FabGuys.com forum: Friendship is underrated

By *onmouthshireMale OP Man
13 weeks ago

usk

So a lot of us on here are bi , many are married including myself and don't want to change that.

But one thing I need and I believe others do is someone to chat to about your other life ...

Now maybe this is a friend with benefits or maybe just someone you can talk to send a message to knowing both your secrets.

There is a big stigma about mental health with young men (or older!) and even though I won't mention celebrity names there have been suicides that one of the main causes has been their secret life.

So ideally someone in South Wales / Monmouthshire for me but if anyone ever needs someone to talk to or meet up for a coffee / beer then send me a message !

And let's use this post for others to meet others for friendships.... and maybe with a little fun !

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By *ideruler58Man
13 weeks ago

Southampton

"So a lot of us on here are bi , many are married including myself and don't want to change that.

But one thing I need and I believe others do is someone to chat to about your other life ...

Now maybe this is a friend with benefits or maybe just someone you can talk to send a message to knowing both your secrets.

There is a big stigma about mental health with young men (or older!) and even though I won't mention celebrity names there have been suicides that one of the main causes has been their secret life.

So ideally someone in South Wales / Monmouthshire for me but if anyone ever needs someone to talk to or meet up for a coffee / beer then send me a message !

And let's use this post for others to meet others for friendships.... and maybe with a little fun !"

What a fantastic post & idea

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Totally agree xx

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By *eonsMan
13 weeks ago

Swindon

It's very important to have friends.

Many years ago I saw a guy in his car at a local cruising place, when I got to closer I recognized him as someone I had worked with, it was a bit of a surprise to see him there but we started talking and it became clear he was having problems, we chatted for over an hour, we shared lots of interest and exchanged numbers and now over twenty years later we're still friends and talk most weeks. Unfortunately he still suffers mentally but I'll always be at the end of the phone for him.

It can be a very lonely life even if you're married or have a partner, being gay, liking man sex or whatever was hard in my younger days, it's better now but there's still so many haters that enjoy pointing fingers and making people feel uncomfortable or worse.

I like this site because there are so many nice and considerate people who are going through similar things and it does feel like your not alone in the big bad world.

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By *onmouthshireMale OP Man
13 weeks ago

usk

"It's very important to have friends.

I like this site because there are so many nice and considerate people who are going through similar things and it does feel like your not alone in the big bad world."

Thanks for adding this - it's really important !

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By *areth99Man
13 weeks ago

tring

Great post!

Important to have this king of contact, even with distance

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By *ll foxMan
13 weeks ago

WORKSOP

Great post!

I’d love someone round my area to meet!

Have a chat coffee anything else

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I'm in with this as well!

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By *os001Man
13 weeks ago

Oxford

Broadening horizons, friends from different groups is always welcome.

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By *arry999Man
13 weeks ago

Lowestoft

I feel lucky that I dont suffer from mental health issues myself but have friends and family who do so have some understanding of the problems they can face.

However I sometimes feel a little lonely and so seeking out other mature married guys as online friends who would like to message chat about our secret bi and cross dressing sides. Not looking for just salacious chat but others who share the same pleasures.

It would be nice to think that meeting would be possible but it would be very unlikely that I could get away at the same time as them on the odd few occassions where I get an hour or so free.

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By *ear3000Man
13 weeks ago

Colchester

Wjat a great post

Wish I had someone to talk to or go for a coffee with etc

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By *oxleyMan
13 weeks ago

Wetherby

Married - very happy

She isn’t interested in sex, I prefer Gents

I have one close lover

I have some friends who text, chat etc

Suits me, but it is essential you have some buddies who you can chat with that know your situation and you can confide in. They will also require support from time to time.

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By *aked or CDMan
13 weeks ago

Giltbrook

Fab post, thank you.

I’m near Nottingham if there is anybody near in the married boat that wants to talk.

I certainly do!

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By *iss me Kiss me Kiss meMan
13 weeks ago

Morecambe

Talking and opening up after a good session is the best stress and anxiety relief going.

Have a kiss and a cuddle then bingo, off we go again.

Have another chat, kiss, caress, fondle, lick and probe and you’re ready again, up it pops!

