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"Is anyone actually managing to get meets on here ?  "Yes. Why do you think you’re struggling..? | |||
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"Finding tops that can accommodate is difficult and rare" This! | |||
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BTW, this thread is not FabGuys.com site feedback. | |||
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"Absolutely nothing here. No one accoms, everyone all talk. Disappointing" Yet somehow you also have two published verifications by meeting... | |||
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"This site would not exist if it wasn’t a successful, useful tool. Presenting yourself as a 'moaning minny' in this thread is unlikely to be helpful in getting meets
BTW, this thread is not FabGuys.com site feedback."I couldn’t have put it better myself. I can’t imagine what the correlation between moaning and whinging and a negative attitude about the site is to the success in approaching other people and meeting up. No, siree. | |||
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"I never thought I'd say this considering how "easy" hooking up with guys is supposed to be, but unironically meeting women is far easier. At least for me. And considering I'm way more into women than men, and considering I have such little free time, it makes more sense to use that limited time to meet women than random men. End of the day it's basic pattern recognition for me. If I strike out over and over again when trying on here, and a good amount of the time it's not really my fault, but I can meet a woman without trying anywhere near as hard, while also gaining all that a woman can offer (ie an actual relationship and not just meaningless sex) then why wouldn't I choose the easier option? I suppose it's different for gay guys. They're stuck with sites like this." "…a good amount of the time it's not really my fault" You're right: wasting your time here and why demean yourself amongst a bunch of men "stuck with sites like this?" 😂 | |||
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"I never thought I'd say this considering how "easy" hooking up with guys is supposed to be, but unironically meeting women is far easier. At least for me. And considering I'm way more into women than men, and considering I have such little free time, it makes more sense to use that limited time to meet women than random men. End of the day it's basic pattern recognition for me. If I strike out over and over again when trying on here, and a good amount of the time it's not really my fault, but I can meet a woman without trying anywhere near as hard, while also gaining all that a woman can offer (ie an actual relationship and not just meaningless sex) then why wouldn't I choose the easier option? I suppose it's different for gay guys. They're stuck with sites like this. "…a good amount of the time it's not really my fault" You're right: wasting your time here and why demean yourself amongst a bunch of men "stuck with sites like this?" 😂"I already had this exact conversation with some other guy weeks ago, not having it again. Throw your hook somewhere else. | |||
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 one day all 10 will turn up I hope hehe | |||
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"I never thought I'd say this considering how "easy" hooking up with guys is supposed to be, but unironically meeting women is far easier. At least for me. And considering I'm way more into women than men, and considering I have such little free time, it makes more sense to use that limited time to meet women than random men. End of the day it's basic pattern recognition for me. If I strike out over and over again when trying on here, and a good amount of the time it's not really my fault, but I can meet a woman without trying anywhere near as hard, while also gaining all that a woman can offer (ie an actual relationship and not just meaningless sex) then why wouldn't I choose the easier option? I suppose it's different for gay guys. They're stuck with sites like this. "…a good amount of the time it's not really my fault" You're right: wasting your time here and why demean yourself amongst a bunch of men "stuck with sites like this?" 😂
I already had this exact conversation with some other guy weeks ago, not having it again. Throw your hook somewhere else."I'm sure you didn't have "this exact conversation with some other guy" but you do seem to be displaying exactly the same disdain as your previous post! | |||
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"Is anyone actually managing to get meets on here ? "I had one just yesterday. | |||
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"Think it's gone like tinder. In the beginning people took online dating seriously. Matches, chats, and meets were things people honestly worked towards. Nowadays, the texting and flirting seems more and more the end goal, as more and more of our lives/entertainment go online. Probably only getting worse. " Very good point. Pretty much every dating site/app is terrible nowadays. No wonder so many people are dropping them in favour of meeting others in real life. | |||
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"Finding tops that can accommodate is difficult and rare This!" It's not as rare as you might think. It's just that the tops have realised that having top +can accommodate on your profile results in a bombardment of messages from greedy bottoms who are often time wasters or fantasists. If I want to top, I message them. | |||
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"Finding tops that can accommodate is difficult and rare This! It's not as rare as you might think. It's just that the tops have realised that having top +can accommodate on your profile results in a bombardment of messages from greedy bottoms who are often time wasters or fantasists… " This ⬆️ in spades. The number of fantasist unverified bottoms from 400 miles away who pepper someone with messages simply because they have a big cock... There is also complete misunderstanding about proper sexual versatility. It’s an utterly alien concept to some. I had some dimwit messaging me last night saying I want you to be my daddy and get fucked like you did with x in verification x - but it also says y guy fucked you in verification y - “so which is true..?”😑 | |||
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"Is anyone actually managing to get meets on here ? "One picture and a 4-word bio wont help. | |||
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"Is anyone actually managing to get meets on here ?
