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Those in relationships - a question

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By *levnth OP   Man
40 weeks ago

Co Down

For those guys here in relationships - how do you go ahead with meets and not feel guilty/bad? It keeps holding me back

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I think, in my case, as my Wife has not wanted sex with "me" for ages, I drifted very much towards my bi side which was always in there in the background, but has come out much more strongly now. I don't feel guilty and in fact having sex with men keeps me happy and I let my Wife get on with what ever she wants to do after work herself...I never ask!

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By *ature111Man
40 weeks ago

Dublin

So True,and I suspect there are many more in same situation-and more again that wish they could be brave enought to ‘Enjoy’ man/man fun

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I am also married and I felt guilty the first time I had a meet, I have met guys since and the guilt lessens

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Im wanting to learn about this as well.

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By *im44Man
40 weeks ago

Ovens


"I think, in my case, as my Wife has not wanted sex with "me" for ages, I drifted very much towards my bi side which was always in there in the background, but has come out much more strongly now. I don't feel guilty and in fact having sex with men keeps me happy and I let my Wife get on with what ever she wants to do after work herself...I never ask! "

What he said

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By *ouple 4 funCouple (MM)
40 weeks ago

Oranmore

Sex is just a physical act as opposed to a relationship which is a deeper connection. I believe men are more capable at keeping them both completely separate. I’m very happy for my hubby to go and fuck another man but I’d be upset with him if we wanted to go on a date for obvious reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"I think, in my case, as my Wife has not wanted sex with "me" for ages, I drifted very much towards my bi side which was always in there in the background, but has come out much more strongly now. I don't feel guilty and in fact having sex with men keeps me happy and I let my Wife get on with what ever she wants to do after work herself...I never ask! "

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By *ubmarriedbiMan
40 weeks ago

D16

No sex at home so I’ve long got over any guilty feelings if I ever had any.

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By *omtom7Man
40 weeks ago

kerry

Fuck it, I don't care. She's not into sex and I've a lot of kinks.

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By *treyu500Man
40 weeks ago

Australia

I hear the logic above a lot. I was in that situation myself. So I broke up with her and moved on.

To me, A relationship should be both the sex and the other fun parts. I miss her, but I'm happy that I ended what was essentially just a good friendship because we hadn't had sex in so long. However , if someone is happy living that way then I'm happy for them.

As for the OP's question about lessening the guilt. My advice is to break up with her. Guilt goes away. Problem solved.

Just so you know - male/male relationships are usually open - you can have sex outside the relationship, guilt free.

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By *rankLMan
40 weeks ago

birdhill

That is a great question and I am very interested in the answers. Personally I found my bi side to my own surprise about 3 years ago. I stated to watch gay porn. I found it excites me and my orgasms were more intense. I then met a man who thrilled me in bed and have met a few others since. I’m not meeting guys every week but when it happens it is so nice. I don’t feel guilty I love my wife but she has a very low sex drive it’s not her fault and I feel I need sex. Not with other women but with other men. In all cases the men I have been with have been married and in all cases our stories are similar. I have had great satisfaction from exploring a man’s body making him cum and being kissed as me wanks me off. I don’t feel guilty perhaps I should but I love being with another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

My wife has a few disabilities and sex is painful for her so I stopped initiating it. I'm more curious than bi but have found playing with men easier than playing with another woman. I don't feel guilty but am careful who I meet and what I get up to. My wife told me once that she didn't mind if I seek sex elsewhere, she just didn't want to find out about it. I think men are able to separate sex from love and as long as there are no complications what's the harm in finding sexual outlet with other men? It would be 100x more difficult to find a woman who wanted sex only on the side without some emotional involvement. Anyway, that's my take on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

The guilt will pass trust me

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By *ideswordsMan
40 weeks ago

Swords

I'm far more sexual than my wife, I need something a lot more. I'm bi but wouldn't get with a woman. With a guy it's just a physical thing, something like football with mates. Pure fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Me and my wife have regular sex and we are in love , have been for 35yrs , I had a few experiences as a teenager, but settled in to marriage, we have both had affairs over the years , but never even thought of separating, a couple of years ago I started to think about what I did all those years ago and it turned me on , started wanking off to gay porn , then got on the likes of this app and started meeting men , I love it , but I suppose as far as being faithful is concerned I’m just a bit of a twat xx

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By *hubbymature4meMan
40 weeks ago

Londonderry

Very interesting conversation lads. I have been with alot of married men in my 40+ years of being gay and have always enjoyed regular nsa fun with them.

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By *achsMan
40 weeks ago

Lisburn

There a lot in the same boat if you can get it right in your head the fun with men is worth it

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By *onnyd26Man
37 weeks ago

Mitcham

I married early, when I was married I met men every now and then it's something I personally needed. I started with men a couple years before I got with women, I dident consider it cheating and still really don't, I had no feelings for the guys I was with I stayed safe and protected and once the meet was done there number was deleted

It's something I needed to keep me sane and not resentful or hating

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By *evinmanMan
37 weeks ago

Dublin

I have a penchant for married men and have met e few for a number of years. No drama and rules of engagement understood. They are usually in dysfunctional relationships which are complicated by kids etc... They generally didn't feel guilty and I certainly did not!

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By *aveB430Man
37 weeks ago

Tipperary /Dublin


"I think, in my case, as my Wife has not wanted sex with "me" for ages, I drifted very much towards my bi side which was always in there in the background, but has come out much more strongly now. I don't feel guilty and in fact having sex with men keeps me happy and I let my Wife get on with what ever she wants to do after work herself...I never ask!

