FabGuys.com forum: Rude users on fab

By *ancashire Guy OP Man
4 days ago

Blackpool

I know this has may be done over and over on here but..... Is it just me or are fab'ers getting very rude....?

Lost track amount of profiles I've read, you think I'm what there looking for or want. So spend a while typing message, just for it to be read and not repiled to or you just get blocked

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By *agedinknickersMan
4 days ago

Downham Market

Thing is though - is it rude? Or just not wasting time replying if they're not interested and by doing so avoiding a further message asking "why" or trying to persuade them to change their mind.

They didn't ask you to send that message, so is it right for you to expect them to respond?

The way I always used to think of it when I was on FabSwingers was like those leaflets you get through the door from pizza companies - do you reply to each of those telling them you're not interested in their 12" offering? This is no different really.

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By *lummoxedMan
4 days ago

North West

From the site FAQ (which I'm sure absolutely everyone has read.../s)

"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!"

It's not rude not to reply.

Some people get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you can safely assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *ancashire Guy OP Man
4 days ago

Blackpool

I know what you both saying but, it's a hookup-chat site. if you dont want to reply - engage even if jsut a quick no thanks your not what we are after then why you here?

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
4 days ago

Bedford

Its rude to moan about people not replying. Its not mandatory xx

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By *agedinknickersMan
4 days ago

Downham Market

They may not be here to "hook up" or chat - they may have fairly set criteria of what they're looking for that the person contacting them hasn't taken note of or any number of other reasons.

Rather that getting upset about it, or calling it rude, the best thing you can do is accept that as the FAQs say no reply is as good as saying "no thanks" and move on

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By *ippBiManMan
4 days ago

South Tipp

Sadly I think it's becoming more and more common recently that people are seriously lacking in basic manners.

Some contact you with simply rude one liners,then moan about it when you ignore their rude and usually badly spelled message.

Then you have the other ones who you message politely because you think you'd be a good match because of interests and location and they just read your message and ignore it. They're usually the ones then who are on the forum saying the sites gone to hell and they can't get a hook up 🙄

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
4 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

When you reply no thanks you get the inevitable replies asking why, then you reply explaining why only to be met with another reply trying to convince you.

I don't have time for all this back n forth so if I'm not interested I simply don't reply.

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By *nexperiencedsubbtmMan
4 days ago

hereford

Yes it is hugely rude.

There is never ever ever an excuse to open a message and not reply.

No im not needy or have a huge ego, i just believe in treating people with respect

And no just because gab swingers says "no reply is a polite no" it is not. Fab cannot change the meaning of words!

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By *xplore moreTV/TS
4 days ago

cockermouth

I reply to the best of my ability, I get hundreds per day. As said above a simple no thanks is often met with "well why" or "try me ill be the best you've had"

And if I say no thanks again then some guys get the hump and hurl abuse! So I'd rather not open that door too many times.

So for that reason, I'm out.

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
4 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

"Yes it is hugely rude.

There is never ever ever an excuse to open a message and not reply.

No im not needy or have a huge ego, i just believe in treating people with respect

And no just because gab swingers says "no reply is a polite no" it is not. Fab cannot change the meaning of words!

Would you have the time to reply to 30 - 50 messages per day only to be met with another reply when you say no?

Cos I don't

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By *eedsbearmanMan
4 days ago

Leeds

"Its rude to moan about people not replying. Its not mandatory xx "

Very succint and very true x

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By *eedsbearmanMan
4 days ago

Leeds

"When you reply no thanks you get the inevitable replies asking why, then you reply explaining why only to be met with another reply trying to convince you.

I don't have time for all this back n forth so if I'm not interested I simply don't reply."

Exactly.

If I don't reply, I'm not interested, take the hint. Or don't.

I can assure you I have a million and one things that actually matter to me than someone offended by me not replying.

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By *wej1Man
4 days ago

Grantham

No reply is a reply,people need to accept this and move on

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By *ayPonty1Man
4 days ago

Pontypridd

Saying 'no thanks' doesn't hurt. If they can't be arsed to be basically a decent person then I won't be towards them.

