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"I’ve spoken to quite a few men on here and mentioned Pipeworks as a place to meet. A lot of them have replied saying they’d rather meet somewhere private. Fair enough, but I think Pipeworks has one of the most misunderstood reputations in Glasgow. It’s not a hot room with a bed in the middle and a massive fuck pile on top. It’s not one of those nights in your 20s or 30s where you wake up in some random bloke’s flat, trying to find your pants in a pile of people you’ve never met. (Russian Doll Series refference) The place is actually split over different floors, and you can make of it whatever you want. Main floor - 1st floor You walk in the building and take the elevator to 1st floor. There you walk through reception, pay your entry, and you’re into the bar and locker area. It feels a bit like a gym… except the exercise mostly consists of walking up and down the stairs hoping someone fancies the life out of you. On this floor you’ve got the bar, lockers, showers, a steam room, and a whirlpool. Yes, you can have an alcoholic drink wearing nothing but a towel. Think of it as a pub where people occasionally wave their willy at you. The steam room can be social, and yes, sometimes people get a bit friendlier than you’d ever see at David Lloyd. The whirlpool is mainly for relaxing or flirting. Sex in the water isn’t really the done thing though—nobody wants to swim in baby yous. Lower floor Downstairs are the private cabins, which you can hire for a small extra charge. They come with a proper bed, a TV and somewhere to hang your towel, so you don’t even need a locker if you’re using one. There’s also another shower and the cinema room. And yes… this is sometimes where you might find the fuck pile I mentioned earlier. You can watch, join in, completely ignore it or walk straight past. Nobody is forcing you to do anything. Ever. Upper floor Upstairs you’ll find the free cabins. If one is empty, it’s yours. Just wipe the bed before and after use—the disinfectant and towels are provided in every cabin. There’s also the sling room, the dark room, more glory holes, more showers, the toilets, a TV room, a couple of computers for anyone still living in 2007, and the Finnish sauna. Again, some people are brave enough to get up to things in there, but most people are just enjoying the sauna. One thing I genuinely like about Pipeworks is that everyone is welcome. Every age, every body type, every ethnicity. Nobody cares if you’re slim, stocky, hairy, smooth, young, older or somewhere in between. You’ll find all sorts, and that’s exactly how it should be. Drugs, bullying, harassment and bad behaviour aren’t tolerated. If someone’s being pushy or making you uncomfortable, tell the staff at reception or the bar. They’ll deal with it. Every night has a theme—Daddy Night, TV Night, Dark Night (the no towel one) and loads of others—but they’re just themes. You don’t need to look a certain way or fit a certain category. Anyone is welcome on any night. The biggest thing people always ask me is: “What if someone sees me?” “What if I bump into someone I know?” Well… they’re there too. It’s not like they’ve popped in for a poetry workshop. Honestly, there’s a mutual respect. People don’t go around telling everyone who they’ve seen in the sauna because they’d only be outing themselves too. Condoms and lube are available all over the building, so everything you need is there. At the end of the day, Pipeworks is whatever you want it to be. You can go for a sauna, a soak, a drink, a chat, to make friends, to flirt, to hook up, or just to satisfy your curiosity. Go at your own pace, respect other people’s boundaries, expect yours to be respected too, and you’ll probably realise it’s nowhere near as intimidating as people imagine." Love this, very informative. | |||
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" Yes, you can have an alcoholic drink wearing nothing but a towel. Think of it as a pub where people occasionally wave their willy at you." https://i.ibb.co/v4CwkPgg/kenneth-matron-IMG-0324.gif "One thing I genuinely like about Pipeworks is that everyone is welcome. Every age, every body type, every ethnicity. Nobody cares if you’re slim, stocky, hairy, smooth, young, older or somewhere in between. You’ll find all sorts, and that’s exactly how it should be. Condoms and lube are available all over the building, so everything you need is there. At the end of the day, Pipeworks is whatever you want it to be. You can go for a sauna, a soak, a drink, a chat, to make friends, to flirt, to hook up, or just to satisfy your curiosity. Go at your own pace, respect other people’s boundaries, expect yours to be respected too, and you’ll probably realise it’s nowhere near as intimidating as people imagine." What about signifying if you're a top, bottom or versatile? Do, or can, you wear something to let others know? | |||
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"I genuinely hate the "what if I see someone I know" mindset. They are there for the exact same reason you are. Who care if you see your boss or postman in there just get some dick "Only on a couple of occassions in over 40 years have I met someone in a sauna, that I recognised. One was my boss, on his knees getting fucked, so just left him to it and the other one I knew he was gay but he didn't know I was. No problem in any event. | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts." I’m going to be incredibly direct and unapologetic about this. That “side of your life” isn’t being honest with the person you’ve chosen to share your life with and who trusts you completely. It’s also not being honest with yourself. I understand that some men discover this part of themselves later in life. But living a lie and cheating on your wife is