The Turks have got it right with their hamam’s or however you spell it !

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Anyone wants to chat in telford area, here for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

This brings me hope.

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By *shleigh1964TV/TS
13 weeks ago

penzance

It's a great idea..I'm quite the lone wolf, actually I m definately lone wolf, don't have anyone I can or do hang out with, but sometimes I do miss that. When you get to my age, your friends have their own busy lives to lead, it's the way of it..life.

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By *dmirer53Man
13 weeks ago

manchester

If anyone wants to talk about there bi side either on here on the phone or in person I'm here,I'm only interested in CDs and men and have managed to keep it to myself for many years x

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By *ammy57TV/TS
13 weeks ago

Stevenage

Thank you for this , great post!!

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By *laycd300Man
13 weeks ago

belfast

Northern Ireland if people care to chat, used to meet a guy just for coffee and chat

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By *cwgenMan
13 weeks ago

Glasgow

The older I get the lonelier the single life becomes even tho having been single for so long im not sure I could cope with a full time bf / husband but sometimes you just want to chat , cuddle, do simple things but most men I find just wanna fuck which is a shame

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By *DPhoebe1969TV/TS
13 weeks ago

Gloucester

Nice post and thoughtful x

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By *shleigh1964TV/TS
13 weeks ago

penzance

I'm always up for chat friends, whatever it be about

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By *onmouthshireMale OP Man
13 weeks ago

usk

I'm quite emotional with all these responses let's keep this up high so everyone can find the support they need

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By *ockmanMan
13 weeks ago

Hartlepool

I think it's good to have a local male fwb, for normal chats as well as fun. I'm married and I've been looking for a similar married guy for a while but most men are into 15min fun sessions and not socialising in general.

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By *mandaWhenDressedMan
13 weeks ago

around

I'm also here if anyone needs to chat. I met someone through here and got to know really well. Been out dressed together but I doubt we will ever have sex as we are really good mates who look out for each other.

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By *arsit1Man
13 weeks ago

Lucan

i have got to this stage in my life and never had somebody i could call a friend

my parents would not encourage it

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By *om...Man
13 weeks ago

sutton coldfield

This is a great post and thread. Thank you.

I’d love local mates to chat with who understand. I’d also love to be there for others. Let me know if you are interested - PM me.

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By *loverfieldMan
13 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria

Oh what a great idea.

We need more focus on the men who cheat, their mental health is so much more important than the mental health of the wife or partner they might give an STI to...

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By *K62Man
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Great and kind post, I think many of us struggle with mental health.

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By *onmouthshireMale OP Man
13 weeks ago

usk

"Oh what a great idea.

We need more focus on the men who cheat, their mental health is so much more important than the mental health of the wife or partner they might give an STI to..."

I can see that point of view however as you are Gay I am Bi

I need both and yes I feel guilt but I also need male company .

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By *rTee69Man
13 weeks ago

"Oh what a great idea.

We need more focus on the men who cheat, their mental health is so much more important than the mental health of the wife or partner they might give an STI to..."

No-one is condoning cheating, you sanctimonious prick.

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By *omethingExciting41Man
13 weeks ago

Somewhere

This is a lovely post and friendship and chatting is so important. Sometimes it's all some of us can manage.

I love to make friends and chat so if anyone feels like reaching out I'd be more than happy to chat xx

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By *yzantineMan
13 weeks ago

Offshore now, ignore pistcode

I’ve made a few good friends via Fab. Mine are scattered round the world. It’s good to have a close relationship with some people where you suit her do t have to explain bi, or to hide it

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By *oodsman2Man
13 weeks ago

Galashiels

There are some lovely sentiments, and lovely people, in this thread.

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By *untzMan
13 weeks ago

Nantwich Cheshire

What a great post! While I don't necessarily suffer mental health issues I am in that category of guys who are bi and live a secret life within the confines of a loving family. There are a 'few' gay puritans on here who would banish bisexuals as they see them as self-indulgent and hedonistic. I believe that married bisexuals can be at 'risk' of mental health due to fact that they are having to hide their sexual identity, which can increase an individuals anxiety and stress. So having someone in a similar position to share issues and to affirm one's sexual identity can quite literally be a life line. I too am happy to chat to guys who need that additional support....