Same goes for no-shows. It doesn't hurt to message that you're not coming.

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
4 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

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By *DFmateMan
4 days ago

Cardiff Bay

I seem to get the same person messaging multiple times. Sometimes days or weeks apart. If I’ve replied no the first time, the 2nd, 3rd or 4th message just get deleted.

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By *excessMan
4 days ago

Sleaford

I had a guy who is 40 years old, whose pics are obviously filtered to death and has bunny ears on his profile pics asking why I don't fancy him!!

I didn't reply and he totally failed to acknowledge despite my prompting that the 3 hour drive between us might be an issue, even If I did want to meet him.

He doesn't deserve my time!

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By *irtyoldguyMan
4 days ago

Stockport

Hit the block button. Easy.

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By *ancashire Guy OP Man
4 days ago

Blackpool

I can understand why they dont repley if my message-profile it's a fit for the other party. When I belive where a match and I do what they ask etc in there profile, puting the odd key word in they ask for and they still don;t even repley.

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By *ndieguyMan
4 days ago

Marton, Gainsborough

Im coming to realise im wasting my time with another guy on here. Turing out to be bloody ignorant. Such a shame.. poor bugger must have issues. He must have seen TWAT written across my forehead. Still life's goes on...

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By *os001Man
4 days ago

Oxford

Agree with the OP, saying no thanks takes no time at all.

To me it comes across as lazy or too self centred. I guess in the long run, you've probably dodged a wrong un. 😂

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By *upertedMan
4 days ago

Nelson

I can only share positive feedback.

I cannot say the last time someone was rude on here. I'll always message someone if they appear local. I also onky message those who pass my criteria and most say no thanks.

I then block so I don't drop them a line again in future.

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
4 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
4 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

"Agree with the OP, saying no thanks takes no time at all.

To me it comes across as lazy or too self centred. I guess in the long run, you've probably dodged a wrong un. 😂"

If you only get a couple of messages a day, then yes it takes no time at all.

But for us tgirls we easily get upwards of 50 messages per day and it's simply not feasible to reply to everyone.

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By *xplore moreTV/TS
4 days ago

cockermouth

"[Removed by poster at 14/06/26 23:05:52]"

Come on holly spell check your posts! It's feesable not feedable

Or you'll have the spelling police after your ass! 😂🤭🤭😘

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By *erdyHollyTV/TS
4 days ago

In a galaxy far far away

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Come on holly spell check your posts! It's feesable not feedable

Or you'll have the spelling police after your ass! 😂🤭🤭😘 "

Fucking autocorrect

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By *jp HungMan
4 days ago

Ferryhill Northeast. /visiting if south

I've tried the no thankyou message and sometimes you get a polite reply back. But sometimes you get a barrage of abuse followed by a block. So I decided not to bother replying as its easier.

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By *oodpeckerMan
4 days ago

Falkirk

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By *elljelMan
4 days ago

clacton/harlow

They’re either not interested- or gone off the boil- it’s really not that deep ( not saying it’s not disappointing) it’s a supply & demand situation

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By *elljelMan
4 days ago

clacton/harlow

"They’re either not interested- or gone off the boil- it’s really not that deep ( not saying it’s not disappointing) it’s a supply & demand situation "
plus there’s a serious lag on here with messages going through (or not) so the moments passed

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By *oodpeckerMan
4 days ago

Falkirk

"Yes it is hugely rude.

There is never ever ever an excuse to open a message and not reply.

No im not needy or have a huge ego, i just believe in treating people with respect

And no just because gab swingers says "no reply is a polite no" it is not. Fab cannot change the meaning of words!"

No, it's not even remotely rude.

An excuse for not replying after opening a message is never needed.

I don't have a 'huge ego' and I believe in treating people with respect (which includes not labelling people as rude, simply because they disagree with me).

"Fab cannot change the meaning of words" (generally don't try to) and neither can users!