far more hurtful than sitting down and having an honest conversation about your sexuality. That conversation takes courage. It takes a pair of balls. If the person you’re with can’t accept you for who you are, then you’re with the wrong person. Move on. So, please forgive me, but your argument is essentially asking everyone else to accommodate your double life by keeping the community hidden away (in the closet) simply because you don’t feel able to come out or have that conversation with your wife. It’s 2026. It’s okay to be gay. Your priest might be gay. Your doctor might be gay. Your postman might be gay. Your train driver might be gay. So if your biggest concern is, “What if someone sees me?”, that’s a problem you’ve chosen not to confront. It’s the consequence of living a life that isn’t truly yours. And to be completely honest, if you’re not truthful with your own family, why would I automatically trust you in mine? For me, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩 Don’t go to a sauna expecting everyone else to treat you differently or protect your secret if you’re not prepared to accept the risks that come with living a double life. | |||
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"Anyone going today "Or are you going tonight Let’s keep this simple, informative, and on topic. This isn’t a dating post. If you’re looking to meet people, start your own post or find one where people are already arranging to meet. The purpose of this post is to help people find the confidence to visit the sauna, understand how it works, and hopefully have a bit of fun. Please don’t turn it into a stream of comments about your personal needs. Thank you for understanding. | |||
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"Anyone going today
Or are you going tonight
Let’s keep this simple, informative, and on topic. This isn’t a dating post. If you’re looking to meet people, start your own post or find one where people are already arranging to meet.
The purpose of this post is to help people find the confidence to visit the sauna, understand how it works, and hopefully have a bit of fun. Please don’t turn it into a stream of comments about your personal needs.
Thank you for understanding. "Agreed! You go to sauna to find fun with whoever is there, it isn't a hosting service. There are other ways of arranging meets but this thread isn't the place | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts. I’m going to be incredibly direct and unapologetic about this. That “side of your life” isn’t being honest with the person you’ve chosen to share your life with and who trusts you completely. It’s also not being honest with yourself. I understand that some men discover this part of themselves later in life. But living a lie and cheating on your wife is far more hurtful than sitting down and having an honest conversation about your sexuality. That conversation takes courage. It takes a pair of balls. If the person you’re with can’t accept you for who you are, then you’re with the wrong person. Move on. So, please forgive me, but your argument is essentially asking everyone else to accommodate your double life by keeping the community hidden away (in the closet) simply because you don’t feel able to come out or have that conversation with your wife. It’s 2026. It’s okay to be gay. Your priest might be gay. Your doctor might be gay. Your postman might be gay. Your train driver might be gay. So if your biggest concern is, “What if someone sees me?”, that’s a problem you’ve chosen not to confront. It’s the consequence of living a life that isn’t truly yours. And to be completely honest, if you’re not truthful with your own family, why would I automatically trust you in mine? For me, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩 Don’t go to a sauna expecting everyone else to treat you differently or protect your secret if you’re not prepared to accept the risks that come with living a double life." Having had you message privately I thought I would take the time to reply publicly as well. Firstly my comment previously was never intended to put anyone off. As I said in my reply to you. I commend anyone in a position to live their lives openly. Like you said, it's 2026. We live in a very accepting and increasingly open world. However, you have one opinion, which differs from mine and again from someone else's. We all have different circumstances and lives to take into consideration. I think you're original post was very insightful and informative, myself and it would appear many other appreciate the information. But that doesn't allow you to expect your opinion to change anyone's outlook, as I would hope mine doesn't either. Live your life for you, in however you see fit. | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts. I’m going to be incredibly direct and unapologetic about this. That “side of your life” isn’t being honest with the person you’ve chosen to share your life with and who trusts you completely. It’s also not being honest with yourself. I understand that some men discover this part of themselves later in life. But living a lie and cheating on your wife is far more hurtful than sitting down and having an honest conversation about your sexuality. That conversation takes courage. It takes a pair of balls. If the person you’re with can’t accept you for who you are, then you’re with the wrong person. Move on. So, please forgive me, but your argument is essentially asking everyone else to accommodate your double life by keeping the community hidden away (in the closet) simply because you don’t feel able to come out or have that conversation with your wife. It’s 2026. It’s okay to be gay. Your priest might be gay. Your doctor might be gay. Your postman might be gay. Your train driver might be gay. So if