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By *levnth OP Man
4 weeks ago

Co Down

For those guys here in relationships - how do you go ahead with meets and not feel guilty/bad? It keeps holding me back

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I think, in my case, as my Wife has not wanted sex with "me" for ages, I drifted very much towards my bi side which was always in there in the background, but has come out much more strongly now. I don't feel guilty and in fact having sex with men keeps me happy and I let my Wife get on with what ever she wants to do after work herself...I never ask!

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By *ature111Man
4 weeks ago

Dublin

So True,and I suspect there are many more in same situation-and more again that wish they could be brave enought to ‘Enjoy’ man/man fun

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By *arriedguy49scotMan
4 weeks ago

Annan

I am also married and I felt guilty the first time I had a meet, I have met guys since and the guilt lessens

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Im wanting to learn about this as well.

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By *im44Man
4 weeks ago

Ovens

"I think, in my case, as my Wife has not wanted sex with "me" for ages, I drifted very much towards my bi side which was always in there in the background, but has come out much more strongly now. I don't feel guilty and in fact having sex with men keeps me happy and I let my Wife get on with what ever she wants to do after work herself...I never ask! "

What he said

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By *ouple 4 funCouple (MM)
4 weeks ago

Oranmore

Sex is just a physical act as opposed to a relationship which is a deeper connection. I believe men are more capable at keeping them both completely separate. I’m very happy for my hubby to go and fuck another man but I’d be upset with him if we wanted to go on a date for obvious reasons

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By *immysmith999Man
4 weeks ago

where ever I lay my hat

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By *ubmarriedbiMan
4 weeks ago

D16

No sex at home so I’ve long got over any guilty feelings if I ever had any.

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By *omtom7Man
4 weeks ago

kerry

Fuck it, I don't care. She's not into sex and I've a lot of kinks.

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By *treyu500Man
4 weeks ago

wicklow

I hear the logic above a lot. I was in that situation myself. So I broke up with her and moved on.

To me, A relationship should be both the sex and the other fun parts. I miss her, but I'm happy that I ended what was essentially just a good friendship because we hadn't had sex in so long. However , if someone is happy living that way then I'm happy for them.

As for the OP's question about lessening the guilt. My advice is to break up with her. Guilt goes away. Problem solved.

Just so you know - male/male relationships are usually open - you can have sex outside the relationship, guilt free.

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By *rankLMan
4 weeks ago

birdhill

That is a great question and I am very interested in the answers. Personally I found my bi side to my own surprise about 3 years ago. I stated to watch gay porn. I found it excites me and my orgasms were more intense. I then met a man who thrilled me in bed and have met a few others since. I’m not meeting guys every week but when it happens it is so nice. I don’t feel guilty I love my wife but she has a very low sex drive it’s not her fault and I feel I need sex. Not with other women but with other men. In all cases the men I have been with have been married and in all cases our stories are similar. I have had great satisfaction from exploring a man’s body making him cum and being kissed as me wanks me off. I don’t feel guilty perhaps I should but I love being with another man.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

My wife has a few disabilities and sex is painful for her so I stopped initiating it. I'm more curious than bi but have found playing with men easier than playing with another woman. I don't feel guilty but am careful who I meet and what I get up to. My wife told me once that she didn't mind if I seek sex elsewhere, she just didn't want to find out about it. I think men are able to separate sex from love and as long as there are no complications what's the harm in finding sexual outlet with other men? It would be 100x more difficult to find a woman who wanted sex only on the side without some emotional involvement. Anyway, that's my take on it.

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By *nowsleyBisexualMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

The guilt will pass trust me

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By *ideswordsMan
4 weeks ago

Swords

I'm far more sexual than my wife, I need something a lot more. I'm bi but wouldn't get with a woman. With a guy it's just a physical thing, something like football with mates. Pure fwb.

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By *ave656565Man
4 weeks ago

Bradford

Me and my wife have regular sex and we are in love , have been for 35yrs , I had a few experiences as a teenager, but settled in to marriage, we have both had affairs over the years , but never even thought of separating, a couple of years ago I started to think about what I did all those years ago and it turned me on , started wanking off to gay porn , then got on the likes of this app and started meeting men , I love it , but I suppose as far as being faithful is concerned I’m just a bit of a twat xx

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By *J4MatureMan
4 weeks ago

Inishowen

Very interesting conversation lads. I have been with alot of married men in my 40+ years of being gay and have always enjoyed regular nsa fun with them.

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By *achsMan
4 weeks ago

Lisburn

There a lot in the same boat if you can get it right in your head the fun with men is worth it

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By *onnyd26Man
6 days ago

Mitcham

I married early, when I was married I met men every now and then it's something I personally needed. I started with men a couple years before I got with women, I dident consider it cheating and still really don't, I had no feelings for the guys I was with I stayed safe and protected and once the meet was done there number was deleted

It's something I needed to keep me sane and not resentful or hating

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By *evinmanMan
6 days ago

Dublin

I have a penchant for married men and have met e few for a number of years. No drama and rules of engagement understood. They are usually in dysfunctional relationships which are complicated by kids etc... They generally didn't feel guilty and I certainly did not!

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By *aveB430Man
6 days ago

Tipperary

What he said"

Exactly the same

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By *incity24Man
5 days ago

mayo

Married also

Has pangs of conscience the first time I met a bloke but got over it

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By *etiariusMan
5 days ago

Midleton

I’m in an open and loving marriage with my wife. She knows I’m bi and I tell her if I meet someone.

We do our own thing sometimes and don’t ask for details. Works for us.

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Those in relationships - a question