FabGuys.com forum: Time wasters and No Shows

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been fairly lucky in that I've only experienced a couple of no shows since being on this site. Yesterday I was chatting to someone who clearly has low self esteem and he opened up to me. He told me that no shows and time wasters really affect his mental health and cause him much anxiety and deep depression! I suggested he comes off the site and he replied "why should I". He has a point, why should he!

That aside, time wasters cause others to stop using this site, and, that spoils the fun for the rest of us.

Should there be a button to click when a guy doesn't show for a meet and number of no shows appear on their profile just like verifications?

Just a thought.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So annoying when u work urself up and they don’t show

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I didn't realise till talking to that guy, yesterday, that it can really affect someone's mental health! When it happened to me I just thought "their loss".

You're right though, people work themselves up for a meet so it is, at the very least, annoying when they don't show.

Not to mention the cost in petrol and after shave!

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By *ipplebearMan
over a year ago

Folkestone

I agree it needs addressing. I think we should be able to notify the moderator with brief description of reasons for no show. When 3 notifications received for same guy they should have a conversation and if unsatisfactory response, add this to their profile - "this user has x number of recorded no-shows". Of course, they can simply open a new account but this problem needs looking at

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree. And it's in the site's best interests because users get cheesed off and stop logging in. They also lose revenue because if people stop logging in, they don't pay site support fees

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By *ingers4meMan
over a year ago

Formby

Your talking to bots, they can never meet as its just AI intelligence fooling you into thinking your talking to a human. As this technology gets better the worse it will all become, they can even generate their own porn images.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I never thought of that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Gas lighters are worse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many no shows infuriating when uv prept as a bottom.

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By *SA fun West CumbriaMan
over a year ago

Whitehaven

"Too many no shows infuriating when uv prept as a bottom. "

DEFINITELY..... I've lost count of the times I've douched thoroughly after agreeing to a meet and then find that it's a no show and I've been ghosted !

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By *ivekMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I dont mind, if they tell you they can't make it, I've had to cancel due things you can't do anything about.

But no shows without telling you, yes let it be known.

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By *eedsbimarriedMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Too many no shows infuriating when uv prept as a bottom.

DEFINITELY..... I've lost count of the times I've douched thoroughly after agreeing to a meet and then find that it's a no show and I've been ghosted !"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If there's anyone reading this thread who does regularly gas light people and doesn't show often, let's hear your side of the story. Why do you do it?

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By *arleyBearMan
over a year ago

Chester

I think time wasters and no show come in various disguise…. There are the ones that just chat for ages and then just go off line and the ones that promise to arrange a meet you tomorrow, never to be seen again. I don’t really mind them you get to know them as you talk more to that type. Then they are the ones that go out of their way to mislead you the type that give you a wrong address or promise to meet at a location or say I am on my way and never turn up no excuse or apology….those are the worst

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Giving you the wrong address could potentially be a criminal offence. At the very least it's malicious communication.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had one stand me up...!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hit "report" on their profile, not sure if it's new or not but there's a arranged to meet didn't turn up box!

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By *omo-ErectusMan
over a year ago

Bolton

"Hit "report" on their profile, not sure if it's new or not but there's a arranged to meet didn't turn up box!"

Yep, second from bottom. More people need to use this

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By *miecdTV/TS
over a year ago

Doncaster

Ha I get it often and it’s a pain in the arse when I take 2 hrs to get ready for them grr lol x

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By *inkyslut69Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

Lads have always had second thoughts, it's natural snd part and parcel of playing with men x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had 3 no-show meets in 7 days, all from 'I'm genuine' guys. I actually stay on here for the entertainment, love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many no shows infuriating when uv prept as a bottom.

DEFINITELY..... I've lost count of the times I've douched thoroughly after agreeing to a meet and then find that it's a no show and I've been ghosted !"
what does ghosted mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Giving you the wrong address could potentially be a criminal offence. At the very least it's malicious communication."