your biggest concern is, “What if someone sees me?”, that’s a problem you’ve chosen not to confront. It’s the consequence of living a life that isn’t truly yours. And to be completely honest, if you’re not truthful with your own family, why would I automatically trust you in mine? For me, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩 Don’t go to a sauna expecting everyone else to treat you differently or protect your secret if you’re not prepared to accept the risks that come with living a double life. Having had you message privately I thought I would take the time to reply publicly as well. Firstly my comment previously was never intended to put anyone off. As I said in my reply to you. I commend anyone in a position to live their lives openly. Like you said, it's 2026. We live in a very accepting and increasingly open world. However, you have one opinion, which differs from mine and again from someone else's. We all have different circumstances and lives to take into consideration. I think you're original post was very insightful and informative, myself and it would appear many other appreciate the information. But that doesn't allow you to expect your opinion to change anyone's outlook, as I would hope mine doesn't either. Live your life for you, in however you see fit." You’re entirely correct that, in 2026, everyone has different circumstances and responsibilities at home. Because of that, people need to understand the practical realities involved. Equally, however, it is nobody’s responsibility to accommodate people who choose to cheat on their partners or lead double lives. As I mentioned earlier, I cannot trust someone who has no profile picture, no verification, a hidden profile, and expects me to invite them to my home. In the message you sent before blocking me, you explained that your comment was driven by jealousy towards those who are able to go. Unfortunately, that wasn’t how your original comment came across. Instead, you later criticised me for not considering people’s circumstances, despite not mentioning any of that in your initial post. All you wrote was, “That’s why I’ll never go,” which came across as dismissive and unnecessarily negative. It undermined the purpose of the post and could easily make others feel judged or guilty for considering something I was trying to encourage them to experience. In future, I’d suggest making your comments clearer and providing the context behind your opinion so your intended meaning isn’t misunderstood. Based on your final message, it’s clear you’re perfectly capable of articulating your thoughts when you choose to do so. | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts. I’m going to be incredibly direct and unapologetic about this. That “side of your life” isn’t being honest with the person you’ve chosen to share your life with and who trusts you completely. It’s also not being honest with yourself. I understand that some men discover this part of themselves later in life. But living a lie and cheating on your wife is far more hurtful than sitting down and having an honest conversation about your sexuality. That conversation takes courage. It takes a pair of balls. If the person you’re with can’t accept you for who you are, then you’re with the wrong person. Move on. So, please forgive me, but your argument is essentially asking everyone else to accommodate your double life by keeping the community hidden away (in the closet) simply because you don’t feel able to come out or have that conversation with your wife. It’s 2026. It’s okay to be gay. Your priest might be gay. Your doctor might be gay. Your postman might be gay. Your train driver might be gay. So if your biggest concern is, “What if someone sees me?”, that’s a problem you’ve chosen not to confront. It’s the consequence of living a life that isn’t truly yours. And to be completely honest, if you’re not truthful with your own family, why would I automatically trust you in mine? For me, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩 Don’t go to a sauna expecting everyone else to treat you differently or protect your secret if you’re not prepared to accept the risks that come with living a double life. Having had you message privately I thought I would take the time to reply publicly as well. Firstly my comment previously was never intended to put anyone off. As I said in my reply to you. I commend anyone in a position to live their lives openly. Like you said, it's 2026. We live in a very accepting and increasingly open world. However, you have one opinion, which differs from mine and again from someone else's. We all have different circumstances and lives to take into consideration. I think you're original post was very insightful and informative, myself and it would appear many other appreciate the information. But that doesn't allow you to expect your opinion to change anyone's outlook, as I would hope mine doesn't either. Live your life for you, in however you see fit. You’re entirely correct that, in 2026, everyone has different circumstances and responsibilities at home. Because of that, people need to understand the practical realities involved. Equally, however, it is nobody’s responsibility to accommodate people who choose to cheat on their partners or lead double lives. As I mentioned earlier, I cannot trust someone who has no profile picture, no verification, a hidden profile, and expects me to invite them to my home. In the message you sent before blocking me, you explained that your comment was driven by jealousy towards those who are able to go. Unfortunately, that wasn’t how your original comment came across. Instead, you later criticised me for not considering people’s circumstances, despite not mentioning any of that in your initial post. All you wrote was, “That’s why I’ll