FabGuys.com forum: When is the right time to have sex again after losing a partner or wife?

By *bscot59 OP Man
7 weeks ago

Aberdeen

I have not long lost my wife for many years, she did not know I was bi in my past 7 years.

She took cancer and was fighting it for a few yrs and then died.

I feel guilty even thinking about having sex now with a guy never mind even chatting up another female.

I reduced the amount of meets I had over the past two yrs due to being tired through helping her with her being ill.

Am I being selfish wanting to resume sex at some point ?

Should I save myself for going up to heaven or should I start having sexual fun at some point but when?

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By *irtyoldguyMan
7 weeks ago

Stockport

Don't feel guilty. Go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

When you feel ready for it

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By *0s andyMan
7 weeks ago

Burford

There is no right or wrong answer but having sex and pleasuring a partner is a wonderful experience and in no way being disrespectful. A good sex partner will quite understand if you get cold feet or emotional and giving you pleasure will give him even more pleasure than usual xxx

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By *rickyWire1Man
7 weeks ago

Warrington

There's no Hard and Firm ruling on Time for Sex after a Bereavement.

You will know when that time comes when you get the Desire

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By *mizhereMan
7 weeks ago

cardiff Newport and travel 25th

I've been there

You will know when the desire to feel closeness to another sexually arises

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By *eicesterNowMan
7 weeks ago

leicester

it's up to you.

Sympathy sex is normal after after a partners death.

After mine died I had lots of sex and when I was ready I found someone else.

Live your life but never forget

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By *ockFunUpmMan
7 weeks ago

Upminster

Well firstly, I'm sorry for your loss, it definitely can't be an easy time for you.

You might just need to give yourself a little more time, but life is short and it's soon over, we must make the most of it to not have regrets for things we didn't do.

You shouldn't feel guilty for wanting a bit of fun and happiness in your life and I'm sure your late wife wouldn't want you to not have fun, after all the vows are till death us do part.

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By *ajkumarkapoorMan
4 weeks ago

London

Only having sex with men can save me. That's my personal research. Prefer to let go and enjoy before we are too old and can't do it anymore. Life is too short !

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By *ndyspants66Man
4 weeks ago

Brechin

Hi, I'm sorry you joined the club that no one wants to be in (lossing a partner). My wife died of cancer 5 years ago, 2 years ago I tried going out with other women but I was always comparing them to my wife, last year I meet up with a guy for the day and then I knew going forward in my life it's men not women for me. Just go for a meet, don't expect anything from it. But at one meet it may happen and you can start a new life. I think of my wife every day, she is with me always but I have started a new life x

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By *ason-DMan
4 weeks ago

Bromsgrove

I lost my wife to cancer three years ago. I started dating a few months later, but didn’t get to meet the right woman.

Eighteen months ago I met a fantastic woman who made it clear that she wanted a sexual relationship.

My late wife told me to move on and find a new partner, but I didn’t really think that I would!

I still miss my wife, but I am very happy with my partner! I received some counselling from the family support team at the local hospice.

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By *ndreaCDBerkshireTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Sandhurst

As long as it’s not during the funeral it’s fair game.

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By *onmar01Couple (MM)
4 weeks ago

Bargoed

Sorry for your loss.

Try just being social with someone initially, chat and explain your feelings.

Sometime just having company can help.

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By *hong80321967Man
4 weeks ago

Wakefield

Only you can tell.....go for it

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By *opmaster62Man
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I've sent you a pm

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