That happened to me to the point when I buzzed the buzzer for entry to building snd guy said who is it ? Something about his surprise and tone led me to believe that I’d been given the wrong address deliberately . As it turned out original guy re messaged me 2 hours later as if nothing had happened - I asked him why he gave me the wrong address he said he just bottled it . Blocked him . Could have been very tricky situation if I had gone to the wrong door .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Loads of contact then suddenly quiet and doesn't respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have any stats to back this up, but I’d guess a big chunk of non-malicious ‘no-shows’ are people basically blowing their load before managing to get out the door and being too embarrassed to say!

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By *rodsham guyMan
over a year ago

FRODSHAM

Sounds about right

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By *oungWantedMan
over a year ago

Newcastle - Throckley

On a slightly related note

I once had a guy misread my door number and went to the wrong house

He sent me every expletive under the sun until he realised

He did apologise and we did eventually meet

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By *rodsham guyMan
over a year ago

FRODSHAM

I had a guy text me saying just parked up then another text saying sorry stepped out and cum in my pants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha! Taking that as evidence of my ‘blowing their load’ theory (although in this case he told you)

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By *ames WhyteMan
over a year ago

Near Manchester Airport

I reckon they have a wank and cum, then start feeling guilty and write off a meet as a bad idea, until next time.. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be one of the lucky ones. Never happened to me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's entirely plausible.

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By *imon5262Man
over a year ago

Grantham

I had a guy asked me to meet at a certain time/place,had been chatting for a while I got to the meet no one there I waited still no show,tried to message him and he had blocked me that's the worst kind of meet for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to fab guys!

Been on and off over years, always left for same reason, time waster’s…

They fall into category of:

Time waster’s

Keyboard wankers

Fantasy idiots

Plus the odd genuine one…

Best are the ones who put on profile, can’t accommodate or travel!

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By *ecky911TV/TS
over a year ago

wrexham

Had few worse are when they give ya fake address

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By *eil30Man
over a year ago

North East

It is always good to remember not to take sites like this one too seriously! It is a Walter Mitty, make belief world full of individual characters who,in real life you would not necessarily give a second glance!

That is why I do not do blind meets, and then only on my terms. I have had, and am having, some excellent meets with super guys from this site.

Arranging to meet up with total strangers is always fraught with the possibility of real disappointment on both sides.

Never travel too far, ask them to leave their front door ajar, if you get as far in getting the housenumber...keep your car parked nearby and your possessions safe. If all that fails, just move on from it with a smile...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon they have a wank and cum, then start feeling guilty and write off a meet as a bad idea, until next time.. .. "

I agree with that and I don’t mind IF they message to say they’re not meeting. I don’t care how lame the reason is, so long as they stop me from making a wasted journey. It’s the malicious ones who set you up knowing they’re never going to show.

Fortunately I have enough experience to out most.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't understand what these morons get out of arranging meets knowing they aren't gonna turn up. Probably the same people that don't turn up for job interviews or doctors appointments!

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By *anm56Man
over a year ago

Barrow

I’ve posted about this before it’s terrible in Barrow where I live

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By *etstalkMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"On a slightly related note

I once had a guy misread my door number and went to the wrong house

He sent me every expletive under the sun until he realised

He did apologise and we did eventually meet"

This made me LOL!

Glad it all came good in the end!

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By *etstalkMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I insists on a pre-meet first. Somewhere public for a coffee.

If they can’t/wont commit to that - that they’re not for me.

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By *ungbum40Man
over a year ago

York

"Hit "report" on their profile, not sure if it's new or not but there's a arranged to meet didn't turn up box!

Yep, second from bottom. More people need to use this"

Except if they block you (minutes before the meet as you’re parking) you can’t see their profile to report them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think you can report from their message thread which is still there after they have blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon they have a wank and cum, then start feeling guilty and write off a meet as a bad idea, until next time.. .. "

I agree. After guys cum, they cease to be horny and they decide they don't need to meet. I have had so many time wasters - ones who message me for ages and agree to meet, then just disappear. Some even have verifications! What are these people doing??? Pointless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Welcome to fab guys!