never go,” which came across as dismissive and unnecessarily negative. It undermined the purpose of the post and could easily make others feel judged or guilty for considering something I was trying to encourage them to experience. In future, I’d suggest making your comments clearer and providing the context behind your opinion so your intended meaning isn’t misunderstood. Based on your final message, it’s clear you’re perfectly capable of articulating your thoughts when you choose to do so." Oh forum drama... lets have another crack at this then! So now you are understanding of different circumstances? That wasn't how you came across in a earlier reply. And again, my comment to you privately with the jealous thing was more centred towards my own inability and confidence to express myself how I want. Perhaps you have a point, in that my original post was very vague. However if you are taking what is written here as gospel and allowing it to make decisions for you, not sure that is the best way. Yes use it, (like I said about your original post) as a good source of information etc... but make up your own mind with what suits you best. And unless you stay in the Pipeworks, who mentioned anything about inviting anyone to your home. But again, all of this is a difference of opinion and outlook to a multi layered situation. I hope many see the original post as a sign of inspiration to investigate and come up with their own intentions and thoughts to attend such places. Blocking you was a response to you messaging me privately about a public forum post. We have never spoken before and in my opinion I would much rather not receive such messages. I shall now skull away to my own opinion and watch from afar in my hovel. | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts. I’m going to be incredibly direct and unapologetic about this. That “side of your life” isn’t being honest with the person you’ve chosen to share your life with and who trusts you completely. It’s also not being honest with yourself. I understand that some men discover this part of themselves later in life. But living a lie and cheating on your wife is far more hurtful than sitting down and having an honest conversation about your sexuality. That conversation takes courage. It takes a pair of balls. If the person you’re with can’t accept you for who you are, then you’re with the wrong person. Move on. So, please forgive me, but your argument is essentially asking everyone else to accommodate your double life by keeping the community hidden away (in the closet) simply because you don’t feel able to come out or have that conversation with your wife. It’s 2026. It’s okay to be gay. Your priest might be gay. Your doctor might be gay. Your postman might be gay. Your train driver might be gay. So if your biggest concern is, “What if someone sees me?”, that’s a problem you’ve chosen not to confront. It’s the consequence of living a life that isn’t truly yours. And to be completely honest, if you’re not truthful with your own family, why would I automatically trust you in mine? For me, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩 Don’t go to a sauna expecting everyone else to treat you differently or protect your secret if you’re not prepared to accept the risks that come with living a double life." What a load of waffling, solipsistic, woke crap. Endless amounts of people have parts of their sex loves that they want to keep private. Playing dress up, rubber, pretending they’re dogs/horses, electrical stimulation, S and M etc etc. And as many people simply will not accept that in their partner, and I personally can understand that. Some of us don’t live in a world where it’s all fluffy and lovely and nobody judges, that’s not the real world. The ridiculous “love is love” statement doesn’t always work in reality, and I’m fine with that. Glad of it actually. Some of us don’t expect everyone else to accept every detail of our sexuality and can grasp that concept. I certainly don’t accept or am comfortable with a large percentage of what’s talked about on here but that’s their business and I’m glad most of them keep it to themselves as it’s not for me or many others. The large percentage of wives and girlfriends are never going to accept their husbands and girlfriends having sex with other men, I dont blame them at all. The same as they wouldn’t accept them wearing high heels, make up and a dress. Expecting everyone else to be accepting of your kinks and fetishes is woke fantasy land nonsense. Understandably so, some of us never want to be out for all sorts of reasons let alone be outed by some gossiping, attention seeking fool. It’s really easy to grasp, it’s private, we don’t want others to know, we don’t trust certain types, it would potentially have a seriously detrimental effect on our lives and the lives of others, it’s nobody else’s business. We are fine being in the closet, we like it that way, we do not want to be outed, we don’t want to be part of that “scene”. | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts." This is exactly my biggest fear and reason that’s preventing me from going | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts." Not everyone has to be out and proud and that's OK. But if you're cheating on your partner and you get outed then I have no sympathy for the man that shoots himself in the foot. Either work on the relationship that YOU chose to be in or leave and explore your sexuality. You can't have it both ways. | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts. I’m going to be incredibly direct and unapologetic about this. That “side of your life” isn’t being honest with the person you’ve chosen to share your life with and who trusts you completely. It’s also not being honest with yourself. I understand that some men