straight) for the karaoke i was wearing my leather bike jacket and was soon getting plenty of attention from 3 different guys which i was loving but it was too much for the wife to handle so after 1 drink she made us leave. Spoilsport lol.

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By *uck my bumMan
2 weeks ago

walsall

I visit a local one often during nice weather wearing shorts and vest top so all ink is out I get a lot of attention

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By *riefsMan
2 weeks ago

gorey

I was in a gay pub didn't even know until I was on my way out

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By *upertedMan
2 weeks ago

Walsall

"I've been to many a gay bar

But I've never been to me x"

And sipped champagne on a yacht..? 🍾

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By *pdudeMan
2 weeks ago

newtown

I went to a couple in Leeds when I was working that way, sadly not chatted up, nice chilled out places dunno what I was expecting maybe the blue oyster bar lol

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By *IPMANMan
2 weeks ago

West London

Why would anyone expect a gay bar to be wildly different than a straight bar, and why are women obsessed with going ?

Wish there was a bar of any description that banned sport, television and kids

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By *ustinsideMan
2 weeks ago

chester wales border

Can't say I've ever been to a gay bar as I wouldn't know where they are and I'm sure they won't have a sign saying gay bar so how do people know if its one and how do you find out where they are.

Would Google list them ?

I would love to go to one just to see if it's different to any other bar and see if anyone comes over to chat knowing I'm a stranger

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By *rse banditMan
2 weeks ago

airdrie

"I have never been to a gay bar, before today. I went for a quick drink in one in Birmingham today, I don't know what I was expecting at 4pm in the day, a few guys talking and a couple sitting alone, didn't speak to anyone better luck next time."
Never been to 1 yet.Wonder who'd come on to me.Mmmm.

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By *IPMANMan
2 weeks ago

West London

You can tell if its a gay bar, we all have 2 heads

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By *eedsbearmanMan
2 weeks ago

Leeds

"You can tell if its a gay bar, we all have 2 heads"

And a third leg

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By *oetCouple (MM)
2 weeks ago

Mansfield

"Can't say I've ever been to a gay bar. Nor know where they are. I'm sure they won't have a sign saying so, so how do people know it is one? "

As Film 4s Beutuful Thing says, usually the pink plastic ass in the window gives game away! As does a mile of Rainbow flags.

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By *ndrewukMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire......

"Can't say I've ever been to a gay bar as I wouldn't know where they are and I'm sure they won't have a sign saying gay bar so how do people know if its one and how do you find out where they are.

Would Google list them ?

I would love to go to one just to see if it's different to any other bar and see if anyone comes over to chat knowing I'm a stranger"

Try The Liverpool Arms (the LA) at the top of Northgate Street by the city walls in Chester

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By *eginer96Man
2 weeks ago

Kildare, Naas, Newbridge

Never been to the gay bar, and I know Never will be. But it's one of my dreams, be there, meet some guys, have some action!

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By *lan82Man
2 weeks ago

North Hykeham, Lincoln

Never been in a gay bar..

.. I walked past one once..

.. on the way to the hospital..

.. THAT was a GREAT six weeks off of work

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By *hubbyGinger76Man
2 weeks ago

Halesowen

I'm heading into Birmingham tomorrow night to Hurst street, which bars do you recommend?

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By *LASGOW 60s GUYMan
2 weeks ago

Visiting

I can't see what all the fuss is about. All because a bar is 'Gay' or 'Gay Friendly' doesn't mean it is a knocking shop. Gay men, like me, go to a non threatening bar to have a drink - it doesn't mean I'm there looking for an arse to pound. If it happens well, good but that is not the reason I go there

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By *gly duck cdTV/TS
2 weeks ago

middlesbrough

No different to any other bar , they just make sure everyone is included, and you might get better cheesy music .

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By *opowMan
2 weeks ago

Stratford-upon-Avon

I used to go to gay bars in Birmingham a lot, 25 years ago. But hardly ever got chatted up. I had just arrived back in England and was in need of friendship. I still remember the profound loneliness. Gay society can be cliquey and frankly hostile.