Been on and off over years, always left for same reason, time waster’s…

They fall into category of:

Time waster’s

Keyboard wankers

Fantasy idiots

Plus the odd genuine one…

Best are the ones who put on profile, can’t accommodate or travel!"

YES!!! How can they meet if they can't do anywhere or take guests???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To all you genuine guys out there, please message me to arrange a meet up if you're in my area. I am desperate to suck big smooth hard cocks and get my ass fucked. I even book & pay for my own hotel room ffs and I'm still getting pissed about by time wasters! It's so depressing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined had 3 no shows, one tried to blame me for not showing up, luckily I took a picture including the clock on my dashboard!

Must admit iv can to cancel from things coming but iv messaged and explained why, surly it’s just the right thing to do???

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By *mblerMan
over a year ago

Goole

"I had a guy asked me to meet at a certain time/place,had been chatting for a while I got to the meet no one there I waited still no show,tried to message him and he had blocked me that's the worst kind of meet for me."

I’ve had this - so fucking annoying

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By *land89Man
over a year ago

Saltwell Gateshead

It's bad enough when they simply don't show - but when you try and send them a message and they have blocked you. It's not you that did anything wrong. Their should be some way of reporting "no shows" to the admin and then some sort of indicator on the page of persistent offenders so that other people don't waste their time.

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By *land89Man
over a year ago

Saltwell Gateshead

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By *land89Man
over a year ago

Saltwell Gateshead

"Hit "report" on their profile, not sure if it's new or not but there's a arranged to meet didn't turn up box!

Yep, second from bottom. More people need to use this

Except if they block you (minutes before the meet as you’re parking) you can’t see their profile to report them"

Didn't know that button was there thanks for mentioning it. I shall be using it in future and I hope something happens to regular, persistent offenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone who asks you to 'just turn up and walk in'....

MASSIVE RED FLAG AND SIRENS

Aint going anywhere near someone who has that or similar or profile or posts.

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By *u2usemeMan
over a year ago

hyde

"Too many no shows infuriating when uv prept as a bottom.

DEFINITELY..... I've lost count of the times I've douched thoroughly after agreeing to a meet and then find that it's a no show and I've been ghosted !"

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By *u2usemeMan
over a year ago

hyde

I put on my profile not meeting because I am never sure when I am free so don't like to waste guys time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whenever I see the word 'genuine', I know they won't meet......just sayin'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Giving you the wrong address could potentially be a criminal offence. At the very least it's malicious communication."
an how would they police that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hit "report" on their profile, not sure if it's new or not but there's a arranged to meet didn't turn up box!

Yep, second from bottom. More people need to use this

Except if they block you (minutes before the meet as you’re parking) you can’t see their profile to report them

Didn't know that button was there thanks for mentioning it. I shall be using it in future and I hope something happens to regular, persistent offenders."
report away admin do fuck all about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A guy last week thought I was 'so hot'. Has now blocked me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had 1 know that's twice with the same sad gut

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By *ights loverMan
over a year ago

hexham

I was supposed to meet at guy last week. We exchanged a few texts and he asked if I wanted to meet him where he lives in a small village near me. I said yes and got all excited then he asked for a face pic swap which we did and I just presumed he was genuine. He then asked for pictures of me dressed in my sexy gear before driving to his place which I sent him two pics. I then told him I was driving to his village and he told me to hurry up because he was so horny. Then it happened I texted to say I was close and nothing???? God why do these people do this!!!?? I was going to complain and post his name on here but got scared as he had my face pic and I’m on here in secret x

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By *eanne1969TV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

I know how you feel I've had that sobe to many times

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By *land89Man
over a year ago

Saltwell Gateshead

There is a report button on the guys profile page. hit that and there is an option for "no show" and you can have you're say about what happened. Don't know how effective it is. I agree there should be some sort of indicator on a profile page saying x number of no shows reported - unfortunately this could be misused by some of the plonkers on this site and they just report you because you said no or even for the fun of it - not sure what what the answer is but it is very frustrating and annoying. Fortunately there are a good number of genuine people on tis site as well.

