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"Actually, given the timing of it, I wonder if that was the real reason they banned those type of comments and threads, and asked us to report any we saw - because there were probably journalists on here looking for evidence " Or perhaps more likely because this is a site for men to meet men, not a site for bisexual men to discuss their wives and girlfriends or in some cases invite members to have sex with said wives and girlfriends. | |||
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"... Which they suddenly decided to enforce round about the time this story was being investigated, after being OK with it for years and years " They've enforced it for some time now however it is reliant on members reporting such threads. | |||
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"... Which they suddenly decided to enforce round about the time this story was being investigated, after being OK with it for years and years They've enforced it for some time now however it is reliant on members reporting such threads." It was a small cohort of men on here, who consistently posted about wife chat, eventually they left or were banned from the forums and the number of posts has dropped dramatically | |||
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" It was a small cohort of men on here, who consistently posted about wife chat, eventually they left or were banned from the forums and the number of posts has dropped dramatically " Yes, though these types of thread still appear, mainly on the Introductions board. The mods clamped down because of complaints and also because the site owners want to protect their own interests ie not getting this site shut down. The mods can't be everywhere and it is still reliant on members to report threads that break the rules. | |||
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"... Which they suddenly decided to enforce round about the time this story was being investigated, after being OK with it for years and years They've enforced it for some time now however it is reliant on members reporting such threads. It was a small cohort of men on here, who consistently posted about wife chat, eventually they left or were banned from the forums and the number of posts has dropped dramatically " Thankfully | |||
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"funny isnt it that the bbc like exposing things like this but when it comes to saville, edwards and others they close ranks and do nothing." Which makes it all ok? | |||
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"600k members More than I thought £££ " is that including the American site ? | |||
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"Some conversations take a seriously worrying turn in private with members on here. Had to block quite a few" yes and some don't know when they cross the line, or they do but just don't care | |||
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"I wonder how many closeted men may have been victims via here but wont report due to fear of being outed. I bet its worryingly high too" Victims of what? | |||
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"I wonder how many closeted men may have been victims via here but wont report due to fear of being outed. I bet its worryingly high too Victims of what?" Of cohesive abuse. I wouldn't be surprised if some men on any website like this had been somewhat forced into doing stuff they normally would not. | |||
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"It's a horrible situation for her but I don't think you can blame the website. He would have found other avenues to try and manipulate her into doing it. I will agree the moderation over there is bad though and needs to improve. It's pretty poor. " Yeah it's not the website to blame, but any site such as this geared for sex alone will stray into those realms potentially without really strong rule enforcement and better reporting | |||
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"Actually, given the timing of it, I wonder if that was the real reason they banned those type of comments and threads, and asked us to report any we saw - because there were probably journalists on here looking for evidence Or perhaps more likely because this is a site for men to meet men, not a site for bisexual men to discuss their wives and girlfriends or in some cases invite members to have sex with said wives and girlfriends." ...but it is a site for bisexual men....didn't you know...? | |||
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"funny isnt it that the bbc like exposing things like this but when it comes to saville, edwards and others they close ranks and do nothing." Damn right, well said. | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story." I have visited couples and the women really didn't seem a willing party. Always made my excuses and left if it did not feel right. Unfortunately, it feels like I would be in the minority in doing that. | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story. I have visited couples and the women really didn't seem a willing party. Always made my excuses and left if it did not feel right. Unfortunately, it feels like I would be in the minority in doing that. " Yeah there's a really worrying statement in the BBC article about it: Martin, not his real name, has never met Ruth. He says he has used the site for years and has had sex with about 50 people through it, mostly married women whose husbands wanted to watch. More than half the women from couples he has met did not want to take part, he believes. On one occasion, he says, he saw fear in a woman's eyes when she told him her husband was about to come in and film. "I should have walked away," he says, crying. "I should have reported it straight away." In another encounter, he says, a woman appeared to have been "badgered into it". Her husband and another man were encouraging him to continue, he says. We ask him directly whether, in that moment, he felt like he had been r***ng someone. "Yes," he says. | |||
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" but it is a site for bisexual men....didn't you know...?" I didn't say it wasn't a site for bisexual men, I said it wasn't a site for bisexual men to discuss their wives and girlfriends in a sexual way or invite other site members to have sex with said wives and girlfriends. | |||