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By *otcleanguyMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester

Gay bars can be fun but still lot of faffing around before hookup happens. I do go to the bathroom early and almost always there's either people playing .... oral more so fun to watch lol

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Bedford

"I used to go to gay bars in Birmingham a lot, 25 years ago. But hardly ever got chatted up. I had just arrived back in England and was in need of friendship. I still remember the profound loneliness. Gay society can be cliquey and frankly hostile."
so true and try going in one wearing a dress if looks could kill xx

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
2 weeks ago

North East

I just sit at a table facing the door so I can see whoever comes in and out and wait until I find the right person to start up a conversation with

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By *ickenthusiastMan
2 weeks ago

Norwich

"Why would anyone expect a gay bar to be wildly different than a straight bar, and why are women obsessed with going ?

It’s because they get hit on relentlessly in straight bars. Gay bars have their creeps as well, they just tend to have their attention elsewhere.

I enjoyed a lot of Londons gay scene, but your average local gay pub tends to be ‘what if pub, but worse beer and Madonna on a loop’ which, nah, you good.

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By *ometimes cd300Man
2 weeks ago

leics

Very well known gay pub in Leicester. Used to go quite often when in Leicester but not been in for a few years now. Was always a nice atmosphere and not always about hooking up. But occasionally did.

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By *ildwestheroMan
2 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

Up until a few years ago most towns had a gay bar or at least a gay friendly pub. Usually with gay owners. Don't seem to be many about anymore outside big cities. Also a lot seemed to be taken over by straight couples and gangs of girls [real girls that is] on a girly night out.

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By *lexieMan
2 weeks ago

Just north of Southampton

"Can't say I've ever been to a gay bar as I wouldn't know where they are and I'm sure they won't have a sign saying gay bar so how do people know if its one and how do you find out where they are.

Would Google list them ?

I would love to go to one just to see if it's different to any other bar and see if anyone comes over to chat knowing I'm a stranger"

The lonesome stranger, sat in a bar with a big surprise in his pocket! There's a country & western song in their somewhere!

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By *ames2065Man
2 weeks ago

Linton

When I was young as part of my A levels a group us went to the theatre in London to see the play we were studying. As 18 year olds we went to the pub. What a place, everyone was so friendly, us lads were bought drinks and it was a lot of fun. We had to go, said our goodbyes. Once out we realised we had been in a gay pub, in our naivety we had no idea.

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By *owerplay823Man
2 weeks ago

Old Town

Love to visit one

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By *exacumMan
2 weeks ago

Bedlington

There’s a great gay bar in Newcastle I go to now and again called the Eagle, strictly men only, it’s so good to just hang out with other gay men. There’s an area downstairs for those that feel a bit more adventurous…

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By *heffbagMan
2 weeks ago

Rotherham

"Why would anyone expect a gay bar to be wildly different than a straight bar, and why are women obsessed with going ?

Wish there was a bar of any description that banned sport, television and kids"

Most Wetherspoons to be fair

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
2 weeks ago

North East

"There’s a great gay bar in Newcastle I go to now and again called the Eagle, strictly men only, it’s so good to just hang out with other gay men. There’s an area downstairs for those that feel a bit more adventurous…"

Great bar 👌

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By *exualCumeleon OP Man
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

Well as I have got the courage up to go in I might as well go up to someone on their own and chat with them, as that is what I was after. It was just like a normal pub apart from the glitter gold stage and mirror ball.#watchouthurststreet

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By *V ShazTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Haydock

I agree getting d*unk is exactly the same in any bar.. men in straight pubs after a few drinks all turn to looking for cock

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By *IPMANMan
2 weeks ago

West London

I remember when straight bars used to think they could have a "gay night" once a week when it was a slack night and charge what they could get away with for some dreary old drag queen

We stayed away in droves. Fuck that...