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By *elly74Man
over a year ago

selby

I hate I meet you I see you don't turn up then there block you

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By *heerNylonzMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Should there be a button to click when a guy doesn't show for a meet and number of no shows appear on their profile just like verifications?.......

Sounds good to me! You cancel all other offers because they responded first..then you sit like a lemon waiting for them and they dont answer you messages even though theyre online and most likely have no intentions of coming anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had guys let me down. Say there coming. So i rush round and prepare... only to get nothing, silence. It happens and goes with the teritory. Thankfully i dont get it happen alot. Disappointing, but just get back up and go again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a couple. Always surprises me as the people who did seemed very genuine. Cancellation is one thing but a complete no show is not acceptable. If I agree to meet I always do. If I have to cancel I give as much notice as possible.

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By *om9Man
over a year ago

Saint Helens

"Ha I get it often and it’s a pain in the arse when I take 2 hrs to get ready for them grr lol x "

Don't understand y people do that if I was meeting u I'd be excited and couldn't wait

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By *atmandoMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

"Should there be a button to click when a guy doesn't show for a meet and number of no shows appear on their profile just like verifications?.......

The problem here is that they just delete their profile and make another....!!!!

Big circles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I do dude is name an shame them and then report them for not showing up to meet simple should get the profile banned nothing worse then a time waster an a no show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I've put on my status update...why do guys who have no intention of meeting, send you that first message? Really intrigues me, actually.

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By *V ShazTV/TS
over a year ago

Haydock

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By *V ShazTV/TS
over a year ago

Haydock

"Should there be a button to click when a guy doesn't show for a meet and number of no shows appear on their profile just like verifications?.......

Excellent idea...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Should there be a button to click when a guy doesn't show for a meet and number of no shows appear on their profile just like verifications?.......

Excellent idea...x"

Absolutely. Well said.

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By *atmandoMan
over a year ago

Gateshead

"As I've put on my status update...why do guys who have no intention of meeting, send you that first message? Really intrigues me, actually."

Agreed mate.

Bit like guys who message you but you are outside of their age range. Why.....? Then when you reply and ask them why they messaged you they block you as if you have done something wrong....!

Beats me...!

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By *aptain200Man
over a year ago

Wigton

It's just common courtesy. I've had to cancel a meet here and there. I will always say that I can't make it with as much notice as I can. Life happens, but it's the least you can do to let people know.

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By *maller6averageMan
over a year ago

GATESHEAD

Experience the situation three times, arranging a meet then the two tv's just go off line for a month just unfriended them,it's a let down as not many that keen or maybe there spolt for choice

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By *_revMan
over a year ago

Birkenhead

On a couple of occasions I have been able to accommodate. Each time had no shows

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By *ombat62Man
over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

I arranged to meet a guy in Frodsham luckily only 20 minute drive got there knocked on door no answer waited a bit knocked again. Still no answer. He was definitely in because the walley must have for got you can still see through frosted Glass which his front door had top to bottom and could see him walking past and standing in side.

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By *rishTedMan
over a year ago

Manchester

It is most frustrating. Guess these guys lose their nerve.

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By *eversayNever200Man
over a year ago

Kendal

Just had one do it to me.

So keen & horny to meet me when chatting last night. Maybe in the cold light of day without the booze or the & his hand pumping his cock he has bottled.

I don’t mind that tbh but ghosting me now is just rude.

comehereforcocks very obviously didn’t!

