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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham

Just chatting to a fella there. All’s well. Not the most riveting conversation I’ve ever had, But there was no problems and absolutely no animosity.

I sent a friend request.

Then BLOCKED

Really?

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By *ishop666Man
2 weeks ago

ls19

Just had Same

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By *anbidadMan
2 weeks ago

East Lancs

Some including myself don’t consider a chat to equate to being friends on here. It’s not Facebook. If all was going well you should bus e at least asked first. Probably thinks you’re just a pic collector. I’d have done the same.

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By *eta56Man
2 weeks ago

Warrington/Manchester

You've been a member for over a year, your profile is blank and you have no verifications. I'm guessing that your first message was "Hi".

I would have blocked you after you had viewed my profile.

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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham


"Some including myself don’t consider a chat to equate to being friends on here. It’s not Facebook. If all was going well you should bus e at least asked first. Probably thinks you’re just a pic collector. I’d have done the same. "

That maybe so (chat not equating to being friends) …. But BLOCKING? Overzealous.

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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham


"You've been a member for over a year, your profile is blank and you have no verifications. I'm guessing that your first message was "Hi".

I would have blocked you after you had viewed my profile."

Firstly. You’re wrong (my first message wasn’t “Hi”

Secondly. You’d never have the opportunity to block me, because I’d never message you in the first place.

*If you’re straight talking, I’m straight talking.

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By *ldhamGuy14Man
2 weeks ago

Around

I always look at this online stuff from a bar perspective. If you were in a bar, and you walked up to someone to speak with them, they’re going to be courteous to you at the start, and reciprocate. Then, if they aren’t attracted to you, they’re going to make their excuse and walk away. “My friends are over there. Bye.” You wouldn’t follow them and start questioning why they don’t want to stand and talk with you any more. You’d just have to accept the fact that they weren’t interested.

Let’s face it, your profile is very bland. The pictures give very little indication of what you actually look like. If you want someone to show you genuine interest, you have to make them interested in you. If you were in a bar, you wouldn’t walk up to someone, arsehole first, or your face and body covered except for a cut out with your dick showing, or a tit out. People want to see the whole thing, face included. Messages from profiles with close ups of random body parts, or just cock shots, or no pictures at all get deleted without a response, for me.

This isn’t blind date.

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By *iBJcoastMan
2 weeks ago

North Shields

Your profile is terrible and expecting to be friends with someone you've not met is weird.

Most people reserve friends for people they've met.

I block anyone who tries to friend me without a discussion first as it shows a complete lack of social awareness.

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By *ndiesfanMan
2 weeks ago

St Helens


"I always look at this online stuff from a bar perspective. If you were in a bar, and you walked up to someone to speak with them, they’re going to be courteous to you at the start, and reciprocate. Then, if they aren’t attracted to you, they’re going to make their excuse and walk away. “My friends are over there. Bye.” You wouldn’t follow them and start questioning why they don’t want to stand and talk with you any more. You’d just have to accept the fact that they weren’t interested.

Let’s face it, your profile is very bland. The pictures give very little indication of what you actually look like. If you want someone to show you genuine interest, you have to make them interested in you. If you were in a bar, you wouldn’t walk up to someone, arsehole first, or your face and body covered except for a cut out with your dick showing, or a tit out. People want to see the whole thing, face included. Messages from profiles with close ups of random body parts, or just cock shots, or no pictures at all get deleted without a response, for me.

This isn’t blind date. "

Exactly this!

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By *essa_MTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Luton


"Some including myself don’t consider a chat to equate to being friends on here. It’s not Facebook. If all was going well you should bus e at least asked first. Probably thinks you’re just a pic collector. I’d have done the same.

That maybe so (chat not equating to being friends) …. But BLOCKING? Overzealous. "

Really. Had someone recently who sends the hi message. Gets ignored because on my profile it says it will unlikely get a response

Couple of days later same guy hi. Gets ignored 10 minutes later he knows I’ve read it I get “typical no response”. Obviously he hasn’t read my profile. He has next to nothing on his. Blocked. Now he can’t see the profile but as he didn’t really look at it. No worries. At least he can no longer send hi messages to me

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By *ran 70TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Lytham

The problem is nobody reads a profile I only meet t-girls or other dressers but I get lot's of guys asking to meet and they are straight so blocked immediately

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By *eatherloverukMan
2 weeks ago

near Skegness

nobody reads profiles this is where half the problem stems from, read the profile send an interesting message you'll most likely get a reply etc, if not just move on

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By *arleyBearMan
2 weeks ago

Chester

Over a year without a verification is a no no from me but I wouldn’t have blocked just no thank you. Don’t take it personally some guys block to save time when looking for contacts

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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham


"Over a year without a verification is a no no from me but I wouldn’t have blocked just no thank you. Don’t take it personally some guys block to save time when looking for contacts "

Exactly. The blocking is the point.

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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham


"I always look at this online stuff from a bar perspective. If you were in a bar, and you walked up to someone to speak with them, they’re going to be courteous to you at the start, and reciprocate. Then, if they aren’t attracted to you, they’re going to make their excuse and walk away. “My friends are over there. Bye.” You wouldn’t follow them and start questioning why they don’t want to stand and talk with you any more. You’d just have to accept the fact that they weren’t interested.

Let’s face it, your profile is very bland. The pictures give very little indication of what you actually look like. If you want someone to show you genuine interest, you have to make them interested in you. If you were in a bar, you wouldn’t walk up to someone, arsehole first, or your face and body covered except for a cut out with your dick showing, or a tit out. People want to see the whole thing, face included. Messages from profiles with close ups of random body parts, or just cock shots, or no pictures at all get deleted without a response, for me.

