FabGuys.com forum: To Accom Or Not To Accom...

By *ola Lamar OP TV/TS
5 weeks ago

East Ayrshire

That is THE question!

Have you ever wondered how any meetings actually take place when it seems the vast majority of people on here can't (or won't) accommodate?

I'm sure they have their reasons, but do they ever consider that those of us who are prepared to accommodate can't necessarily do so at the drop of a hat and may be a little choosy about who they invite into their home?

If a complete stranger knocked on your door and asked to come in, how would you respond? It's no different when a complete stranger messages you for the first time and asks "are you free today and can you accommodate?". Often they have no photos and/or no verifications, so are they just being wildly optimistic about receiving a positive response? Some are very persistent and message repeatedly.

Some days I get a tad pissed off with these messages flowing in, but also feel churlish about my annoyance with it.

Any thoughts on any of this?

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By *lasgow verse 60s guyMan
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

I deliberately choose not to accom for the following reason: many years ago I did regularly accom and all went well until one day, we had finished and I went to get fresh towels so he could shower before he left. Only after he had gone did I discover so had a watch, some cash (not much but thats not the point) and a couple of other things. None were lying about so he had gone through drawers looking for stuff. NEVER again!

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By *ola Lamar OP TV/TS
5 weeks ago

East Ayrshire

That's absolutely appalling. I can imagine this type of unscrupulous person relies on the high probability the victim won't report it to the police for obvious reasons.

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By *alkbimMan
5 weeks ago

Falkirk

I am very careful about who I invite but do enjoy accommodating

Allows me to be dressed up when they arrive

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By *ola Lamar OP TV/TS
5 weeks ago

East Ayrshire

"I am very careful about who I invite but do enjoy accommodating

Allows me to be dressed up when they arrive "

Yes, that is definitely a plus point.

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By *lanbiglasgowMan
5 weeks ago

glasgow

Yes inviting strangers in your house is dodgy especially when u backs turned

I work Edinburgh regularly amount guys ask me accom I don’t even stay there city is unbelievable I have stopped asked now

If I accom all only meet regular guys

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By *acingfanMan
5 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Money lifted from my wallet years ago. He left my cards. Probably too traceable. Then he went to prison. Although that was nothing to do with me.

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By *utual2Man
5 weeks ago

Angus

I would like the idea of accommodating.

I know I’m safe and would be discrete.

But I’d be wary of neighbours noticing.

Then there’s issue of allowing a total stranger into my home, and now they know where I stay.

It’s one of those you wish you could but common sense says, nope.

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By *alkbimMan
5 weeks ago

Falkirk

"I am very careful about who I invite but do enjoy accommodating

Allows me to be dressed up when they arrive

Yes, that is definitely a plus point. "

Such a turn on answering the door in my lingerie

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By *axxedinMan
5 weeks ago

edinburgh

"That's absolutely appalling. I can imagine this type of unscrupulous person relies on the high probability the victim won't report it to the police for obvious reasons. "

Exactly

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By *ola Lamar OP TV/TS
5 weeks ago

East Ayrshire

All of these comments are making me question the sense of accommodating. I've not had anyone visit me since I moved to my new place and now I'm wondering if I should. Is it any safer being the visitor though? If no one accommodated then there wouldn't be any meetings.

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By *lasgow verse 60s guyMan
5 weeks ago

Glasgow

"All of these comments are making me question the sense of accommodating. I've not had anyone visit me since I moved to my new place and now I'm wondering if I should. Is it any safer being the visitor though? If no one accommodated then there wouldn't be any meetings. "

I have been known to accom someone I've met several times but even that is rare

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By *ilbrydeMan
4 weeks ago

East Kilbride

I only consider accommodating if I have previously met

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By *utual2Man
4 weeks ago

Angus

Yeah, that’s an issue too.

Going to someone else’s place.

You don’t know what you’re getting into.

You hope it’s someone being decent, but could be a bunny boiler or even a set up.

I’ve not had issues when I have gone to someone’s place. I’ve easily left when I’ve not been comfortable,

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By *ilbrydeMan
4 weeks ago

East Kilbride

If I go to someone’s house to meet I insist on them making some visual contact before I go to door. Once bitten twice shy.

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By *ola Lamar OP TV/TS
4 weeks ago

East Ayrshire

I'm beginning to think attending organised events might be safer.

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By *dachiMan
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

No longer live myself and with others in the house working from home now I can never host. Miss it so much. Beyond the occasional uninspiring hook up I never had a problem letting strangers in. Maybe got lucky

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By *ola Lamar OP TV/TS
4 weeks ago

East Ayrshire

Thanks to everyone for your inputs

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By *issaiaTV/TS
3 weeks ago

glasgow

My biggest fear is they turn up unannounced . Or they won't leave so many fears

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By *ornyscot777TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Scotland

"I am very careful about who I invite but do enjoy accommodating

Allows me to be dressed up when they arrive

Yes, that is definitely a plus point.

Such a turn on answering the door in my lingerie "

Definitely, love answering the door fully dressed, couldn’t go to a meet like that..not brave enough!

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By *illad1Man
3 weeks ago

blower

I meet a guy many years ago from gaydar

In balornock in glasgow . Thought was 1 to 1 . I got rapped by 3 guys in that house that's why I never do anal sex with guys now only oral .

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By *ornyfeckerMan
3 weeks ago

Dundee

"I deliberately choose not to accom for the following reason: many years ago I did regularly accom and all went well until one day, we had finished and I went to get fresh towels so he could shower before he left. Only after he had gone did I discover so had a watch, some cash (not much but thats not the point) and a couple of other things. None were lying about so he had gone through drawers looking for stuff. NEVER again!"

I have experienced the same. I am always renovating property so will accom there before i sell it but dont want anyone in my actual home.

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By *acingfanMan
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

You are safer going to someone else's place rather than accommodating. Because if they are going to kill you and do it at their own place, they have to get rid of the body and traces of evidence. At your place, just evidence that they were there.

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By *reameggMan
3 weeks ago

Dundee

I prefer to meet at a sauna or someplace else before I accom.

Has two bad experiences with d*unk guys turning up at crazy times uninvited.

Won't be a third

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