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By *endmeoverpleaseMan
over a year ago

nr Bourne lincs

Sites full of people looking at ur pics or talk about it on here

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By *nthony 2.0Man
over a year ago

ear Oldham

"Sites full of people looking at ur pics or talk about it on here "

Agreed, just too many, but I guess people will mess around like they don’t if they can get a cheap wank out of it

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By *heerNylonzMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Sometimes a quick cummer can be just as frustrating.They get undressed..you just touch them and poof, they cum. Total time travelled 45 mins, total meet time 3 mins , then get stuck in traffic on the way home , home 2hrs later

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By *nthony 2.0Man
over a year ago

ear Oldham

What I don’t like is people you strike a conversation up with let it lead it’s natural course get to stage where your discussing a possible meet then they quiet!! What’s all that about !!

This site love it and hate it

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By *tr8m8bfastMan
over a year ago

belfast

"Sometimes a quick cummer can be just as frustrating.They get undressed..you just touch them and poof, they cum. Total time travelled 45 mins, total meet time 3 mins , then get stuck in traffic on the way home , home 2hrs later

Sorry about that. I was just excited.

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By *ewfun_ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Be aware of an insecure little man who if he doesn’t like your message sends you abuse then threatens to list you as a time water for daring to message him

Paul1982

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By *ewfun_ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

"Be aware of an insecure little man who if he doesn’t like your message sends you abuse then threatens to list you as a time water for daring to message him

Paul1982 "

Aka louvslut 68

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m having a no show… if I block can he still read the emails I’ve sent? Don’t want him randomly turning up much later… he said 30 min that was over an hour ago no contact

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By *ingo69Man
over a year ago

North Staffordshire / South Cheshire border

I had one yesterday got to the address and was blocked ,was reported to admin

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By *ewfun_ukTV/TS
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Guy who sent me abuse message got blocked so he used another account to reply

The irony of it

“Well look like your illiterate you cannot string a sentence together without swearing”

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By *amie 200Man
over a year ago

rock ferry

Need banning of the site

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By *llover4cockMan
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *llover4cockMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Anyone who asks you to 'just turn up and walk in'....

MASSIVE RED FLAG AND SIRENS

Aint going anywhere near someone who has that or similar or profile or posts."

Oh I don't know I've had several genuine horny meets like that.

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By *iganbttmMan
over a year ago

wigan

They’re getting worse. Every fucking platform.

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By *land89Man
over a year ago

Saltwell Gateshead

Well another no show - but his loss was my gain - last minute meet with a youngish lad who shot a great load into my mouth then ten minutes after he left a message from another who was passing and asked if I wanted to get fucked " a quickie". Hell yeah.

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By *bs4dMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I’ve been lucky to never have a no show (plenty of time wasters).

I’ve felt terrible having to cancel last minute a few times, but guys are usually understanding about it. The first guy I ever met online I had to cancel on and I had to practically beg to give me a second chance (which luckily he did because damn he was hot!)

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By *att16Man
27 weeks ago

Edinburgh

There absolutely should be a no show button...however, there has to be evidence of the agreed meet before the 'no show' button appears, only to prevent malicious use

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By *ora AliceTV/TS
4 days ago

Leeds

YES!

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By *mblerMan
3 days ago

Goole

I had one today - he was keen on the meet, wanted it and described everything he wanted to do. I made some hasty plans which wasn’t easy to do only for him to ghost me at the last minute Pathetic and annoying especially when I gave him the option to pull out of the meet. Really unnecessary to treat people like that.

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By *aul_bcMan
3 days ago

Kendal

"I had one today - he was keen on the meet, wanted it and described everything he wanted to do. I made some hasty plans which wasn’t easy to do only for him to ghost me at the last minute Pathetic and annoying especially when I gave him the option to pull out of the meet. Really unnecessary to treat people like that. "

I find the ones that are the most specific about what they want and chat a lot what were going to do - over and above just getting to know what we each like and expect - are more often than not the ones wanking while they chat and will disappear as soon as they shoot their load.

But some genuinely do get cold feet and get too embarrassed to cancel. I had a guy who I know travelled 15miles all the way to my postcode (showed as nearby around meeting time) only to go quiet and 30 minutes later was showing as 15 miles away.