What he said"

Exactly the same

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By *incity24Man
37 weeks ago

Mayo

Married also

Has pangs of conscience the first time I met a bloke but got over it

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By *etiariusMan
37 weeks ago

Midleton

I’m in an open and loving marriage with my wife. She knows I’m bi and I tell her if I meet someone.

We do our own thing sometimes and don’t ask for details. Works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Both sides have to agree first. Sometimes it might lead to falling in love but mine only temporary. Things changed, decisions too changed. No one to blame for changes because of unpredictable events etc. And sometimes partners get reunited again.

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By *oss432Man
3 weeks ago

Kilcock


"I hear the logic above a lot. I was in that situation myself. So I broke up with her and moved on.

To me, A relationship should be both the sex and the other fun parts. I miss her, but I'm happy that I ended what was essentially just a good friendship because we hadn't had sex in so long. However , if someone is happy living that way then I'm happy for them.

As for the OP's question about lessening the guilt. My advice is to break up with her. Guilt goes away. Problem solved.

Just so you know - male/male relationships are usually open - you can have sex outside the relationship, guilt free.

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thats terrible advise, why ruin a relationship, friendship, family for a wank with another bloke every now and then

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By *k73Man
3 weeks ago

Leicester


"I think, in my case, as my Wife has not wanted sex with "me" for ages, I drifted very much towards my bi side which was always in there in the background, but has come out much more strongly now. I don't feel guilty and in fact having sex with men keeps me happy and I let my Wife get on with what ever she wants to do after work herself...I never ask! "
totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago


"My wife has a few disabilities and sex is painful for her so I stopped initiating it. I'm more curious than bi but have found playing with men easier than playing with another woman. I don't feel guilty but am careful who I meet and what I get up to. My wife told me once that she didn't mind if I seek sex elsewhere, she just didn't want to find out about it. I think men are able to separate sex from love and as long as there are no complications what's the harm in finding sexual outlet with other men? It would be 100x more difficult to find a woman who wanted sex only on the side without some emotional involvement. Anyway, that's my take on it."

I'm very similar to this and totally agree with the last part, I can meet a guy for some quick fun, I think finding a woman with the same attitude would be very difficult.

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By *treyu500Man
3 weeks ago

Australia


"I hear the logic above a lot. I was in that situation myself. So I broke up with her and moved on.

To me, A relationship should be both the sex and the other fun parts. I miss her, but I'm happy that I ended what was essentially just a good friendship because we hadn't had sex in so long. However , if someone is happy living that way then I'm happy for them.

As for the OP's question about lessening the guilt. My advice is to break up with her. Guilt goes away. Problem solved.

Just so you know - male/male relationships are usually open - you can have sex outside the relationship, guilt free.

thats terrible advise, why ruin a relationship, friendship, family for a wank with another bloke every now and then"

Why ruin it a relationship etc for a wank with another bloke? With that logic then why risk the wank at all then if it's that meaningless ha ha. You can't get caught if you don't engage in the behaviour...

It's sad that you think that's terrible advise . And, being honest with your partner doesn't necessarily mean it ends the relationship. Lie to yourself and others if you want lol. If the guilt doesn't bother you then it's all irrelevant, isn't it.

Do whatever you want.

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By *ondlerMan
3 weeks ago

D3-5 area

as with others here who posted on this forum, My wife has not wanted to have sex with me for a long time now and like that too I have found my very bi side has come out so much lately and I enjoy men's company now so much.

I let my wife get on and do whatever she does when she frequently goes out on her own.

It may not be prefect , but it works and we are both blissfully happy in ignorance of each others outside activities.

I don't ask and neither does she!

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By *rankLMan
3 weeks ago

birdhill

My bi side is new to me. I love it 56 when I first slept with a man. I need sex with men. It excites me, makes me feel alive. I get so hard for gay porn and I can’t tell you how much joy I find in being naked with a male lover. His beautiful penis his beautiful bum cheeks his nipples his tongue, fingering hi, his moans, his kisses, his touch, how he licks my cock how I suck his balls, the feel of the heat of his cum on my chest, the taste of his cum in my mouth, swallowing his beautiful cum, holding him, cuddling him, talking about our journey to wanting to be with a man. Talking about our gay fantasies, wanting a beautiful man to penetrate our bums, to have our legs over his shoulder as he pumps vigorously, breathes heavily, tenses, moans, cums ands collapses tired and kisses our tongues intertwined,men kissing our hands through each other’s hair then feeling each other’s cocks again then on to our backs, relaxing knowing our physical act has satisfied us , gentle touching, kissing nipples stroking chests lightly holding each others balls . No guilt , sexual desire, sexual understanding, sexual support , physical needs expressed then choosing porn to watch together and starting over again talking about threesomes or watching each other fuck someone else and wanking to the thought of doing that

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By *R67Man
2 weeks ago

Newbridge

Usually no sex in relationship means u need it elsewhere basically

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By *loset TVTV/TS
2 weeks ago

bradford

My wife knew and came with me. Xx

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By *ock4cock01Man
2 weeks ago

k

Simple answer is, a lot of men feel pushed aside, when either married, or in a relationship when they have kids, so then, the women loose their sex appeal, hense why the men look for there fix with another guy. Simple answer

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By *undaddy75Man
2 weeks ago

south dublin

My wife knows I’m bi

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By *imon2016Man
2 weeks ago

Dublin 4

Lucky you...

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By *k73Man
2 weeks ago

Leicester

Still love her even tho no sex of any type anymore so get my relief by other means

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