FabGuys.com forum: Meeting On the Spectrum

By *ibearius OP Man
1 week ago

Greenock

It’s a wide varied thing and everyone is different.

For me it takes lots of messages before I get interested in them, it’s just how I am. ( they just call it shy)

If we agree to meet when both comfortable , and then a further meet leads to sex or just side play it feels like I belong to them and will be available when needed.

A lot of times though the messages stop after a day or two then never hear from them again and never manage a meet, which makes meeting any other man difficult after trying.

Anyway, I was wondering there’s lots of men on the spectrum, how do you find meeting men here, are you lucky to find someone regular and trusting?

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By *usu99Man
1 week ago

Hammersmith

"It’s a wide varied thing and everyone is different.

For me it takes lots of messages before I get interested in them, it’s just how I am. ( they just call it shy)

If we agree to meet when both comfortable , and then a further meet leads to sex or just side play it feels like I belong to them and will be available when needed.

A lot of times though the messages stop after a day or two then never hear from them again and never manage a meet, which makes meeting any other man difficult after trying.

Anyway, I was wondering there’s lots of men on the spectrum, how do you find meeting men here, are you lucky to find someone regular and trusting?

I can understand. Maybe i am slightly on the spectrum or just hugely shy/insecure, but i have trouble committing to a meet, especially if there are some doubts - and my brain will put them there!

It could just be natural, you are meeting a stranger and you may well be getting naked.

My mind conjures up so many scenarios that my head spins and, often, i go off and find something less stressful to do.

I would like to thank the people who do understand if i cannot meet "now" abd continue to message, they are usually the ones i hook up with in the end.

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By *ndyG72Man
1 week ago

Blantyre

For me I live for the moment. Sure you can message for days or weeks and build up a profile but until you meet someone face to face you never know what your getting. Same with face pictures. I don't give them out. You get what you see, I'm looking for sex not a BF or husband to show off. If you don't like me politely ask me to leave and theres no issues. I have walked out a meet within a minute as I didn't like the feel of the person more than the look. I'm not really judgemental.

As I said I live for the moment, prefer to meet that day within a few messages. Maybe tomorrow or next week never really happens and just leaves you hanging there. I think there are three main factors that influence meets, accommodate, trust and uncertainty. There are many genuine guys on here who want to meet but are unable to accommodate for one reason or another and then there are just the time wasters. Also looking at things from the other side of the fence, those who accommodate don't want to invite strangers into there home for lets be honest seedy kinky sex.What would the neighbours think.

The Holly Grail are regular guys or groups who have the same preferences and kinks who you trust and can meet on a regular basis

Anyway, that's my bit of wisdom for today.

Happy fabbing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
1 week ago

It can be hard as an autistic to meet people. But try to meet non autistics. You can improve yourself imo.

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