This isn’t blind date. "

I agree with you in part. The bar analogy is a fair one. But without posting messages (which I won’t) you’ll just have to take my word for it that we were “chatting” friendly and cordially. We had shared numerous messages EACH. I sent a friend request and sent him a message telling him so.

BLOCK (hence the thread)

Separately to that. People are on different timelines of their gay/bi experience. And we’re not all the same. One size doesn’t fit all etc etc. I am an absolute novice in this life/scene. And I tell anybody that I talk to exactly that in the first message.

And surly talking to somebody is the best way at getting to know somebody? Much more than pictures or a bio.

That being said, I’ll accept that at the moment I don’t really know the abbreviations, dialogue etiquette.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

It happens to us all and sometimes you never know why and almost every time I think ‘phew!’

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By *umbiar3Man
2 weeks ago

penrith


"Over a year without a verification is a no no from me but I wouldn’t have blocked just no thank you. Don’t take it personally some guys block to save time when looking for contacts "

I agree in part, though some of my best meets have been with un-veried guys, and I have carefully douched and spent time tidying etc for guys with several veries who didn't show up. Veries aren't the be all and end all in my experience.

The guys I can't work out are those that think I will pick them up, or pay for their petrol, or have profiles saying "can't accom or travel". What's that all about?

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By *uskWandererMan
2 weeks ago

Ormskirk

Unverified can be a red flag, but I come under that flag. I have been here quite a while and things haven't aligned and when I first joined I wasn't aiming for a meet (my bio said so) as we exploring myself.

But I have enjoyed the social side of things (hell been on the cams here more than a few times for people's enjoyment haha)

Different people, different ways of working. Unfortunately just a case of having to move on and find the right one eventually

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By *earNTear61Man
2 weeks ago

Paisley

Received a message from a user asking if I would be up for a meet. I took a look at their profile and read it thoroughly. Sent a meaningful response only to find I had blocked and he had left a message "How rude. You won't get anywhere on here with that attitude loser". Blocked because I had failed to answer him within 7 mins of his first message.

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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham

Maybe I’m coming from more of a straight world ethos …. But surely, in any world. TALKING is the best way to get to know somebody.

Some of the comments on here are crazy. I mean “meeting” up in person before you accept a friend request?!!!!! Surely it’s the other way around.

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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham


"Received a message from a user asking if I would be up for a meet. I took a look at their profile and read it thoroughly. Sent a meaningful response only to find I had blocked and he had left a message "How rude. You won't get anywhere on here with that attitude loser". Blocked because I had failed to answer him within 7 mins of his first message."

Haha. It’s the age of the internet. “The power of the mouse” haha

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By *nalplay7Man
2 weeks ago

PRESTON


"Just chatting to a fella there. All’s well. Not the most riveting conversation I’ve ever had, But there was no problems and absolutely no animosity.

I sent a friend request.

Then BLOCKED was it possible too soon after just one chat he may have thought you just wanted to see his friends only pics, just a thought.

Really? "

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By *nalplay7Man
2 weeks ago

PRESTON


"Some including myself don’t consider a chat to equate to being friends on here. It’s not Facebook. If all was going well you should bus e at least asked first. Probably thinks you’re just a pic collector. I’d have done the same. "

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By *ohnmikeMan
2 weeks ago

county limerick

My god fellows are very choosy a lot of ye need to study psychology

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By *autiously_curiousMan
2 weeks ago

Craigavon

Its been a real eye opener since coming on here. Guys chat and flirt. And they ask questions. And you answer. But once they don't like your answer... you get ghosted.

Had a guy message over a 2 day period. Asking quesrions flirting. He asked if I kiss. I said yes if the guy is clean shaven but not keen on stubble... that it seems was enough to drop the manners and ghost lol!

It seems common on here

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By *autiously_curiousMan
2 weeks ago

Craigavon

Not saying its everyone. Some guys are great and have had some great meets and chats.

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By *OTTOMONLY69Man
2 weeks ago

seaforth

Very true what you say

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By *way 888 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

oldham


"Its been a real eye opener since coming on here. Guys chat and flirt. And they ask questions. And you answer. But once they don't like your answer... you get ghosted.

Had a guy message over a 2 day period. Asking quesrions flirting. He asked if I kiss. I said yes if the guy is clean shaven but not keen on stubble... that it seems was enough to drop the manners and ghost lol!

It seems common on here"

There’s nothing wrong with liking what you like. Or not being into somebody. Just tell me “not for me my mate, take care”. … An out of of the blue block. It’s just not cricket haha

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By *autiously_curiousMan
1 week ago

Craigavon


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There’s nothing wrong with liking what you like. Or not being into somebody. Just tell me “not for me my mate, take care”. … An out of of the blue block. It’s just not cricket haha "

My point exactly... manners cost nothing.

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By *AM2214Man
1 week ago

Central Lakes

Some great, thoughtful responses. I know I've messaged one of the people here having seen a comment similar to their response on your post. Like most of us that are married to a woman no face pics open profile...doesn't mean I won't share them...it's the only way for people to say BJeez you are ugly/fat/sorry not my type (obviously prefer the latter)

It's also possible it is you who blocked as the friend request and block are right next to each other ...

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By *_revMan
1 week ago

Birkenhead

Welcome to the site

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By *u2usemeMan
1 week ago

hyde

Not sure looking at some replies they really get what this site is about why do you need veris meeting before accepting friends oh dear.

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By *elony melonsTV/TS
1 week ago

Near Lancaster

We all dont know the full story, I expect.

There may have been persistent messages without a reply. Add in the reasons other people mentioned as well as the bad profile and there you have it. Frankly given the bad profile it was a stroke of luck to get a reply in the first place.

However, sometimes people's behaviour is just odd. I've clicked on profiles before to find myself blocked having had absolutely zero contact. Just plain odd.

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