discover this part of themselves later in life. But living a lie and cheating on your wife is far more hurtful than sitting down and having an honest conversation about your sexuality. That conversation takes courage. It takes a pair of balls. If the person you’re with can’t accept you for who you are, then you’re with the wrong person. Move on. So, please forgive me, but your argument is essentially asking everyone else to accommodate your double life by keeping the community hidden away (in the closet) simply because you don’t feel able to come out or have that conversation with your wife. It’s 2026. It’s okay to be gay. Your priest might be gay. Your doctor might be gay. Your postman might be gay. Your train driver might be gay. So if your biggest concern is, “What if someone sees me?”, that’s a problem you’ve chosen not to confront. It’s the consequence of living a life that isn’t truly yours. And to be completely honest, if you’re not truthful with your own family, why would I automatically trust you in mine? For me, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩 Don’t go to a sauna expecting everyone else to treat you differently or protect your secret if you’re not prepared to accept the risks that come with living a double life. What a load of waffling, solipsistic, woke crap. Endless amounts of people have parts of their sex loves that they want to keep private. Playing dress up, rubber, pretending they’re dogs/horses, electrical stimulation, S and M etc etc. And as many people simply will not accept that in their partner, and I personally can understand that. Some of us don’t live in a world where it’s all fluffy and lovely and nobody judges, that’s not the real world. The ridiculous “love is love” statement doesn’t always work in reality, and I’m fine with that. Glad of it actually. Some of us don’t expect everyone else to accept every detail of our sexuality and can grasp that concept. I certainly don’t accept or am comfortable with a large percentage of what’s talked about on here but that’s their business and I’m glad most of them keep it to themselves as it’s not for me or many others. The large percentage of wives and girlfriends are never going to accept their husbands and girlfriends having sex with other men, I dont blame them at all. The same as they wouldn’t accept them wearing high heels, make up and a dress. Expecting everyone else to be accepting of your kinks and fetishes is woke fantasy land nonsense. Understandably so, some of us never want to be out for all sorts of reasons let alone be outed by some gossiping, attention seeking fool. It’s really easy to grasp, it’s private, we don’t want others to know, we don’t trust certain types, it would potentially have a seriously detrimental effect on our lives and the lives of others, it’s nobody else’s business. We are fine being in the closet, we like it that way, we do not want to be outed, we don’t want to be part of that “scene”. " Well, thanks for filling my post with self inflicted drama. Be what do you want to be, be a princess and live your double life freely, but don’t ask other people to tollerate your shite, it’s not woke shit, is reality. You pose as a victim of a life you choose to live, you give examples you prefer and blame others for not accepting you for marrying a narrow minded wife. To be honest, it’s not about the wife or wokism, it’s about parochialism. Now let’s keep this shut as you’re turning my post in negative and selfish drama. You don’t need to justify yourself, so please keep it quiet as you’re getting off topic. Have a day as you deserve in the multitude of parallel lives you live. Personally I won’t tolerate coward cheaters. Don’t comment again! | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts. I’m going to be incredibly direct and unapologetic about this. That “side of your life” isn’t being honest with the person you’ve chosen to share your life with and who trusts you completely. It’s also not being honest with yourself. I understand that some men discover this part of themselves later in life. But living a lie and cheating on your wife is far more hurtful than sitting down and having an honest conversation about your sexuality. That conversation takes courage. It takes a pair of balls. If the person you’re with can’t accept you for who you are, then you’re with the wrong person. Move on. So, please forgive me, but your argument is essentially asking everyone else to accommodate your double life by keeping the community hidden away (in the closet) simply because you don’t feel able to come out or have that conversation with your wife. It’s 2026. It’s okay to be gay. Your priest might be gay. Your doctor might be gay. Your postman might be gay. Your train driver might be gay. So if your biggest concern is, “What if someone sees me?”, that’s a problem you’ve chosen not to confront. It’s the consequence of living a life that isn’t truly yours. And to be completely honest, if you’re not truthful with your own family, why would I automatically trust you in mine? For me, that’s a huge red flag. 