FabGuys.com forum: Timewasters

By *hepstowtop OP Man
4 weeks ago

Chepstow

Twice in the past six months I've arranged to do a short notice meet. The profiles looked genuine, both had a few verifications, but when I turned up to the street, I received 'radio silence' on the first one, and for the 2nd I suspect I was getting messed about for a 'joke'.

It's annoying.

I think I'll limit my meets to those with loads of verifications and also just use the Greenhouse.

What's your 'messed about stories' and what do you do to prevent this from happening?

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By *ustOneBearMan
4 weeks ago

Neath

There’s not a lot you can do. I had two in one day say they were on their way but never turn up. I just block and move on.

I sometimes get a “feel” for them. It’s pattern recognition “what are you going to do to me” is a classic example of someone who’s just wanking.

The Greenhouse idea is very good. You’ll still have a sauna and steam if you don’t get sex.

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By *ohnny boyABCMan
4 weeks ago

penarth

Deffo meet at the greenhouse as a plan B. Weeds out them who were only going to bottle it in first place and hey if/when they don't turn up it's rare to visit and not get some fun and if all else fails yeah Jacuzzi, steam room, sauna and some snap & craic in the bar. What's not to like?

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

the last five meets I've arranged have been no shows, bit of a bugger as it's difficult for me to get out and about as a rule. Just have to block them forget about it.

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By *wansea guyMan
4 weeks ago

swansea

I’ve driven 30 miles chatted on the way then when I came time for the house number it went quiet. I had another one where I went to the address and it was the wrong one I think he was watching somewhere.

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By *ID89Man
4 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

Was visiting manchester a few weekends ago. Walked twenty minutes to a guys flat. Told me the name of the flats, buz_ed me into the foyer but refused to tell me the flat number and then blocked me

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By *punky knickersTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Flintshire

There's plenty on here unfortunately and some of the excuses are unbelievable and you also get the one's that totally block you ffs

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By *hepstowtop OP Man
4 weeks ago

Chepstow

"I’ve driven 30 miles chatted on the way then when I came time for the house number it went quiet. I had another one where I went to the address and it was the wrong one I think he was watching somewhere. "

Yes, I think this is what was happening yesterday. I'd parked down the bottom of the street and he wanted me - for some reason - to park at the top of the street.

So he could see I would guess.

I don't understand the mentality.

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By *hepstowtop OP Man
4 weeks ago

Chepstow

"Was visiting manchester a few weekends ago. Walked twenty minutes to a guys flat. Told me the name of the flats, buz_ed me into the foyer but refused to tell me the flat number and then blocked me

Jesus; that's extreme.

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By *edMan
4 weeks ago

south wales

I’ve had a spate of people wasting my time over the last few weeks.

I’m just thankful that there are a couple of cracking guys who I meet on a regular basis off here that make up for it.

I think I’ll stick to meeting them.

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By *teve811Man
4 weeks ago

Newport

Unfortunately time wasters are the bane of this site. Some people get cold feet, what if the neighbors see, what if someone calls unexpectedly? Some just seem to get off on arranging meets then cancelling at the last minute or going silent. The trouble is that the very nature of this site attracts men who are married, in a relationship or in the closet. That means that those who can accomadate and are genuine are few and far bgetween.

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By *amanthaCDTV/TS
4 weeks ago

FRANCE, no longer in

Time wasters are a fact of every meeting site and not just this one. It also happens here in France with the french sites. Just some thing we have to accept as part of this life style. Unfortunately it will never change.

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By *edMan
4 weeks ago

south wales

Today takes the biscuit.

Threesome organised and the other two turned out to be time wasters! 😂

You couldn’t write this stuff.

Luckily a good friend has just stepped in to help a guy out lol

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By *ID89Man
4 weeks ago

Pembrokeshire

"Today takes the biscuit.

Threesome organised and the other two turned out to be time wasters! 😂

You couldn’t write this stuff.

Luckily a good friend has just stepped in to help a guy out lol"

Oh no

glad youve got a back up tho

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By *erbysuckMan
4 weeks ago

derbyshire

"Twice in the past six months I've arranged to do a short notice meet. The profiles looked genuine, both had a few verifications, but when I turned up to the street, I received 'radio silence' on the first one, and for the 2nd I suspect I was getting messed about for a 'joke'.

It's annoying.

Just get used to it as it will happen a lot xxx

I think I'll limit my meets to those with loads of verifications and also just use the Greenhouse.

What's your 'messed about stories' and what do you do to prevent this from happening?"

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By *tudavidsonMan
4 weeks ago

Southampton

I had a guy turn up at my hotel last week. He was there, we were within touching distance then he bailed. It was a little bit lucky in that I went down to reception to let him in (needed a card for the elevator) and as I got back in the lift one of my work colleagues was there but as long as he acted cool could have played that off

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By *ow22Man
4 weeks ago

Pwllheli

Happens too often and my block list is just getting longer

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By *o againMan
4 weeks ago

Bridgend

It's not just the no-shows. It's the meets you take ages to sort. Then where you get there. The house is dirty and smell of drugs. And the person doesn't look anything like the photo on yhere profile.. not a good experience...