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By *ildwestheroMan
2 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

Going back 30+ years I used to take mini-breaks [long weekends] in cities or resorts that had notable gay scenes. Quite enjoyed going to gay bars and venues. Of course I had an ulterior motive and invariably took someone back to my hotel room or accompanied them to their home. Then it started getting confusing. Too many straight people. Got chatted up once by a couple of women who wouldn't believe I was gay. On another occasion got talking to this really hot guy. Thought I was in there until his wife turned up!

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By *udi222Man
2 weeks ago

Harrogate

A few years ago, when I was merely 'curious' rather than active i was propositioned by a guy having a smoke outside gay bar/pub in Leeds. I was too shy & nervous to stay and chat and politely declined. I regretted it almost instantly and a few minutes later went into the bar to look for him. Sadly he'd disappeared and i'd missed an opportunity for my first gay sexual encounter. His offer still gets me hard even now.

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By *ikeyMIKEYMan
2 weeks ago

Bournemouth

The once in Bournemouth have flags outside

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By *aster islandMan
2 weeks ago

navan

I'm the only gay in my local

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By *MZ10458Man
2 weeks ago

rotherham

There is but its in York

No mobiles or computers either

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By *ubtitsMan
2 weeks ago

hyde

Been to a few pubs in the gay village manchester much the same as any pub in the daytime tbh

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By *rCurious75Man
2 weeks ago

Ashby de la Zouch

"Gay bars can be fun but still lot of faffing around before hookup happens. I do go to the bathroom early and almost always there's either people playing .... oral more so fun to watch lol"

Doesn’t sound like a lot of faff to me.

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By *ottomInBrumMan
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

I've been into all sorts of gay bars over the years. Some were more cruisy than others whilst some were no different any other bar.

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By *ano2000Man
2 weeks ago

Sheffield

"I've been to many a gay bar

But I've never been to me x

And sipped champagne on a yacht..? 🍾 "

But did you ever move like Harlow in Monte Carlo?

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By *arriedleedsMan
2 weeks ago

leeds

Used to sneak off regularly in Leeds to gay bars usually the New Penny and act either as I am it camp it up slightly. Always got cock

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By *ightbumholeMan
2 weeks ago

Halifax

Neither have I, probably prefer a pub. Unless it’s a hotel bar etc.

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By *erynew321Man
2 weeks ago

Portsmouth

I wouldn't know where there is one in my city lol

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

did a few shifts in the new union, Mcr many years ago.

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
2 weeks ago

North East

Wouldn’t mind working in a Gay Bar

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

was nice, no different from any other bar. Was openly bi but didn't make the most of it

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By *radford guyMan
2 weeks ago

BRADFORD

Went to a gay pub caught my mate wanking himself in the toilet

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
2 weeks ago

North East

"was nice, no different from any other bar. Was openly bi but didn't make the most of it"

Great way to talk to like minded guys mind

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

nice times and nice people, never copped off while I was working there, was too shy at the time maybe.

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

got passed a printed note from a bloke once saying "I fancy you, here's my number" but no meither at all generally

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
2 weeks ago

North East

"nice times and nice people, never copped off while I was working there, was too shy at the time maybe. "

Tbh the gay bars are a great place to go if you want a night out without the possibility of trouble

Like I said I think it would be a canny little job especially if enjoy meeting and chatting to people

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

Will have to try a night out in the gay village again...

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By *ugged NorthernerMan
2 weeks ago

North East

"Will have to try a night out in the gay village again..."

Been ages since I went for a night out on the Gay scene

Soho in London is one of the best places I’ve been the bars are great I’m definitely going to have to plan a weekend trip again soon

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

The thing I don't get in a gay bar as a pose to online where you say what you want, is how do blokes know for sure the other bloke is a top or bottom?

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By *IPMANMan
2 weeks ago

West London

There are no guarantees in life..

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

ok, I know it could go either way, is the answer

cheers X

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By *ridayguyMan
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

was going to say but if a friend was dead set on a top or a bottom, but then second guessed myself as they would have a chat..

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