🚩 Don’t go to a sauna expecting everyone else to treat you differently or protect your secret if you’re not prepared to accept the risks that come with living a double life. Having had you message privately I thought I would take the time to reply publicly as well. Firstly my comment previously was never intended to put anyone off. As I said in my reply to you. I commend anyone in a position to live their lives openly. Like you said, it's 2026. We live in a very accepting and increasingly open world. However, you have one opinion, which differs from mine and again from someone else's. We all have different circumstances and lives to take into consideration. I think you're original post was very insightful and informative, myself and it would appear many other appreciate the information. But that doesn't allow you to expect your opinion to change anyone's outlook, as I would hope mine doesn't either. Live your life for you, in however you see fit. You’re entirely correct that, in 2026, everyone has different circumstances and responsibilities at home. Because of that, people need to understand the practical realities involved. Equally, however, it is nobody’s responsibility to accommodate people who choose to cheat on their partners or lead double lives. As I mentioned earlier, I cannot trust someone who has no profile picture, no verification, a hidden profile, and expects me to invite them to my home. In the message you sent before blocking me, you explained that your comment was driven by jealousy towards those who are able to go. Unfortunately, that wasn’t how your original comment came across. Instead, you later criticised me for not considering people’s circumstances, despite not mentioning any of that in your initial post. All you wrote was, “That’s why I’ll never go,” which came across as dismissive and unnecessarily negative. It undermined the purpose of the post and could easily make others feel judged or guilty for considering something I was trying to encourage them to experience. In future, I’d suggest making your comments clearer and providing the context behind your opinion so your intended meaning isn’t misunderstood. Based on your final message, it’s clear you’re perfectly capable of articulating your thoughts when you choose to do so. Oh forum drama... lets have another crack at this then! So now you are understanding of different circumstances? That wasn't how you came across in a earlier reply. And again, my comment to you privately with the jealous thing was more centred towards my own inability and confidence to express myself how I want. Perhaps you have a point, in that my original post was very vague. However if you are taking what is written here as gospel and allowing it to make decisions for you, not sure that is the best way. Yes use it, (like I said about your original post) as a good source of information etc... but make up your own mind with what suits you best. And unless you stay in the Pipeworks, who mentioned anything about inviting anyone to your home. But again, all of this is a difference of opinion and outlook to a multi layered situation. I hope many see the original post as a sign of inspiration to investigate and come up with their own intentions and thoughts to attend such places. Blocking you was a response to you messaging me privately about a public forum post. We have never spoken before and in my opinion I would much rather not receive such messages. I shall now skull away to my own opinion and watch from afar in my hovel. " I’m not going to engage any longer with this “it’s all about me” and “I need to turn every forum post into an attention-seeking exercise” nonsense. I sent you a private message for this exact reason, and you decided to turn it into a novel and drag an off-topic personal issue onto the public forum. The “reply privately” function exists precisely for things that don’t need to be kept public. However, you chose public victimhood instead, presumably to score some sympathy points. The problem here isn’t about me. It’s about you bringing negativity into a post while desperately trying to attract attention. I understand that you have insecurities, and that sucks. We all have them. We all struggle with different fears and feelings. This post is specifically about that: helping people overcome those fears and feel more confident and welcome. Turning a well-written, helpful post into your own personal drama is the exact opposite of that. I hope you’ve learned something from this. | |||
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"Handbags at dawn 🤣" Never tell ’em off, darlin’! Oh no, no, NO! What’s more hysterical than a drama queen? A closeted drama queen, sweetheart! All that repression in one little handbag — she’s bound to EXPLODE eventually! Mark my words, babes! 💅 | |||
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"Unless you’re a private guy that keeps this side of his life secret, his choice, like lots of other people who have private sides to their sex life. And then they’re outed by some gossiping, nasty openly gay man that just cannot resist causing drama. Then that guys life, his wives/girlfriend/families and quite possibly his kids lives are ruined because somebody just had to start this own gossip column. That the very real reason a lot of guys are very justifiably nervous about going to any gay sauna. Plain facts. Not everyone has to be out and proud and that's OK. But if you're cheating on your partner and you get outed then I have no sympathy for the man that shoots himself in the foot. Either work on the relationship that YOU chose to be in or leave and explore your sexuality. You can't have it both ways." Thank God for some rationalism on here. All the fancy words just to tell us how uncomfortable he is in his faux life. Let’s get this understood. Being closeted and having sexual needs must suck. We all know how difficult it is to express yourself in a city as parochial and narrow-minded as Glasgow, where presumptive thought takes over reality and, in some circles, being sectarian is more acceptable than being openly gay. We all know how difficult it must be to live in 2026 with an ideology stuck in the 90s. What this man has done is describe, once again, what a homophobe can sometimes look like. A man stuck in a parallel life, in a dishonest relationship with someone who probably loves him honestly, rejecting “woke” beliefs and turning an inclusive post into a political and personal situation. Some of these feelings and reactions can come from difficulties with self-acceptance, where unresolved conflict about one’s own identity may be expressed as discomfort or hostility towards others. This is not about acceptance. It is about his narcissistic desperation to be told that he isn’t wrong, even though almost every aspect of what he writes is a major red flag. 