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By *ateshead24Man
2 days ago

gateshead

"I had a guy text me saying just parked up then another text saying sorry stepped out and cum in my pants "

That happened to me once I went to walk in guys house he stopped me then I realised I was at wrong house I was mortified. Worse was geezer I was meant to meet didn't believe me and blocked me. He was hot too

But typical of dopey me 😆

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By *ayJayJay1000Man
2 days ago

skipton

It is truly maddening! Happened to me today after weeks of chatting etc…

So much time wasted. Live and learn

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By *way 888Man
2 days ago

oldham

"I dont mind, if they tell you they can't make it, I've had to cancel due things you can't do anything about.

But no shows without telling you, yes let it be known."

This is right. If somebody can’t make it or has 2nd thoughts, it’s only right to let the other person know.

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By *ayJayJay1000Man
2 days ago

skipton

Exactly that*^

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By *iganbiviewguyMan
1 day ago

wigan

Had a few no shows and been one myself but I always try to inform soon as possible of change of circumstances.... Not always possible. ... That's life I guess but I would never slag off someone for changing their minds ...

It's not a written contract " I the above will turn up and suck/fuck with you !! ) it's the nature of the beast .

Cottaging location being closed left right and centre spoiling the fun of random meets.

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By *loverfieldMan
1 day ago

Dalton, Cumbria

"Had a few no shows and been one myself but I always try to inform soon as possible of change of circumstances.... Not always possible. ... That's life I guess but I would never slag off someone for changing their minds ...

It's not a written contract " I the above will turn up and suck/fuck with you !! ) it's the nature of the beast .

Cottaging location being closed left right and centre spoiling the fun of random meets. "

How is it not always possible to inform someone in advance that you can't make it?

You have a change of circumstances, you send a message to the person you were supposed to meet, job done.

Seriously...

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By *lison tvTV/TS
1 day ago

where i live

I ask for a mobile number if it late at night say sort it in morning funny how many times I get blocked there loss not mine if it a site supporters if they block them it is a £5 they lost

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By *ky high coconutTV/TS
7 hours ago

Hazel Grove/Poynton

Got stood up this morning! last meet before hospital admission.

Prepped everything possible!

Really made the effort.

No communication from him!

Didn't show....

Then he blocked me on fab.

Name and shame menu required.

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By *un321Man
7 hours ago

crosby

No show with me this evening. Gave address and chatted for ages then decide to not come. Jokers most of them

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By *un321Man
7 hours ago

crosby

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By *ishop666Man
7 hours ago

ls19

Can be rather annoying

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By *uy49Man
7 hours ago

Barnsley

Proper pisses me off just have guys to say not coming

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By *oss432Man
7 hours ago

Kilcock

in my opinion there needs to be a rethink by the site owners,

you can block someone for whatever reason yet they can change their profile name and be back on to you in 5 minutes,

same goes if you want a button that lists them as time wasters they just change names and have a clean slate,

how many bad verifications has anyone read on here ??? none

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By *mblerMan
6 hours ago

Goole

"No show with me this evening. Gave address and chatted for ages then decide to not come. Jokers most of them "

Yup, I had exactly the same earlier toy

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By *uy49Man
6 hours ago

Barnsley

Frustrating

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By *iCruiserMan
6 hours ago

Aylesbury

"I've been fairly lucky in that I've only experienced a couple of no shows since being on this site. Yesterday I was chatting to someone who clearly has low self esteem and he opened up to me. He told me that no shows and time wasters really affect his mental health and cause him much anxiety and deep depression! I suggested he comes off the site and he replied "why should I". He has a point, why should he!

That aside, time wasters cause others to stop using this site, and, that spoils the fun for the rest of us.

Should there be a button to click when a guy doesn't show for a meet and number of no shows appear on their profile just like verifications?

Just a thought."

Yes a karma button on their profile good or bad not just bad might help 😁

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