One picture and a 4-word bio wont help."Makes no difference. You take the time to write a decent profile and nobody reads it anyway. | |||
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"… Had a meet planned for this morning went on his profile blocked far too many time wasters on this site in my opinion… … Makes no difference. You take the time to write a decent profile and nobody reads it anyway... … Another wasted morning on here, update profile, make meets, get viewed, very few message you, you send messages which are either not looked at or don't reply… " “Woe! Woe..! And thrice woe..!” What a load of dismal, lugubrious moaning and feeling sorry for yourselves… | |||
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"… Had a meet planned for this morning went on his profile blocked far too many time wasters on this site in my opinion… … Makes no difference. You take the time to write a decent profile and nobody reads it anyway... … Another wasted morning on here, update profile, make meets, get viewed, very few message you, you send messages which are either not looked at or don't reply… “Woe! Woe..! And thrice woe..!” What a load of dismal, lugubrious moaning and feeling sorry for yourselves…" You call everyone but yourself a "moaner" but you never articulate why we are wrong. If a dozen people all say the exact same thing (and it's way more than a dozen) then maybe they have a valid point? | |||
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"I seem to do ok, I don’t suffer fools and can tell time wasters a mile off.. a few tricks learned to spit a fake and it’s all straightforward.. if in any doubt meet at a club or event " Yeah, meeting people in-person is far easier for me. This is good advice for anyone struggling. | |||
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"… Had a meet planned for this morning went on his profile blocked far too many time wasters on this site in my opinion… … Makes no difference. You take the time to write a decent profile and nobody reads it anyway... … Another wasted morning on here, update profile, make meets, get viewed, very few message you, you send messages which are either not looked at or don't reply… “Woe! Woe..! And thrice woe..!” What a load of dismal, lugubrious moaning and feeling sorry for yourselves… You call everyone but yourself a "moaner" but you never articulate why we are wrong. If a dozen people all say the exact same thing (and it's way more than a dozen) then maybe they have a valid point?" You’re a profile who has said on previous threads that you’ve yet even to meet a single man. And you were unsure if you actually wished to. Because one thing you’ve suggested in the Forums is that this site is full of creeps and sexual freaks. And the only ones you’ve felt comfortable speaking with have been in Ireland and hundreds of miles away from you where there’s not been any chance of meeting. It’s unclear to me on what basis you are a salient judge on the efficacy of FabGuys to meet men for sex. As for there being lots of “moaners” in the Forum… If you start a thread bemoaning time-wasting or how difficult it is to get meets, it will soon attract others moaning about the same things. Like flypaper. However it is important to remember such users represent only one section of the users in the Forum. The users of the Forum represent just one small section of the many users on FabGuys - many of whom are too busy having sex or at least trying to that they can waste precious time bemoaning the site in the Forum. As for the “valid point” you state other users must have because many of them are saying the same thing… what exactly is the “valid point”..?! How is it that some users are clearly successful in getting meetings off the site as quite a few in this thread have indicated above? Clearly it works for them. So we have empirical evidence the site does work. The analysis should thus be about what’s going wrong with the users who are not being successful. Less moaning about the site and shaking a fist at the clouds and more introspection needed. Is your profile fresh, up to date, honest and accurate about you, pictures updated, informative? As soon as you put a face picture into your profile - the interest you will receive is tenfold. Does your approach to men need fine tuning? Are you setting filters on your profile so as not to deal with those whom you know would not interest you? What tests do you follow to winnow out time-wasters and fantasists who are never going to meet? Etc etc etc. | |||
