FabGuys.com forum: Ghosted when having travelled

By *pengler OP Man
3 weeks ago

Manchester

Having travelled all the way to Warrington only to be ghosted on arrival. How can we inform each other of pernicious time wasters ?

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By *illie321 99Man
3 weeks ago

fylde

I had the same, he answered the door and even had the nerve to say he wasn’t that person in the photo

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By *uburn3Man
3 weeks ago

Greater Manchester

Iv had a couple of situations like this, one had me parked outside his house for ages before i finaly left, another wouldnt give the door number when i arrived, the only thing i can advise is dont travel until your 100% sure its gona happen, lots of fantasists on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I totally agree don't travel until you're sure.

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By *V ShazTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Haydock

Why travel at all... Stay local and support local

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By *astyBottomMan
3 weeks ago

Crewe

I'm extremely wary when people only give a postcode.

I've travelled 20 miles before and had someone tell me when I was 10 minutes away that they were still up for it... as soon as I was outside they said they'd met someone else.

This site won't change anything to protect us genuines from the time wasters, so it's on ourselves to set boundaries and pay attention to the red flags

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By *r ScarletTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Manchester

I had this from over on the sister site. Two days of messages telling me this that and the other, asking for me to come dressed, which was a first for me to travel like that at least. Gave me his works place address, a little garage on a back lane in Norden, Rochdale. When I got there he was in but refused to answer any messages through the site and kept the shutters pulled almost all the way down on the doors. After 20 mins I gave up on the meet by which time he had deleted all the messages and blocked me. I can only assume he was just getting off on the idea of it all and probably wanking away to himself over it but didn't actually want to meet a guy when it came down to it. Worse part was telling the wife, (yes she is aware I dress and meet guys) I was going out all dressed up and her telling me I was wasting my time on him and then coming home tail between the legs to tell her she was right. It is very annoying, particularly when getting time to meet is always difficult, but it does happen unfortunately.

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By *punky knickersTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Flintshire

Only had it happen to me once after the usual phone calls etc told him I was ordered a taxi and would be on the way shortly got to the flat and he wouldn't buzz me in his phone was switched off ffs then he had blocked me so that is why I only accommodate now

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By *_revMan
3 weeks ago

Birkenhead

I avoid travelling these days for those more than 20 minutes away

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By *orcester GuyMan
3 weeks ago

Worcestershire North

I’ve had one

Never again will it happen

So pissed off stayed off here for ages & close to closing account for good

I have met some great guys with similar interests on here

I generally try to meet at a sauna as have plan b if don’t show etc

It’s not all bad

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By *teven400Man
3 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Ive had it happen twice. Best of it is they have both tried to arrange another meet.

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By *hubbyGayTraffordMan
3 weeks ago

Stretford

I got ghosted recently after a couple of dates with a bloke from here.

I suggested Sexual Health checks before we did anal, then got accused of giving him something.

So prepared to spread things himself between girlfriends and male lovers. Maybe it was a lucky escape .

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By *lut for AnyoneTV/TS
3 weeks ago

WIGAN

Happen to me twice and I was so annoyed. These clowns forget we shower, get ready and them travel. Its hard enough getting a good meet without clowns

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By *pengler OP Man
3 weeks ago

Manchester

"Having travelled all the way to Warrington only to be ghosted on arrival. How can we inform each other of pernicious time wasters ?"

Oh, and anyone wanting to know who he is I will name of you directly message me.

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By *raff chapMan
3 weeks ago

Sale

Name and shame on this thread, they dont deserve any anonymity!

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By *ver45Man
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

A Town near You!

"Name and shame on this thread, they dont deserve any anonymity!"

A reminder that naming and shaming is against forum rules. Members who post naming-and-shaming content may be issued a timeout.

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By *noopmMan
3 weeks ago

Jarrow

It's so annoying happened to me few times got postcode been parked in street no answer when which door it is even worse now petrols a bomb not just my time wasted

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By *pengler OP Man
3 weeks ago

Manchester

"It's so annoying happened to me few times got postcode been parked in street no answer when which door it is even worse now petrols a bomb not just my time wasted "

Yes very true, I travelled to Warrington and back from Manchester and I'm not in a well paid job.

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By *pengler OP Man
3 weeks ago

Manchester

"I totally agree don't travel until you're sure. "

The thing is you can never be 100% sure.

People say don't travel if you only get a post code, but I've had many successful meets from just a post code.

Some say site supporters only, well I've found site supporters to be time wasters.

Just two examples, I'm sure others will have more.

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By *arrogateDadMan
2 weeks ago

Harrogate

I don’t mind if I’m on my way & someone messages to say somethings cropped up or even that they have changed their mind. It’s when you get there as agreed and suddenly your blocked or communication just stops. Nothing you can do about it and I’ve had more good meets than bad over the years, so still prepared to take a chance and take it as part of the game when it happens. Sometimes if your left horny in a new area you get a chance to hook up with someone totally different to the original guy, so that’s a bit of a Brucey Bonus too

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By *ohnny 52TV/TS
2 weeks ago

South Cheshire

What about the ones that you agree to meet give your address to and then they disappear happens all the time

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By *pengler OP Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"What about the ones that you agree to meet give your address to and then they disappear happens all the time "

Absolutely just as bad.

It must be disconcerting if you've give your address to someone who doesn't turn up and ghosts you etc.

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By *eothelionMan
2 weeks ago

cheshire

I’ve traveled and even been on the phone to guy as im pressing his door bell on his flat.

he said im coming now and nothing, wouldn’t even answer his phone after that

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By *imon400.1Man
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

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By *imon400.1Man
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

On an old profile... One guy I was talking to on the other side of the city was interested in me turning up in football kit. Which actually turned me on and leaving mine in football kit was no big deal as I played a few nights a week anyway.