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" https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c87q7g48y4po I've seen plenty of comments on here from men who don't seem bothered about consent when it comes to their own wives. And about how to get their wives to take part. And how they have forced their wives into doing something she had said no to. At least the recent rule change about posting this kind of comment has stopped bragging rights about non consentual sex " I have never seen any comments on here about a man FORCING his wife into doing something she didn’t want to. Apart from the fact that the mods would strike it out if they saw it, I don’t think any man in here would say that and - if you have seen such comments why have you not reported them ? | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story. I have visited couples and the women really didn't seem a willing party. Always made my excuses and left if it did not feel right. Unfortunately, it feels like I would be in the minority in doing that. Yeah there's a really worrying statement in the BBC article about it: Martin, not his real name, has never met Ruth. He says he has used the site for years and has had sex with about 50 people through it, mostly married women whose husbands wanted to watch. More than half the women from couples he has met did not want to take part, he believes. On one occasion, he says, he saw fear in a woman's eyes when she told him her husband was about to come in and film. "I should have walked away," he says, crying. "I should have reported it straight away." In another encounter, he says, a woman appeared to have been "badgered into it". Her husband and another man were encouraging him to continue, he says. We ask him directly whether, in that moment, he felt like he had been r***ng someone. "Yes," he says." I suppose this is the only way some men can have sex with a woman. | |||
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"funny isnt it that the bbc like exposing things like this but when it comes to saville, edwards and others they close ranks and do nothing." Absolutely. The BBC seems to have a lot of paedophiles on their / our payroll. | |||
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"funny isnt it that the bbc like exposing things like this but when it comes to saville, edwards and others they close ranks and do nothing." So they shouldn't report it? I always find it hilarious when GB News fans bring up Saville. It's over 15 years ago now, meaning there's a complete new generation of journalists working there. Can they not report on news stories now? | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story. I have visited couples and the women really didn't seem a willing party. Always made my excuses and left if it did not feel right. Unfortunately, it feels like I would be in the minority in doing that. Yeah there's a really worrying statement in the BBC article about it: Martin, not his real name, has never met Ruth. He says he has used the site for years and has had sex with about 50 people through it, mostly married women whose husbands wanted to watch. More than half the women from couples he has met did not want to take part, he believes. On one occasion, he says, he saw fear in a woman's eyes when she told him her husband was about to come in and film. "I should have walked away," he says, crying. "I should have reported it straight away." In another encounter, he says, a woman appeared to have been "badgered into it". Her husband and another man were encouraging him to continue, he says. We ask him directly whether, in that moment, he felt like he had been r***ng someone. "Yes," he says." Sounds made up to me. | |||
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"funny isnt it that the bbc like exposing things like this but when it comes to saville, edwards and others they close ranks and do nothing. Which makes it all ok?" The current BBC is totally woke and run by women for women! Can someone... in the name of equality, explain to me why there is an hours program called 'Womans Hour' on radio Four every week day, and has been for years; yet no equivalent program for men? Sexist or what!  | |||
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"Without consent none of any of this can be fun. And if it's not fun then what's the point?" I don't know about fabswingers, never been on there... but it does astound me sometimes about some of the attitudes on here... I know it takes all sorts, but some of the lude/crude attitudes and debased acts some bods get up to on here make my jaw drop sometimes! Perhaps I don't get out enough?  | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story." Sorry but that’s bollocks. We used to be members of fab and were regular visitors to a swingers club and we used to see it all the time, women turning up already d*unk to “get in the mood” or going with other women because their partner wanted to watch. | |||
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"Without consent none of any of this can be fun. And if it's not fun then what's the point? I don't know about fabswingers, never been on there... but it does astound me sometimes about some of the attitudes on here... I know it takes all sorts, but some of the lude/crude attitudes and debased acts some bods get up to on here make my jaw drop sometimes! Perhaps I don't get out enough? "Funny that. This site always seems very vanilla to me. Sure plenty of silly dreamers will tell you they are up for doing this or that but they invariably disappear after a couple of messages. Reality is the vast majority on here either never meet, or if they do it’s all pretty tame . | |||
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"funny isnt it that the bbc like exposing things like this but when it comes to saville, edwards and others they close ranks and do nothing. Which makes it all ok? The current BBC is totally woke and run by women for women! Can someone... in the name of equality, explain to me why there is an hours program called 'Womans Hour' on radio Four every week day, and has been for years; yet no equivalent program for men? Sexist or what! "I'm assuming this is satire. This is satire, right? | |||
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"funny isnt it that the bbc like exposing things like this but when it comes to saville, edwards and others they close ranks and do nothing." Exactly spot on  | |||
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"If there's a police investigation Fabswingers would probably have to hand over all user information. " Presumably, all messages are kept even if deleted by users | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story. Sorry but that’s bollocks. We used to be members of fab and were regular visitors to a swingers club and we used to see it all the time, women turning up already d*unk to “get in the mood” or going with other women because their partner wanted to watch." I very much doubt that Been to manyswingers clubs and parties around the northwest when I had my female partner Also have a current profile on fab. I only twice thought I saw a woman who wasn’t really into it. Most of them also loved playing with other women either separately or in a foursome and didn’t need to be pushed by their man. The vast majority of couples on fab - those who genuinely meet of course and not the fakes - are both genuinely into swinging. | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story. Sorry but that’s bollocks. We used to be members of fab and were regular visitors to a swingers club and we used to see it all the time, women turning up already d*unk to “get in the mood” or going with other women because their partner wanted to watch. I very much doubt that Been to manyswingers clubs and parties around the northwest when I had my female partner Also have a current profile on fab. I only twice thought I saw a woman who wasn’t really into it. Most of them also loved playing with other women either separately or in a foursome and didn’t need to be pushed by their man. The vast majority of couples on fab - those who genuinely meet of course and not the fakes - are both genuinely into swinging. " Did you go there to watch your partner with other men? Is that what most of the men want? | |||