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"… Had a meet planned for this morning went on his profile blocked far too many time wasters on this site in my opinion… … Makes no difference. You take the time to write a decent profile and nobody reads it anyway... … Another wasted morning on here, update profile, make meets, get viewed, very few message you, you send messages which are either not looked at or don't reply… “Woe! Woe..! And thrice woe..!” What a load of dismal, lugubrious moaning and feeling sorry for yourselves… You call everyone but yourself a "moaner" but you never articulate why we are wrong. If a dozen people all say the exact same thing (and it's way more than a dozen) then maybe they have a valid point? You’re a profile who has said on previous threads that you’ve yet even to meet a single man. And you were unsure if you actually wished to. Because one thing you’ve suggested in the Forums is that this site is full of creeps and sexual freaks. And the only ones you’ve felt comfortable speaking with have been in Ireland and hundreds of miles away from you where there’s not been any chance of meeting. It’s unclear to me on what basis you are a salient judge on the efficacy of FabGuys to meet men for sex. As for there being lots of “moaners” in the Forum… If you start a thread bemoaning time-wasting or how difficult it is to get meets, it will soon attract others moaning about the same things. Like flypaper. However it is important to remember such users represent only one section of the users in the Forum. The users of the Forum represent just one small section of the many users on FabGuys - many of whom are too busy having sex or at least trying to that they can waste precious time bemoaning the site in the Forum. As for the “valid point” you state other users must have because many of them are saying the same thing… what exactly is the “valid point”..?! How is it that some users are clearly successful in getting meetings off the site as quite a few in this thread have indicated above? Clearly it works for them. So we have empirical evidence the site does work. The analysis should thus be about what’s going wrong with the users who are not being successful. Less moaning about the site and shaking a fist at the clouds and more introspection needed. Is your profile fresh, up to date, honest and accurate about you, pictures updated, informative? As soon as you put a face picture into your profile - the interest you will receive is tenfold. Does your approach to men need fine tuning? Are you setting filters on your profile so as not to deal with those whom you know would not interest you? What tests do you follow to winnow out time-wasters and fantasists who are never going to meet? Etc etc etc. " All I'm doing is neutrally explaining my own experience and giving an opinion. I'm not saying my experience applies to everyone, it clearly doesn't. Believe me, don't believe me, whatever, I have tried dozens of times to get meets. They all fell through. Some failures were my fault, not denying that. Some failures were clearly not my fault at all. After a certain point I decided to cut my losses and stop bothering. I'll probably try again when my situation changes. I think the issue here is you're assuming I feel sorry for myself or am otherwise super upset or depressed about not getting meets. I'm really not. I might have been when I first joined, now I don't really care all that much. When I come on here I chat with a few nice guys I've gotten to know, admittedly get embroiled in silly arguments (lol) and then when I log off I may as well forget the site exists. | |||
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"… All I'm doing is neutrally explaining my own experience and giving an opinion. I'm not saying my experience applies to everyone, it clearly doesn't. Believe me, don't believe me, whatever, I have tried dozens of times to get meets. They all fell through. Some failures were my fault, not denying that. Some failures were clearly not my fault at all. After a certain point I decided to cut my losses and stop bothering. I'll probably try again when my situation changes. I think the issue here is you're assuming I feel sorry for myself or am otherwise super upset or depressed about not getting meets. I'm really not. I might have been when I first joined, now I don't really care all that much. When I come on here I chat with a few nice guys I've gotten to know, admittedly get embroiled in silly arguments (lol) and then when I log off I may as well forget the site exists..." This is a honest and self-aware piece of