FabGuys.com forum: Relaxing for a meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
1 week ago

Hey all,

I'm looking for some advice on how to control the nerves before a meet.

I've only ever had maybe 5 meets and they were all relatively quickies with a guy where we meet up somewhere and I give them a bj with no real talking or interaction.

I'm hoping to meet a guy next week where he will visit my hotel room.I know my nerves may get the better of me and I'll chicken out.

I think if we meet in the bar first for a few minutes just to have a chat and break the ice before deciding to go upstairs that might help calm my nerves.

Any other suggestions on how to relax and enjoy properly being with another man?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
1 week ago

Anyone...

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By *im_obeysMan
1 week ago

Southborough

I think it depends what role you're going to be taking. As a submissive I'm happy to have lots of nerves, and just go in with limited talking. If it's more 'vanilla' then maybe just treat it as if it's a date? Meet for A drink first and just chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
1 week ago

I think we are both versatile so it will be just mutual kissing, wanking, sucking, etc

I'd love to be able to relax and be comfortable with him to spend a few hours together in a hotel room rather than a quickie

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By *eyourselfMan
1 week ago

Southend

I think you'll know best yourself. If the other guy is happy meeting at the bar and having a quick drink first then that would be great. I found myself just wanting to get into it when I've met guys though...I'm there because I'm horny so find just having the courage to meet is important...then as quickly as I can we're kissing to relax a bit before getting naked.

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By *tmguylookingMan
1 week ago

Chesterfield

A good long snog is the best way to overcome any initial nerves, also easy to get into more than snogging whilst you're at it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
1 week ago

Yes he has suggested a quick kiss is all it takes to clear my nerves

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By *tmguylookingMan
1 week ago

Chesterfield

Just go with it... have fun

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By *onmar01Couple (MM)
1 week ago

Bargoed

One thing that I always find helpful, although not in every situation, is talk via here, WhatsApp etc.

Been chatting to a guy from here for about 3 weeks now, daily and arranging a meet. Been hard to get our timings right with work and life getting in the way.

We now know alot about each other, we've talked about family, work, life in general so feel like we really know each other now and looking forward to meeting in real life.

I know it doesn't always work as some guys are looking for a quick meet right now, but if the scenario above works then it definitely helps.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 days ago

Thanks that's what I do also but still nervous lol

Could be the first time I kiss a guys I think that is a lot of the nerves

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By *hs12Man
5 days ago

huntingdon nr

Once u kiss you know if yr connected...that what I find.

I can't stand men who don't kiss but will suck.yr cock

Strange.. anyone explain

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 days ago

It's the last barrier probably to admitting you like men

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By *ustaNormalBlokeMan
5 days ago

Strood

It’s a good question.

In my case, I find a quick ‘hello’ followed by undressing pretty quickly allays a lot of the nerves. Once I know it’s really going to happen, I relax a bit.

If there’s a public meet first in a bar (say) I think a early quiet chat about what you want to do with each other might avoid going down the route of ‘normal’ conversations which might lose the sexiness of the occasion.

Just my thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 days ago

Yeah I think that's the plan, to meet in the bar for a quick hello, make sure we are OK with each other then straight to the room before the nerves take over

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By *eguy73Man
5 days ago

Turriff

Enjoy yourself from the pics on your profile he is lucky guy.

Both agree the boundaries before you get down to action

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By *ammy57TV/TS
5 days ago

Stevenage

Some guys I just feel nervous and kind of dirty all the time, others it's a fun meet from start to end.

I'm lucky that my current owner is good company and happy to chat n have a coffee and we get on, but once he gets me alone he doesn't like to waste time ....

To my delight he doesn't just send me away afterwards but we chat after and perhaps seconds!

Definitely improves with each meet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
5 days ago

Sounds lovely

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