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By *gly duck cdTV/TS
4 days ago

middlesbrough

From personal experience of hitting page 1 regularly in hot pics , the volume of messages can be excessively high , people only get a limited number of messages so why waste them if you’re not interested, no reply saves abuse same as blocking someone you’re not interested in .

I can understand some are eager to reply if they only get a few messages but when you’ve posted a picture and got 400-500 in the first hour you start and look at replies differently

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By *xxkinkycoupleCouple (MM)
4 days ago

Alcester

Junk mail is junk mail… whether from a hotel I once stayed in, or a theatre I once saw a show in, or from someone just trying to sell me pizza… or from some guy who’s wanting to hook up (and, in every likelihood, has not read my profile).

The problem is not with guys ignoring messages, but senders thinking they deserve an answer. Junk mail is junk mail.

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By *ie Vliegende GeordieMan
3 days ago

stockie

I’m simply staggered that people get hundreds of messages per day!

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By *cotsguybordersMan
3 days ago

Scottish Borders

Plenty on here with no basic manners; simply hit block. Far too many fantasists and timewasters. Obviously some have nothing else to do with their time, sadly.

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By *rowserMan
3 days ago

East Kent

Men who often message having ignored my age and non-smoking preferences don't deserve any reply.

A courteous appreciative message will though get a reply whether I'm interested or not.

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By *ezzadMan
3 days ago

Benidorm

If someone bothers to put a bit of effort into a message, I’ll reply even if it’s no, for whatever reason. I’m not spending ages explaining my decision though.

Often “hi” gets ignored as do winks.

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By *ickenthusiastMan
3 days ago

Norwich

If a message is generally pleasant and someone has put the effort in and I'm not interested, I'll say so. That describes an alarmingly small percentage of the messages.

If a guy doesn't match my preferences, and has just messaged 'hey', I assume he's just spraying and praying messages far and wide. I don't feel too bad about not responding to those. Nor the one's where someone is clearly 4/5ths of the way through a wank and has vomited a badly spelled word cloud at my inbox.

Sad thing is, while rare, enough guys take me not being interested as some deep offence that must be repaid in kind. So now I'm very much in the 'no answer is an answer' camp.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 days ago

"Agree with the OP, saying no thanks takes no time at all.

To me it comes across as lazy or too self centred. I guess in the long run, you've probably dodged a wrong un. 😂

If you only get a couple of messages a day, then yes it takes no time at all.

But for us tgirls we easily get upwards of 50 messages per day and it's simply not feasible to reply to everyone."

Completely agree, it takes a lot of time to go through the all the “hi” messages.

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By *rMagicFingersMan
3 days ago

Bournemouth

"I’m simply staggered that people get hundreds of messages per day!"

Those people being TVs/TS. Gay guys are very much out of favour here these days, sadly.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 days ago

We seem to fulfil all the wife fantasies on here but I actually like men, even in guy mode I’m gay. But putting on some lippy and a wig does get more attention

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By *hubsloverMan
3 days ago

East/west sussex

"I know this has may be done over and over on here but..... Is it just me or are fab'ers getting very rude....?

Lost track amount of profiles I've read, you think I'm what there looking for or want. So spend a while typing message, just for it to be read and not replied to or you just get blocked "

I often responded to them with a thank you, even when I wasn't interested. However, the messages continued endlessly, so I realised that not replying was the best option. It wastes both our time and leads nowhere. You may call me rude, but those tennis messages are overwhelming, and I choose not to engage. I only respond to messages that could lead to a future meet-up.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot

"When you reply no thanks you get the inevitable replies asking why, then you reply explaining why only to be met with another reply trying to convince you.

I don't have time for all this back n forth so if I'm not interested I simply don't reply."