analysis. I didn’t imagine you were depressed by not getting meets as you write quite philosophically about these matters in the Forum. And you have been very open that you not really putting effort into trying to meet at present. But others in the thread clearly have been putting a lot of effort into trying to meet and do seem very frustrated by their lack of success and, if I’m honest, a tad self-pitying about it. You yourself suggested exasperation that people don’t read profiles. It’s true: they don’t. But this comes back to the whole issue of how to deal with a site like this in the virtual world full of mostly anonymous people with lots of different objectives and motivations. How to deal with human nature. How to set yourself up in such a way you are not going to feel disappointed or bitter by any lack of success. You need: thick skin; patience but also intolerance; heavy scepticism of everyone and everything. | |||
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"… All I'm doing is neutrally explaining my own experience and giving an opinion. I'm not saying my experience applies to everyone, it clearly doesn't. Believe me, don't believe me, whatever, I have tried dozens of times to get meets. They all fell through. Some failures were my fault, not denying that. Some failures were clearly not my fault at all. After a certain point I decided to cut my losses and stop bothering. I'll probably try again when my situation changes. I think the issue here is you're assuming I feel sorry for myself or am otherwise super upset or depressed about not getting meets. I'm really not. I might have been when I first joined, now I don't really care all that much. When I come on here I chat with a few nice guys I've gotten to know, admittedly get embroiled in silly arguments (lol) and then when I log off I may as well forget the site exists... This is a honest and self-aware piece of analysis. I didn’t imagine you were depressed by not getting meets as you write quite philosophically about these matters in the Forum. And you have been very open that you not really putting effort into trying to meet at present. But others in the thread clearly have been putting a lot of effort into trying to meet and do seem very frustrated by their lack of success and, if I’m honest, a tad self-pitying about it. You yourself suggested exasperation that people don’t read profiles. It’s true: they don’t. But this comes back to the whole issue of how to deal with a site like this in the virtual world full of mostly anonymous people with lots of different objectives and motivations. How to deal with human nature. How to set yourself up in such a way you are not going to feel disappointed or bitter by any lack of success. You need: thick skin; patience but also intolerance; heavy scepticism of everyone and everything. " You're not wrong. I do admittedly struggle with not getting quickly annoyed or feeling rejected even when logically I shouldn't care. I'm doing better with that now than I was. When I first joined I had a handful of really awful experiences one after the other that soured my perception massively. | |||
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"I had 3 failed meets today. I never ask for face pics on here but sadly , it's seems to be the only way to increase the chances of a meet going ahead. They talk and talk. What a colossal waste of my time. But not as big of a waste as when my 4 day load shoots all over my chest and belly when I have a disappointing wank later. It's just a blowjob. Cowards. "Same thing happened to me. Spoke to a guy, seemed sound. He agreed to send face pic, didn't. Kept talking as though I'd not just asked. At that point I knew he was a timewaster. But I asked again just to make sure. He sent me a picture of Steve Buscemi lmao. Blocked him after that. | |||
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"The irony of posting on a thread with this theme. Then hiding his profile within 17 hours. (Wakefield post) The logic/thought process of some people. It can be eyebrow raising at times. " I have my profile hidden because I'm not actively looking. Not really hard to grasp. | |||
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"I had 3 failed meets today. I never ask for face pics on here but sadly , it's seems to be the only way to increase the chances of a meet going ahead. They talk and talk. What a colossal waste of my time. But not as big of a waste as when my 4 day load shoots all over my chest and belly when I have a disappointing wank later. It's just a blowjob. Cowards.