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By *ideruler58Man
13 weeks ago

Southampton

"What a great post! While I don't necessarily suffer mental health issues I am in that category of guys who are bi and live a secret life within the confines of a loving family. There are a 'few' gay puritans on here who would banish bisexuals as they see them as self-indulgent and hedonistic. I believe that married bisexuals can be at 'risk' of mental health due to fact that they are having to hide their sexual identity, which can increase an individuals anxiety and stress. So having someone in a similar position to share issues and to affirm one's sexual identity can quite literally be a life line. I too am happy to chat to guys who need that additional support.... "

Fantastic comment

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By *ungryBottom25Man
13 weeks ago

London

In the age of social media and an interrupt driven society it's great to have a friend to chat to and enjoy a pint with. They're far and few between and perhaps our closest are those you choose once about each decade or phase in life.

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By *p1605Man
13 weeks ago

Salisbury

Fantastic post! Friendship is so important.

I am also here for a chat - especially for any guys in this area.

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By *mblerMan
13 weeks ago

Goole

Great idea - I suppose when you get married, and over time you lose those friendships that you use to have, those friends have moved on too. Be nice to have a pint and a chat with a pal who shares similar ideas.

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By *urreyWant2SuckMan
13 weeks ago

Haslemere

What a terrific post - the only people I talk to about my bi leanings are on here and it’s in messages; it would be so good to have someone IRL to be open with about this (and if it was a FWB, then bonus I guess)

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By *roy8Man
13 weeks ago

Perthshire

A great post and never a truer word, I am suffering at the moment after losing my partner a few months ago but the pain and guilt remains with me always. My partner whom I loved dearly didn't know my bi side and I could manage to cope with it whilst she was alive but it haunts me now,someone to talk to and have a beer with and who also shares the secret would be great for me. The winter nights I'm dreading so long in the house alone with no one to talk to is a nightmare for me

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By *ove2wankMan
13 weeks ago

Field of Dreams, Worcs

Great post, would love a local friend. Also here if anyone wants to chat x

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By *ornynhairyMan
13 weeks ago

Livingston

What a fantastic post, thank you and well done for posting it. We do lose our way sometimes that talking even to a stranger or especially a stranger can help. Just not being judged would be great. Thanks again

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By *DPDRTMan
13 weeks ago

Bristol

Always happy to text chat on here with guys .

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By *oner benMan
13 weeks ago

odiham

Great idea. If anyone is in the Reading/Basingstoke regions and would like a pal to chat to feel free to message me.

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By *ldfunguyMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

What a great post, been suffering with my mental health and depression for years which often affects my ability to perform which is why I come on here to watch wanking videos wishing I was the one doing the wanking. Would be awesome to have a friend who likes to be wanked.

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By *oner benMan
13 weeks ago

odiham

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By *akituntMan
13 weeks ago

doncaster

Hello friends.

Such a lovely thread this one , id love friends to talk to on here or in person. Everyone needs to talk sometimes and someone who can listern and not judge for whatever reason is invaluable. And if there are benefits then even better lol . Come on Donny im here to help if i can xx

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By *onmouthshireMale OP Man
12 weeks ago

usk

"A great post and never a truer word, I am suffering at the moment after losing my partner a few months ago but the pain and guilt remains with me always. My partner whom I loved dearly didn't know my bi side and I could manage to cope with it whilst she was alive but it haunts me now,someone to talk to and have a beer with and who also shares the secret would be great for me. The winter nights I'm dreading so long in the house alone with no one to talk to is a nightmare for me"

Message me - we are a long way away but happy to add you on WhatsApp and stay in touch x

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By *onmouthshireMale OP Man
12 weeks ago

usk

And this is why I started this discussion and will keep it bumped up !

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By *uriouspantyMan
12 weeks ago

Swindon

Great post 👍

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By *ave05Man
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford Essex

Great open honest reaching out post.

I’m seeking a local pal ( non sexual ) to just enjoy a pint and easy going fun conversation even find a few things in common with interests maybe even a work out gym mate or hiking buddy or just that once a week drinking pal in a local pub or making up a pub quiz number. I’m 65 my long life friends have scattered somewhat and I tend to do just a little too much lonesome stuff Essex / London surrounds. Dave

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By *attoogrinderMan
3 weeks ago

Suffolk/Cambs/Herts

I’m a great supporter of Andys Man Club (AMC) where men meet everyone Monday 7-9 at various locations across the UK.