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By *ecretsucker37Man
4 weeks ago

Nelson

Had it where I’ve driven there and as I’ve parked up they messaged to say they’ve got visitors.

Another gave me the postcode, I said I was on my way. Got there and he’s gone offline a minute after reading my message, then didn’t come back on until the next day.

Another told me to pop over and he was just popping in the shower. Didn’t come back on until that evening and ignored my messages asking what happened to him.

Another wanted me to go around to suck him and his mate off. I got half way, checked my phone, and he’s messaged saying his mate didn’t fancy it anymore. I went home, then they wanted me to suck them both in a random field. Sounded dodgy so didn’t.

Another gave me the postcode, I turned up, then when messaged for the address decided to play 20 questions, and would answer a straight question about which house it was, so drove off.

Frustrating thing is they were all verified.

Now, I won’t drive more than 20 mins for a meet, unless it’s someone I’ve met before.

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By *poolBiTopMan
6 days ago

Liverpool

After a fair few messages. I've had leaving in 15 minutes then half an hour later leaving now. An hour later it's stuck in traffic. Then silence.

Whatever good it does he's getting reported then blocked.

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By *onmar01Couple (MM)
6 days ago

Bargoed

I had a guy, married wife away for the weekend so he had time to play etc

He arrived at mine and as soon as he got in the door he said he was really sorry but on his way here his wife had messaged to say she was on her way home, surprise.

He was full of apologies and said he wanted to turn up and show he was genuine and not just call it off and be seen as a timewaster.

Quick kiss and he was gone, shame as he'd driven half an hour to get here.

So will take that as an excuse and not that he saw my ugly mug and changed his mind lol

Shame never saw him online again, as he did seem totally genuine.

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By *evelation300Man
5 days ago

Swansea

Unfortunately there are those that time waste, however there are those who genuinely want to meet but don't for whatever reason they have.

For me, I can't accom and unfortunately I have a weird libido.

Whenever I'm available others aren't and vice versa so we tend not to meet.

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By *upertedMan
5 days ago

Nelson

I've stopped travelling to meets. Same as you, bas experiences in the past once I drove to Pontypool, and another to Llantrisant.

Blocked as soon as I said I'd arrived.

I feel I'm pretty open as I can host as live alone. It does reduce potential meets but I had 3 fab ones over the festive break.

Always a bad apple in the cart. 🍎

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By *ayPonty1Man
5 days ago

Pontypridd

I've had some people block me and I'd never even talked to them. Lot of that type on here as well.

I can usually spot a timewaster but one or two have surprised me.

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By *ID89Man
5 days ago

Pembrokeshire

"I've had some people block me and I'd never even talked to them. Lot of that type on here as well.

I can usually spot a timewaster but one or two have surprised me."

Same here mr.

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By *ayPonty1Man
5 days ago

Pontypridd

"I've had some people block me and I'd never even talked to them. Lot of that type on here as well.

I can usually spot a timewaster but one or two have surprised me.

Same here mr. "

It's sad really.

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By *ID89Man
5 days ago

Pembrokeshire

I used to take offence to being blocked without being spoken to but now my motto is "it is what it is"

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By *allyStockingsTV/TS
5 days ago

aberdare

"There's plenty on here unfortunately and some of the excuses are unbelievable and you also get the one's that totally block you ffs "

If they take the time to lie to me, I am ok with that.. “someone just turned up” sorry. . Is still pretty respectful as they are still cancelling before you set off.

Keeping in contact, freq messages on the way, all good and them BAM- ghosting you and blocked when your at the meet point is such a fucking weasel trick to pull. I hate those ppl .. what horrible shits eh?

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By *iguy650Man
4 days ago

newport

I once had a guy turn up at the house, and when I opened the door he said "Sorry, this isn't going to work", turned around and walked off. I thought I must look a right ugly fucker!

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By *oss27Man
4 days ago

dublin

Time wasters all over definitely Dublin we’re in from.

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By *iketotry2000Man
23 hours ago

Rhondda

I drove an hour to a meet..had been given the address...it was a fairly new housing estate. The street existed but that particular number didnt. And yes radio silence !! To be honest I just wrote it off to experience. It was before I had satnav or google maps. I do check on maps now to sus out the area and street view, useful to see any likely parking issues.

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By *elshDrag0nMan
23 hours ago

Swansea

There’s quite a few on here

Some you arrange and they block you

Some expect you to reply to all messages and if you don’t reply within 5 minutes they block you

Was meant to meet a threesome in October they gave we’re going to give me their address then all of a sudden they deleted all chats pics and blocked me

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