Same thing happened to me. Spoke to a guy, seemed sound. He agreed to send face pic, didn't. Kept talking as though I'd not just asked. At that point I knew he was a timewaster. But I asked again just to make sure. He sent me a picture of Steve Buscemi lmao. Blocked him after that."Some of them are fucked in the head though. One guy had been asking to meet for days and I had chatted to him before quite openly . We seemed to get along well, similar age and interests. I explained a family member died and I could meet after the wake and funeral. I Wasn't looking for sympathy or anything but we had some genuine discourse and I wanted to explain why I wouldn't be around for a few days (my mistake). So he sends me messages like - "if you want to talk or meet for a coffee , he was nearby". - a nice sentiment but I definitely wasn't interested so I thanked him for the offer and declined. Anyway, he talked about losing a parent and more blah blah nonsense to keep me engaged. Then when the meet was planned, he called me a cunt and blocked me. They're not mentally well. That's crazy behaviour. To go out of their way to mess with someone , particularly emotionally. They need help. They get creative too , with fake WhatsApp accounts to pretend to be more genuine. Sad bastards. It's changed me over time tbh. My ability to empathise or make allowances for them has diminished completely. It's my way or the highway. One guy wanted me to have all the lights off in my house so he could come in. He wanted to park down a dark alleyway so I could meet him first  . I don't think he was an axe murderer or anything but that level of "discreet" is fucked. It's a you issue. Go to a psychologist. I obviously didn't meet him but he decided to make all the fucked up demands when he arrived and after many many messages and time wasted.
They hope you will just give in because the effort and time wasted + your horniness will out weight the demands.
I met a guy recently. His pictures looked nothing like him when he arrived. He quite literally stank of stale sweat. Get out.....I'm horney not desperate. 
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"The irony of posting on a thread with this theme. Then hiding his profile within 17 hours. (Wakefield post) The logic/thought process of some people. It can be eyebrow raising at times. I have my profile hidden because I'm not actively looking. Not really hard to grasp." In your mind that is not strange behaviour? That is a red flag for many, when you hide your profile. | |||
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"I had 3 failed meets today. I never ask for face pics on here but sadly , it's seems to be the only way to increase the chances of a meet going ahead. They talk and talk. What a colossal waste of my time. But not as big of a waste as when my 4 day load shoots all over my chest and belly when I have a disappointing wank later. It's just a blowjob. Cowards.
Same thing happened to me. Spoke to a guy, seemed sound. He agreed to send face pic, didn't. Kept talking as though I'd not just asked. At that point I knew he was a timewaster. But I asked again just to make sure. He sent me a picture of Steve Buscemi lmao. Blocked him after that.
Some of them are fucked in the head though. One guy had been asking to meet for days and I had chatted to him before quite openly . We seemed to get along well, similar age and interests.
I explained a family member died and I could meet after the wake and funeral. I Wasn't looking for sympathy or anything but we had some genuine discourse and I wanted to explain why I wouldn't be around for a few days (my mistake).
So he sends me messages like - "if you want to talk or meet for a coffee , he was nearby". - a nice sentiment but I definitely wasn't interested so I thanked him for the offer and declined.
Anyway, he talked about losing a parent and more blah blah nonsense to keep me engaged. Then when the meet was planned, he called me a cunt and blocked me.
They're not mentally well. That's crazy behaviour. To go out of their way to mess with someone , particularly emotionally. They need help.
They get creative too , with fake WhatsApp accounts to pretend to be more genuine. Sad bastards.
It's changed me over time tbh. My ability to empathise or make allowances for them has diminished completely.
It's my way or the highway.
One guy wanted me to have all the lights off in my house so he could come in. He wanted to park down a dark alleyway so I could meet him first . I don't think he was an axe murderer or anything but that level of "discreet" is fucked. It's a you issue. Go to a psychologist. I obviously didn't meet him but he decided to make all the fucked up demands when he arrived and after many many messages and time wasted.
They hope you will just give in because the effort and time wasted + your horniness will out weight the demands.
I met a guy recently. His pictures looked nothing like him when he arrived. He quite literally stank of stale sweat. Get out.....I'm horney not desperate.