^ This, nail on the head, sadly a lot of guys on here don't want to accept a simple no thanks, they are far too special to be turned down.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 days ago

What I do find, not so much rude, but annoying is when you don’t reply but then you get follow on messages which are just question marks or sometimes abuse.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot

"What I do find, not so much rude, but annoying is when you don’t reply but then you get follow on messages which are just question marks or sometimes abuse. "

Yeah some seem to think you have nothing else to do and get impatient if after 2 minutes you haven't replied.

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By *eedsbearmanMan
3 days ago

Leeds

"What I do find, not so much rude, but annoying is when you don’t reply but then you get follow on messages which are just question marks or sometimes abuse.

Yeah some seem to think you have nothing else to do and get impatient if after 2 minutes you haven't replied."

Yep had this so many times recently. Instant block.

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By *lexieMan
3 days ago

Just north of Southampton

"Sadly I think it's becoming more and more common recently that people are seriously lacking in basic manners.

Some contact you with simply rude one liners,then moan about it when you ignore their rude and usually badly spelled message.

Not answering unsolicited mail is quite acceptable and should not be considered a slant! FAB has a facility for an introduction to a stranger on here... it's called a 'Wink'... just send one to whoever ever you have an interest in. The recipient will see it, check out your profile and reply to you if they have an interest. If they are not interested, they won't respond... no harm done!

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By *wansmickMan
3 days ago

Belfast

I reply to the best of my ability. Often on say a phone fun post there will be a dozen l so replies, most of them when you are actually already on a call. I try to get back later with "sorry I missed you" but sometimes some slip through and don't get answered.

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By *andysmithTV/TS
3 days ago

Poole

Rudeness is a relative.

ie. if you meet an Inuit and don't rub noses as a greeting you are considered rude.

Rudeness is only what you call rude, I cannot read your mind and thefore I do not know what you consider is rude. You have decided from your experiences, education and culture what is rude. I have different experiences, culture and education. However I do not consider you rude, just different, I do not take offence I just explain my feelings and differences to you from my perspective.

Rudeness is relative, get over it.

Miss Smith 💋💋💋

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By *andysmithTV/TS
3 days ago

Poole

Just to correct my post on rudeness, rudeness is one of a number of relatives, and, the "you" I was refering to was a "you" in general and not you.

I do not intend any offence.

Miss Smith 💋💋💋

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By *iley_Starr115TV/TS
3 days ago

Glasgow

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By *amelaXTV/TS
3 days ago

Swindon

"When you reply no thanks you get the inevitable replies asking why, then you reply explaining why only to be met with another reply trying to convince you.

I don't have time for all this back n forth so if I'm not interested I simply don't reply."

This exactly ☝️

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By *iley_Starr115TV/TS
3 days ago

Glasgow

I'm rude to people that deserve it. There's too many idiots and timewasters on here. Think you're entitled to my time just because you said hey?

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By *andysmithTV/TS
3 days ago

Poole

Look through the messages on this thread and there are differences as to what people perceived as rude.

You decide what is rude.

Don't let it bother you just accept differences in people and move on.

If you understand that rudeness is what is known as a relative you will lower your blood pressure and stress levels and find your health improves.

Miss Smith 💋💋💋

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By *ose_QuartzTV/TS
3 days ago

Berkshire

Like many have mentioned above it’s impossible to reply to everyone. I specifically mention quite a few times in my profile to only contact me if you meet my criteria but more often than not it will get ignored lol. So personally I don’t think it’s rude or being bad mannered.

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By *rTee69Man
3 days ago

Having got a bit fed up of the "didnt want to meet you anyway you fat/old/small cock bastard" or similar replies when offering a polite "not for me thanks", I tend to delete more than reply these days.

Is it rude? No.

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By *xLedZepxx2Man
3 days ago

Didcot

"I specifically mention quite a few times in my profile to only contact me if you meet my criteria but more often than not it will get ignored lol. "

Ah but there's the problem, you are assuming guys on here read profiles and also missing the fact that many on here think they are so special that your criteria doesn't apply to them, you simply must have sex with them regardless because you are missing out if you don't

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By *obeitthenMan
3 days ago

scunthorpe

Shame

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