FabGuys.com forum: Advice please

By (user no longer on site) OP
4 weeks ago

Hi, thanks for reading this. My membership expires in ten days. I'm wondering if it's worth continuing. I have spoken to a few people, some interesting conversations, but they never seem to go anywhere. Is it something I'm doing wrong?

I will freely admit to having been on and off this site a couple of times in the last couple of years. Life has been somewhat challenging, so that has taken priority. Ultimately the life issues resulted in me taking early retirement in January and moving from long working hours, 60 to 70 hour weeks in high stress situations to a part time role. The part time role being just to stop me becoming a couch potato. Family illness also took its toll for a while.

I will openly admit to being very nervous, but willing. So I've always wanted to chat first rather than dive straigh in, to build confidence and understanding. I'm very inexperienced, and try to explain that in conversation. I'm also limited in time, and therefore distance I can travel. Life demands that I can never accomodate.

So the question is. What am I doing wrong? How do I change that?

Thanks for reading. Frustration is starting to outweigh interest.

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By *neakerBearMan
4 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Only you can really decide if it's worth it or not. I honestly think for the price charged, it's worth every penny whether you're meeting people or just chatting and building up connections that way.

I don't think it's you doing anything wrong though. Like all these apps, there are a lot of time wasters and people who get off on pictures and never meet up.

As you've got personal issues going on and had work issues etc, coupled with little time, people may see that as you using an excuse to not meet, but fuck em. That's their problem and not yours. If people can't understand or show compassion, it speaks volumes about them and not you.

Personally I only meet people I feel a connection with and who I'm comfortable with chatting and like to get to know them first, some people don't want that and that's fine.

Only you can know what you want to get out of using this site. But there are a lot of great people

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By *amie1402Man
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

Membership doesn’t expire unless you delete it.

Site supporter expires and you have to decide whether to renew that or not

Worth it in my view

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By *entraMan
4 weeks ago

Horbury

For what is worth I often think the same, but then realise it offers some release and some opportunity when I am ready. Its difficult for me also, gue to ommitments etc. I'll move on from a conversation if i don't feel comfortable and if that makes me one the 'timewasters' well so be it.

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By *iddxMan
4 weeks ago

Heathrow

It’s not that you are doing anything wrong.

For two people to meet, timings, accommodation, and likings all should match.

Some people are happy to meet up easily, but some are particular about things.

Like the previous message, someone might find me a time waster just because I got involved in a conversation to find out about the other person and decide against meeting them.

Looks like there is so much going on with your life.. so you can have the free account until you are ready for more and need the upgrade.

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By *ove the filthMan
4 weeks ago

Carlisle

You say you are very nervous and willing. Sometimes they clash amongst themselves. The willing part is great. The nervous part might be your downfall. Example: yes you are wanting to meet,you have chatted and ready to play. The nervous part kicks in and you suddenly are having second thoughts so u back down. Then start the whole process again trying with someone else. Personally for me I am 71. Body wise not a lot going for me. I am not pretty,I am not well endowed, who the fuck would be interested. So I changed my approach and I offer myself to be used for a gentleman to use me to do what they like. No reciprocation needed. I get a very good percentage of men and returning men coming back for more. My sex life is now very much fulfilled and I love it. A friend of mine advertiseds himself as young at heart. That is not going to attract sex buddies. Men want to hear the words I am looking for men to suck to fuck me or whatever it is you need. Try being a bit more raunchier in your promotional ad. You prob will manage to pick up more. Go for it. If it's not for u when u get there say so. No sorry mate it's not working out. Stand up and say so. Don't back out when making arrangements. You probably will like it. Push yourself forward and take a chance.

This is just my advice. I hope it helps. Make a connection and see it through. You have the option to say no and leave if you dont like it. I wish you well

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