Stick to your regulars. That's my advise. "I want to say I'm surprised by everything you've said but the sad thing is I'm not. Not trying to cause offence to anyone or generalize but my experience on here has been mostly negative. Guys who sweettalk you then become aggressive. Guys who lead you on then cruelly shoot you down, presumably so they can feel powerful. Guys who refuse to read your profile. Genuine perverts who send me pics of random women or ask me out of the blue to do disgusting stuff I won't repeat here. Plenty of times it's been me who messed a potential meet up. And don't get me wrong, I've spoken to some genuinely lovely guys who I can't meet for whatever reason. Either we're both super busy or we live too far away for it to be worthwhile. If it turned out those guys were also fucking with me then I'd probably just leave. At that point I'd not trust my own judgement enough to stay. | |||
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"The irony of posting on a thread with this theme. Then hiding his profile within 17 hours. (Wakefield post) The logic/thought process of some people. It can be eyebrow raising at times. I have my profile hidden because I'm not actively looking. Not really hard to grasp. In your mind that is not strange behaviour? That is a red flag for many, when you hide your profile." I don't think it's strange at all. It's a feature of the site I'm using as intended. Not sure what you're getting at tbh. | |||
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"… Genuine perverts who send me pics of random women or ask me out of the blue to do disgusting stuff I won't repeat here... " I really do hope you report such messages. The first is a clear contravention of site rules. The second is a slightly greyer area but if they are unbidden messages out of the blue and clearly just meant to shock or offend they too should be reported. | |||
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"The irony of posting on a thread with this theme. Then hiding his profile within 17 hours. (Wakefield post) The logic/thought process of some people. It can be eyebrow raising at times. I have my profile hidden because I'm not actively looking. Not really hard to grasp. In your mind that is not strange behaviour? That is a red flag for many, when you hide your profile. I don't think it's strange at all. It's a feature of the site I'm using as intended. Not sure what you're getting at tbh." It isn’t strange. It’s often done by many, especially those who log off the site when back in their domestic environments. It is a feature of the site exactly for that purpose. You are using it exactly as intended. I don’t know what the other user was implying but he was clearly trying to imply something negative. | |||
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"… Genuine perverts who send me pics of random women or ask me out of the blue to do disgusting stuff I won't repeat here... I really do hope you report such messages. The first is a clear contravention of site rules. The second is a slightly greyer area but if they are unbidden messages out of the blue and clearly just meant to shock or offend they too should be reported. " I'm pretty sure I reported the first guy, although it was more than a month ago and I can't 100% remember. The guys who are gross I just block because I don't think they are breaking any rules, just being offputting. | |||
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"The irony of posting on a thread with this theme. Then hiding his profile within 17 hours. (Wakefield post) The logic/thought process of some people. It can be eyebrow raising at times. I have my profile hidden because I'm not actively looking. Not really hard to grasp. In your mind that is not strange behaviour? That is a red flag for many, when you hide your profile. I don't think it's strange at all. It's a feature of the site I'm using as intended. Not sure what you're getting at tbh. It isn’t strange. It’s often done by many, especially those who log off the site when back in their domestic environments. It is a feature of the site exactly for that purpose. You are using it exactly as intended. I don’t know what the other user was implying but he was clearly trying to imply something negative." Who knows lol. I'm kinda curious to see what the reasoning is. | |||
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"Is anyone actually managing to get meets on here ? "Yes Plenty really. More than I can cope with sometimes | |||
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"Yes, im 100% meeting people on here. I have less luck on fab swingers" +1 this, from the tgirl perspective. (And please do excuse and ignore this post if you are a gay man, not into tgirls, apologies!) A higher ratio of timewasters on Swingers too, perhaps not surprisingly. 'Interestingly' (to me, anyway), the guys I actually meet on either site have the same basic profile- ie they are straight-acting and married or partnered or divorced. But I guess the guys like that here on Fabguys are surer what they like (not just bicurious due to desperation!) | |||
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