🚩 And on top of that, he has the nerve to lecture me on why I am wrong for refusing to participate in betraying someone’s trust and breaking her heart, simply because he cannot grow a pair, be a real husband and take responsibility for his own actions. I’m not even joking when I say that I find this attitude absolutely disgraceful. I know it is difficult to be honest and open about who you are, especially in a society moving aggressively towards something more conservative, limiting and less free, or when you have been brought up in a strongly Catholic or Protestant background. I know that losing friends and family is a huge fear. However, living your life surrounded by people who only love you if you fit their patterns is nothing other than a life prison sentence. But I also know that having your heart broken is more painful than almost anything, and these men do it deliberately. I will never participate in or tolerate any form of mistreatment of women, misogyny, or anything that deliberately leads to breaking someone’s heart. Being gay, closeted, frightened or sexually frustrated does not excuse it. I know these situations are complicated, and I do not believe that shame, fear or anger will help anyone become more honest. Everyone deserves acceptance, including people who are still struggling to accept themselves. But the people who love them deserve honesty too. I hope anyone living this kind of parallel life eventually finds the courage and support to be honest about who they are, without shame and without fear. There is room for everyone, and nobody should have to hide. But acceptance also means respecting the feelings and trust of the people we share our lives with. We can understand why someone is afraid without pretending that nobody else gets hurt. And with that, we shall return to the post itself: Pipeworks Explained. | |||
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"Lol, my points proven by exactly the types that stop a lot of guys from ever going to saunas. These points being proven by these types are generally made with their hands on their hips and some sort of pout more often than not. Bless. It really does write itself. Hopefully this will have saved a few guys, well at least ones capable of thinking with facts rather than emotion, rare on here to at the least, from being outed and having their life ruined by some sled righteous, drama hungry entitled gossip. Anyone that actually deludes themselves into believing that these types won’t be flagging buses down to let everyone know just who they saw the other day in the sauna is more deluded than the types trying to convince you otherwise on here. So have a think lads, if you don’t want you wife/gorlfriend/kids/work colleagues/friends/ family finding out your very private kink in your sex life and understandably being embarrassed, ashamed, scandalised. Your mental health, employment, relationships and futures being utterly destroyed by some pathetic little drama queen, then really consider whether you want to risk visiting any gay saunas. Again, for the hard of thinking, millions of people have all sorts of kinks they want to keep totally private from their partners. Auto erotica, being humiliated, S and M, rubber, leather, bizarre toys, torture and all sorts of behaviour others would find distasteful. Women will be keeping all sorts of stuff from their male partners as well, that’s the nature of the beast. Try and grasp this, because you’re out and proud and all that woke bollocks does not mean others want to be, nor does it mean we are ashamed of who or what we are. I know you like strength in numbers and all the flag waving but millions of us simply do not and never will. Live your life your way and let us live ours our way, in private, in the closet, behind closed doors, in secret, without making a big deal about it and demanding everyone goes along with our views, kinks and opinions. You know, with respect and tolerance and all that stuff we are never done hearing the end of from the same quarters….. " Another one bites the dust… | |||
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"Lol, my points proven by exactly the types that stop a lot of guys from ever going to saunas. These points being proven by these types are generally made with their hands on their hips and some sort of pout more often than not. Bless. It really does write itself. Hopefully this will have saved a few guys, well at least ones capable of thinking with facts rather than emotion, rare on here to at the least, from being outed and having their life ruined by some sled righteous, drama hungry entitled gossip. Anyone that actually deludes themselves into believing that these types won’t be flagging buses down to let everyone know just who they saw the other day in the sauna is more deluded than the types trying to convince you otherwise on here. So have a think lads, if you don’t want you wife/gorlfriend/kids/work colleagues/friends/ family finding out your very private kink in your sex life and understandably being embarrassed, ashamed, scandalised. Your mental health, employment, relationships and futures being utterly destroyed by some pathetic little drama queen, then really consider whether you want to risk visiting any gay saunas. Again, for the hard of thinking, millions of people have all sorts of kinks they want to keep totally private from their partners. Auto erotica, being humiliated, S and M, rubber, leather, bizarre toys, torture and all sorts of behaviour others would find distasteful. Women will be keeping all sorts of stuff from their male partners as well, that’s the nature of the beast. Try and grasp this, because you’re out and proud and all that woke bollocks does not mean others want to be, nor does it mean we are ashamed of who or what we are. I know you like strength in numbers and all the flag waving but millions of us simply do not and never will. Live your life your way and let us live ours our way, in private, in the closet, behind closed doors, in secret, without making a big deal about it and demanding everyone goes along with our views, kinks and opinions. You know, with respect and tolerance and all that stuff we are never done hearing the end of from the same quarters….. " "User no longer on site" The site is better without him | |||