Felt like a right dickhead standing outside his apartment block in the rain. He was showing as "very near" but completely blanking me....

Just my opinion but are they looking out the window getting off on it? Some kind of thrill or fetish?

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By *loverfieldMan
2 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria

What does it say about this site when it will penalise the genuine people for naming and shaming the time wasters, even though admin can see all the messages we've exchanged when setting up a meeting?

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By *loverfieldMan
2 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria

PS: I have never been let down on a meeting myself, just during convos.

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By *imon400.1Man
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

"What does it say about this site when it will penalise the genuine people for naming and shaming the time wasters, even though admin can see all the messages we've exchanged when setting up a meeting?

I suspect the admin would happily allow it but the law won't. So to protect the site from the law, they simply can't allow it.

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By *unnywabbit69Man
2 weeks ago

MANCHESTER

Limited by GDPR etc I'd imagine.

Re: meets - i'd suggest a meet in a club or sauna - if the meet fails, perhaps there are alternative ways to keep amused.

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By *aff2025Man
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

I have a list of timewasters, ones who chat then just go silent and ignore( probably after they cum) also the ones who say they're coming then don't then the ones who have you travel and disappear.🚮

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By *loverfieldMan
2 weeks ago

Dalton-in-Furness, Cumbria

I suspect the admin would happily allow it but the law won't. So to protect the site from the law, they simply can't allow it. "

What do you mean?

Admin have the right to read messages exchanged privately on their site...

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By *55uk4yngrMan
2 weeks ago

Chester

Some people are complete knobheads, good manners cost nothing do they?

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By *eekoMan
2 weeks ago

Wigan

I think that there is away around it,and it depends on how you word it, for example, I was meant to meet person xxxx but couldn't due to my car breaking down, will that be okay with admin?

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By *londebiguyMan
2 weeks ago

near Southport

It's just the chance that you take if you want to meet I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"On an old profile... One guy I was talking to on the other side of the city was interested in me turning up in football kit. Which actually turned me on and leaving mine in football kit was no big deal as I played a few nights a week anyway.

Felt like a right dickhead standing outside his apartment block in the rain. He was showing as "very near" but completely blanking me....

Just my opinion but are they looking out the window getting off on it? Some kind of thrill or fetish?"

I believe they do. Others have told of being sent to the wrong house.

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By *ewmateMan
2 weeks ago

Seaton Delaval

I once went to meet up with somebody who instructed me where to park and gave the door number. When I knocked a doddery old gent opened the door with his elderly wife close by which threw me for a second. So, I politely asked, "Am I at the right house for the pushbike that was advertised on Gumtree that is for sale?"

I returned home to find the bloke that I was supposed to be meeting had blocked me or deleted his account or whatever.

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By *ock snifferMan
2 weeks ago

manchester

GDPR is absolutely not a good reason - it only applies to information where a person is identifiable and most of our names on here don’t do that.

Naming and shaming is the only way to self regulate. I live in Manchester and ghosting like this has happened to me so many times I’ve lost count. I used to have a running list on my profile until it got reported and the mods deleted all the text from my profile not just the names

I try to only accom these days but I still get ghosted which is even worse if they have the full address because you don’t know if they will suddenly turn up when you don’t want them to or cause any other trouble. I just give the postcode now and will give the house number once they’re closer. Always happy to give out a mobile number for full address as that s out the time wasters quickly.

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By *ave.CMan
2 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

From experience,

I won't travel anywhere without the address and house number before I leave, even if only 10 mins away.

I usually only meet people with around 6 verifications, not a guarantee but much less likely to be fake

I very rarely accom, but only with good veri's and usually face pic

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By *ickableMan
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Had to read you twice it was the petrol bomb that got me. yes cost of, eventually penny dropped. LOL

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By *enjonMan
2 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

"Having travelled all the way to Warrington only to be ghosted on arrival. How can we inform each other of pernicious time wasters ?"

Insist on phone contact, it's easy and cheap to have. a burner (or cock phone) as I call it, you can generally sense from the call if they just keyboard wankers or time wasters.

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By *pengler OP Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"Having travelled all the way to Warrington only to be ghosted on arrival. How can we inform each other of pernicious time wasters ?

Insist on phone contact, it's easy and cheap to have. a burner (or cock phone) as I call it, you can generally sense from the call if they just keyboard wankers or time wasters."

Yes could be a good idea.

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By *iketotry2000Man
2 weeks ago

R C T

I travelled an hour once only to find the house number didn't exist. Of course no replies. Chalk it up to experience. When I was able to accommodate I only ever gave postcode plus instructions where to park so I could monitor if they had arrived. Still had people chicken out and drive off after parking up. I respect people's privacy and only ask for a post code myself.

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By *rishTedMan
2 weeks ago

Manchester

I had one last week. Asked me to his hotel before he went off line. Must have lost his nerve. So dissapointing.

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By *lansubNWMan
2 weeks ago

warrington

Went to a address given by a guy in leigh, knocked and yes no answer. Left it a few minutes incase he was out or busy, again no answer so i left

he was prob in one of the other houses in the street watching me, knowing the occupants of this house were at work, getting his pathetic kicks .

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By *pengler OP Man
2 weeks ago

Manchester

"Went to a address given by a guy in leigh, knocked and yes no answer. Left it a few minutes incase he was out or busy, again no answer so i left

he was prob in one of the other houses in the street watching me, knowing the occupants of this house were at work, getting his pathetic kicks . "

Pathetic kicks is right,

I also had one a few years ago, I travelled to Oldham, arrived on the street of said post code, I alerted the guy to the fact of my arrival, only to be taunted as I was clearly being observed from the description of myself that he was giving me.

Nowt as queer as folk as they say over't Pennines.

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