FabGuys.com forum: Married and bi but guilt ridden

By *kmidsguy72 OP Man
7 hours ago

Derby

I’m sure I’m not alone, but I can’t cope well with the feelings of guilt and wrongdoings over my gay sexual activity.

Married long time with 2 children (22m and 15f).

Sex life with wife virtually non existent. Had sex twice in last 30 months.

Resorted to having more frequent meets with men that I enjoy. NB - I practice safe sex only and no longer engage orally.

No one knows my sexuality. Family would be horrified.

Tried abstaining, feel so guilty after each meet, but inevitably I can’t stop, and longest I’ve abstained is 6 months.

I know what I’m doing is so wrong, it’s cheating (possibly even worse with a man). In every other aspect of my life as a husband and father everyone thinks what a kind, generous man I am. I love my family, and really hate myself at times.

Not looking for validation, but find the level of vitriol online against married men who engage in gay sexual activity even more demoralising.

I never set out in my life to be like this. I know it’s my choice to continue and my family are totally blameless. Just feel so lost.

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By *en DoverTV/TS
6 hours ago

cirencester/stroud

I thought I had written this, exactly the same, married, grown up kids, straight acting family man, love fucking with guys, love getting fucked so much more than fucking (very rarely if at all) my wife, felt shame, guilt and all sorts of bad things when I re entered my bi life after not being with a man for 20 years plus, now I’m looking for a regular for sex with a guy or two happy knowing I am what I am

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By *ay4121Man
6 hours ago

Bexleyheath

So is there a reason there is no sex with wife? Your choice or hers? Is sex with me a substitute or something you want or prefer?

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By *uca12345Man
6 hours ago

Cheltenham

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By *ammy57TV/TS
3 hours ago

Stevenage

It's partly why I'm sub.

I have an alternative ego. Tammy and she needs a strong dominant bf to keep her needs in check.

As Tammy I'm not a slut or a cheat I'm a good gurl doing as my owner says.

And he can own that part of me because it's not something anyone at home wants or respects.

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By *ishop666Man
3 hours ago

ls19

Human nature is to explore

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By *oldsguyMan
2 hours ago

A1079 Corridor

I so relate to the posts in here

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By *ovefist84Man
2 hours ago

Oswestry

I am the same as you OP. Well, almost the same. I have sex with my wife, but sometimes I just need to suck a cock or get fucked. She even knows I'm bi and that I love cock and my hole being filled, but doesn't let me have fun with men. She sees it as betrayal. If she wanted to have fun with other women I wouldn't see it as betrayal. But that's just me...

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By *ioralwankcurious1Man
1 hour ago

northwest

I just told my missus i wanted to try new stuff, she was up for joining in so win win

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By *hototed54Man
1 hour ago

leeds

Don’t mix up sex and love they are 2 completely different things

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By *arridMan
1 hour ago

Brighton

A lot of guys on here are in the same boat, mate. I don’t feel the slightest bit guilty.

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By *eekingcumsMan
1 hour ago

Stoke/Stafford

I just don't want to hurt my Mrs, but NEED the sex I'm not getting at home.

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By *ubsteffTV/TS
1 hour ago

Portsmouth

This almost exactly describes my life except the barren period of sex with my wife is far, far longer, her choice

I use to feel guilt but no longer.

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By *illycoop29Man
55 minutes ago

Aberdeenshire

My girlfriend doesn't know am here. Get sex at home but not as often as I would like sometimes.

Love seeing other guys enjoy my girls nudes and wanking to them as they tell me what they think of her

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By *luecatMan
53 minutes ago

near Acle

I’m exactly the same had been meeting guys for years as no sex at home but she found out and now I’m divorced! Now have a gf but still feel more attracted to sex with men

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By *oldsguyMan
52 minutes ago

A1079 Corridor

I cope with the guilt as the pleasure is needed

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