FabGuys.com forum: Anal virginity in my 50s

By *SA sucker DD9 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Brechin

I have been sucking guys off intermittently for about 25 years, and really enjoy it. I've turned down the chance to bottom a few times, mostly a long time ago, but planning on changing that soon.

Thing is I'm in my 50s, chubby and hardly agile so probably not the ideal meet for many of my preferred type of guys which are generally younger than me. I have a bit of a cum fetish too like a lot of suckers and would be thrilled to let the first guy do it without a condom if he's willing and assuredly negative.

So other than the obvious difficulty of finding an ideally 25-40 bareback friendly negative top who is into older stocky types (might have one candidate. Fingers crossed!), I am looking for advice.

What position makes sense for a clumsy middle aged virgin? I have ordered lube but does it go on both ends as it were or just on him? I got an anal douche too as obviously got to be clean. Just warm water or anything else? Is there likely to be any fluids leaking out that mean I should have a towel or something underneath us?

Sorry for horribly naive questions but again this part of things is all new to me. Appreciate any thoughts. Thanks.

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By *issnlycraMan
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Definitely put a towel down if you're worried about your bedding/furniture. There's often a bit of lube, etc, coming out.

You probably want to lube your hole, but a lot of this can be discussed with the guy who fucks you - he may want to lube you up.

Probably on your hands and knees is best position for the larger guy, if you're ok staying in that position and don't have bad knees/joints. But again, your top may have a preference.

Warm water is fine for douching. Some people recommend saline, but certainly don't use anything else (not coffee or soap).

Also consider using a butt plug or dildo to open your ass up before sex, if it's your first time.

Have fun!

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By *icechap69Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow

Also an anal virgin who's keen to experience it. Doubt I'd do it bareback though

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By *SA sucker DD9 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Brechin

Yeah I know it's a bit unusual and slightly risky but really want the full feeling at least for the first time. If I keep going with others that would likely change of course. I've had different responses when I have asked but some guys say you can feel the cum itself when a guy shoots inside you and I would imagine that is incredibly sexy if so. It certainly is in the mouth. I just need to be careful with last checked time, prep use etc.

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By *heodoneMan
4 weeks ago

Queensferry

I see you are from Cumnock

Is that an invitation?

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By *ub4daddyukMan
4 weeks ago

Warminster

"I have been sucking guys off intermittently for about 25 years, and really enjoy it. I've turned down the chance to bottom a few times, mostly a long time ago, but planning on changing that soon.

So other than the obvious difficulty of finding an ideally 25-40 bareback friendly negative top "

And you mention prep in a later comment

With last test time, prep use etc

I could be wrong but it sounds like you think prep is about the top?

You taking prep would be protecting yourself from hiv infection...you can't rely on other people no matter how much you trust them.

Even if the person is totally honest and responsible, if he's had sex the day after he tested negative he could now be positive. That's why if it's important you need to be on prep.

And also there are other stis.....so are you up on your vacs? Discuss use of Doxy?

But even those two don't give 100 per cent protection.

Maybe visit a sexual health clinic or your GP for a chat.

Ignore if you are on prep etc 😂

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By *SA sucker DD9 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Brechin

I understand. There is no such thing as zero risk even with condoms after all. It is about managed risk. I get it.

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By *ub4daddyukMan
4 weeks ago

Warminster

"I understand. There is no such thing as zero risk even with condoms after all. It is about managed risk. I get it."

Cool...didn't want to come across as if I felt the need to educate you on issues you're perfectly capable of,and been responsible enough to have done so already.

I was reading between the lines a bit and wasn't sure if you thought that the use of prep, was primarily the tops concern when it's not, It's for you.

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By *ub4daddyukMan
4 weeks ago

Warminster

Maybe spoon on your side might work well?

Then again, although the weights off you and you're supported, the top msy have a position that he thinks is more versatile with regards to controlling entry and strokes.

Warm water is fine.

You could lube one or the other but go for both as a belt and braces approach.

Douche a bit of time before if you can, perhaps an hour ISH or so, and any spare liquid will sort itself out. Can use a dildo a bit to aid this.

Some towels down will help with any spills dribbles.

I have a 2m square baby mat thing, cosy material one side, waterproof the other...no you're not borrowing it lol

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By *SA sucker DD9 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Brechin

"Maybe spoon on your side might work well?

Then again, although the weights off you and you're supported, the top msy have a position that he thinks is more versatile with regards to controlling entry and strokes.

Warm water is fine.

You could lube one or the other but go for both as a belt and braces approach.

Douche a bit of time before if you can, perhaps an hour ISH or so, and any spare liquid will sort itself out. Can use a dildo a bit to aid this.

Some towels down will help with any spills dribbles.

I have a 2m square baby mat thing, cosy material one side, waterproof the other...no you're not borrowing it lol"

Thanks much. Appreciate it. I kind of had the all fours or bent over position in mind for ease of access. Hadn't thought of spooning. Of course he's likely to have his favourite too but having a few ideas in mind is never a bad thing

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