Everyone needs to feel comfortable talking and not judged and this peer led club is ideal for guys struggling. #itsoktotalk

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By *ldmanMan
3 weeks ago

Rawcliffe Bridge.

"I’m a great supporter of Andys Man Club (AMC) where men meet everyone Monday 7-9 at various locations across the UK.

Everyone needs to feel comfortable talking and not judged and this peer led club is ideal for guys struggling. #itsoktotalk"

Yes, I go to Andys Man Club weekly.

As it seems many don't approve of me going to Wetherspoons!

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Great opening post. It's always good to be able to chat with someone about stuff.

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By *ornynhairyMan
3 weeks ago

Livingston

I really love this post.

Sometimes I think I am the only one to feel like but even though I know I am not and this post proves that I am not.

It is a shame that a lot of us are in this place but a little kindness and understanding even from a distance goes a long way.

To of you in this situation lots of love and keep talking.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I'd like to chat with someone now and again. Just feel it would help how i feel.

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By *atty70Man
3 weeks ago

port erin

Nice idea

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By *hane55555Man
3 weeks ago

Pontefract

Married bi here,wife knows nothing,always here if anybody needs a chat,I know I do sometimes x

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By *PH1956Man
3 weeks ago

Colchester

Great post.

It's always good to talk about issues that can't always be talked about with loved ones!

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By *uriouschap83Man
3 weeks ago

Winnersh

Yes a great post. It's important to feel connected with others and at the moment this site is all I have, wife doesn't understand my feelings sometimes x message to chat and message.

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By *oddyealingMan
3 weeks ago

Ealing

Married in West London

happy to chat and share with others

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By *en ToverMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

Married here too always happy to have a chat

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By *retzelfudgeMan
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford

I am divorced, bi, but not "out" even to family or close friends (except one, although even he doesn't know I'm on this site). That can be quite a lonely place to be. Importantly, I have other interests and activities with different people outside of what goes on on this site.

Meeting for sex is all very well, but having some friends who are in the same or similar situation would definitely be helpful.

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By *WB64Man
3 weeks ago

Liversedge & Hull

Exactly what I am looking for but it's very difficult to find. Spoken to many guys on a different forum who share interests but are too far away to meet in person. Anyone who genuinely wants friendship or chat please contact me.

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By *lorygobMan
3 weeks ago

Carlisle

I just can't become romantically attached to guys, and I think that's why I shy away from gay guys. Not because I feel threatened in any way, but because I don't want to hurt them, you know? If they become romantically attached to me, I just couldn't reciprocate.

That said, I'd love to meet a guy who I could be good friends with. I think that's what I've really missed out on, because - let's face it - bi guys tend to vanish as soon as they've shot their load. They have other things to attend to, like showering vigorously before their wives get home, so she can't smell their sin!

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By *xplore2023Man
3 weeks ago

durrington

"So a lot of us on here are bi , many are married including myself and don't want to change that.

But one thing I need and I believe others do is someone to chat to about your other life ...

Now maybe this is a friend with benefits or maybe just someone you can talk to send a message to knowing both your secrets.

There is a big stigma about mental health with young men (or older!) and even though I won't mention celebrity names there have been suicides that one of the main causes has been their secret life.

So ideally someone in South Wales / Monmouthshire for me but if anyone ever needs someone to talk to or meet up for a coffee / beer then send me a message !

And let's use this post for others to meet others for friendships.... and maybe with a little fun !"

Couldn’t agree more this is top

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By *ilke500Man
3 weeks ago

edinburgh

I’ve been very lucky on here and interacted with some decent guys.

Also have made a couple of close friends who have similar background. It’s good to have someone to chat and share with purely in a mates way not necessarily sexual.

Happy to interact with anyone on here who needs someone to talk to about things they maybe cant with other guys in their friendship circle.

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By *onmouthshireMale OP Man
3 weeks ago

usk

Thank you all for your supportive messages and public comments x

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