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"When a guy is standing outside a cabin, is that an invite to ask? I’ve never worked this out. " Yes, also wondered this. | |||
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"I’ve spoken to quite a few men on here and mentioned Pipeworks as a place to meet. A lot of them have replied saying they’d rather meet somewhere private. Very well explained Bravo Fair enough, but I think Pipeworks has one of the most misunderstood reputations in Glasgow. It’s not a hot room with a bed in the middle and a massive fuck pile on top. It’s not one of those nights in your 20s or 30s where you wake up in some random bloke’s flat, trying to find your pants in a pile of people you’ve never met. (Russian Doll Series refference) The place is actually split over different floors, and you can make of it whatever you want. Main floor - 1st floor You walk in the building and take the elevator to 1st floor. There you walk through reception, pay your entry, and you’re into the bar and locker area. It feels a bit like a gym… except the exercise mostly consists of walking up and down the stairs hoping someone fancies the life out of you. On this floor you’ve got the bar, lockers, showers, a steam room, and a whirlpool. Yes, you can have an alcoholic drink wearing nothing but a towel. Think of it as a pub where people occasionally wave their willy at you. The steam room can be social, and yes, sometimes people get a bit friendlier than you’d ever see at David Lloyd. The whirlpool is mainly for relaxing or flirting. Sex in the water isn’t really the done thing though—nobody wants to swim in baby yous. Lower floor Downstairs are the private cabins, which you can hire for a small extra charge. They come with a proper bed, a TV and somewhere to hang your towel, so you don’t even need a locker if you’re using one. There’s also another shower and the cinema room. And yes… this is sometimes where you might find the fuck pile I mentioned earlier. You can watch, join in, completely ignore it or walk straight past. Nobody is forcing you to do anything. Ever. Upper floor Upstairs you’ll find the free cabins. If one is empty, it’s yours. Just wipe the bed before and after use—the disinfectant and towels are provided in every cabin. There’s also the sling room, the dark room, more glory holes, more showers, the toilets, a TV room, a couple of computers for anyone still living in 2007, and the Finnish sauna. Again, some people are brave enough to get up to things in there, but most people are just enjoying the sauna. One thing I genuinely like about Pipeworks is that everyone is welcome. Every age, every body type, every ethnicity. Nobody cares if you’re slim, stocky, hairy, smooth, young, older or somewhere in between. You’ll find all sorts, and that’s exactly how it should be. Drugs, bullying, harassment and bad behaviour aren’t tolerated. If someone’s being pushy or making you uncomfortable, tell the staff at reception or the bar. They’ll deal with it. Every night has a theme—Daddy Night, TV Night, Dark Night (the no towel one) and loads of others—but they’re just themes. You don’t need to look a certain way or fit a certain category. Anyone is welcome on any night. The biggest thing people always ask me is: “What if someone sees me?” “What if I bump into someone I know?” Well… they’re there too. It’s not like they’ve popped in for a poetry workshop. Honestly, there’s a mutual respect. People don’t go around telling everyone who they’ve seen in the sauna because they’d only be outing themselves too. Condoms and lube are available all over the building, so everything you need is there. At the end of the day, Pipeworks is whatever you want it to be. You can go for a sauna, a soak, a drink, a chat, to make friends, to flirt, to hook up, or just to satisfy your curiosity. Go at your own pace, respect other people’s boundaries, expect yours to be respected too, and you’ll probably realise it’s nowhere near as intimidating as people imagine." | |||
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"When a guy is standing outside a cabin, is that an invite to ask? I’ve never worked this out. Yes, also wondered this. Rub your hand across his crotch. If you are not his type he'll let you know But are they tops?" Ask! | |||
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"When a guy is standing outside a cabin, is that an invite to ask? I’ve never worked this out. Yes, also wondered this. Rub your hand across his crotch. If you are not his type he'll let you know But are they tops?" Yes, the bottoms are always arse up in the cabins | |||
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"When a guy is standing outside a cabin, is that an invite to ask? I’ve never worked this out. Yes, also wondered this. Rub your hand across his crotch. If you are not his type he'll let you know But are they tops? Yes, the bottoms are always arse up in the cabins" Simple as that? | |||
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