"So, morning after, I thought I would update this with a little bit of my thought process, I’m an over thinker and I’m going to be honest if I’m not somewhere on the spectrum then nobody is:
1. Guys age - 21 in and off itself not entirely an issue for some people, some younger guys like dad/son and I would never kink shame anyone. However
2. He’s 21 and this is his first experience, this suggests someone who’s not out and possibly has suppressed or never acted on earlier impulses for what could be many reasons
3. Probably my first priority in this instance, I’m maybe a bit of a romantic when it comes to this, and I’m putting it down to the fact that when I was young, being gay/bi was illegal and often made you a social pariah at least in normal familial circles. Your first experience should be something a bit more than a fumble with a guy at least twice your age at stupid o’clock, in a car, on a dark deserted road. It’s almost like telling a 4 yr old Santa isn’t real.
4. Given 1&2 there was every possibility that today would have been a bad day for him, massive feelings of guilt, regret probably even self hatred. And all of that leads to dark places often for both parties.
Re-reading this before I post, tells me I am way overthinking it, the age gap alone makes it wrong from my own perspective really, but, this was a bit more complicated for all of the reasons above."
I think you are over analysing the situation. Most 21 year olds, hormones raging would probably at that age go with anything with a pulse ,they are so horny
Don't particularly understand the age thing here , he is 21, a consenting adult
When I was younger , even at 5th grade was attracted to the teachers not other guys my age
This is predominantly a sex site, some decent guys, some not so
But for you if you didn't think the situation felt right then you made the right decision
Time I think to move on |