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"Sorry to say this, but I think the lady doth protest too loudly. It’s always someone else’s fault, and too easy to claim coercion or duress. I know many will disagree, but there’s two sides to every story. Sorry but that’s bollocks. We used to be members of fab and were regular visitors to a swingers club and we used to see it all the time, women turning up already d*unk to “get in the mood” or going with other women because their partner wanted to watch. I very much doubt that Been to manyswingers clubs and parties around the northwest when I had my female partner Also have a current profile on fab. I only twice thought I saw a woman who wasn’t really into it. Most of them also loved playing with other women either separately or in a foursome and didn’t need to be pushed by their man. The vast majority of couples on fab - those who genuinely meet of course and not the fakes - are both genuinely into swinging. Did you go there to watch your partner with other men? Is that what most of the men want?" No we both played with the other couples and swapped partners Some couples do go to find single men but not us Most of the single men are looking for a couple who want men, or the occasional single woman who wants men. Some women do gangbangs in clubs and take on all comers. | |||
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"What happens offsite - whether here or fabswingers - the site has no control over. Yes they can monitor content, messages, images but once any of us move onto other apps, its out of Fabs hands. Its like blaming Ford if you're run over by one of thier make of car. " You could blame a manufacturer, for example, with regard to you're analogy, if the brakes or steering were of a substandard design or manufacture! | |||
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"There's a full 5 part series on BBC Sounds now titled Swingers... 1st ep focuses on Fabswingers, haven't listened to it all yet. I presume the slot on Woman's Hour yesterday was a way to promote the series as well." That as well, but mainly just another opportunity at 'man bashing', which is what 'Womans Hour' does! The BBC should balance this show by having a 'Mans Hour'! | |||
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"There's a full 5 part series on BBC Sounds now titled Swingers... 1st ep focuses on Fabswingers, haven't listened to it all yet. I presume the slot on Woman's Hour yesterday was a way to promote the series as well. That as well, but mainly just another opportunity at 'man bashing', which is what 'Womans Hour' does! The BBC should balance this show by having a 'Mans Hour'!" The fact you don't realise why there is a show called woman's hour is telling. | |||
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"Did i hear correctly in the item on the BBC news that the Lady said she went a 100 times AND organised some meetings. Hummmmmmm. " She was certainly busy | |||
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"There's a full 5 part series on BBC Sounds now titled Swingers... 1st ep focuses on Fabswingers, haven't listened to it all yet. That as well, but mainly just another opportunity at 'man bashing', which is what 'Womans Hour' does! The BBC should balance this show by having a 'Mans Hour'!" I presume the slot on Woman's Hour yesterday was a way to promote the series as well. Woman's hour has been on radio 4 for decades. It's a good listen, I've listened to it for over 20 years. Cannot recall any man bashing, or anything like that. Perhaps you should listen to it, and then make your criticism | |||
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"I used to be on fab with my fwb we meet lots of couples and everyone was relaxed and had fun Some meets we all played with each other iv fucked both females and the hubby at 1 meet lots of times the wives loved seeing there hubby blow me was all fun" I think the issue with the lady in the series was more to do with the relationship she was having and the coercion by her then boyfriend/partner. It might be construed that Fabswingers facilitated the meets that they had, but I think it was more about his coercion of her. Fabswingers didn't make him or make her do anything, they used Fabswingers to find others. The consent between him, her and any others that they met via the site is a matter for them and is not the direct responsibility of Fabswingers. That doesn't excuse what happened to her. | |||
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"Did i hear correctly in the item on the BBC news that the Lady said she went a 100 times AND organised some meetings. Hummmmmmm. " "I'll do it now, have some fun... then complain that l was abused by those orrible men things and even maybe get some compensation dosh!" | |||
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"There's a full 5 part series on BBC Sounds now titled Swingers... 1st ep focuses on Fabswingers, haven't listened to it all yet. That as well, but mainly just another opportunity at 'man bashing', which is what 'Womans Hour' does! The BBC should balance this show by having a 'Mans Hour'!I presume the slot on Woman's Hour yesterday was a way to promote the series as well. Woman's hour has been on radio 4 for decades. It's a good listen, I've listened to it for over 20 years. Cannot recall any man bashing, or anything like that. Perhaps you should listen to it, and then make your criticism" i do... and it's patently pro womens propaganda at mens exspence! Their needs to be balance by having a similar program for men or scrap this slanted sexist womans tosh! Equality, eh! | |||
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"There's a full 5 part series on BBC Sounds now titled Swingers... 1st ep focuses on Fabswingers, haven't listened to it all yet. I presume the slot on Woman's Hour yesterday was a way to promote the series as well. That as well, but mainly just another opportunity at 'man bashing', which is what 'Womans Hour' does! The BBC should balance this show by having a 'Mans Hour'! The fact you don't realise why there is a show called woman's hour is telling. " | |||
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