Five stone gone. Booze gone. Sense of humour still hanging on by a thread.
I’m Ian, single and based in Goytre near Abergavenny.
I’ve lost over five stone, stopped drinking completely and rebuilt a fair bit of my life without turning into one of those evangelical wellness bellends who corners you beside the buffet to explain magnesium.
I’m broad, bearded, naturally hairy, with one tattoo and the general appearance of a grown man who has actually lived rather than been assembled beneath gym lighting.
I’m bi, experienced and comfortable with men, trans women, TVs and femboys. I’m not interested in pretending attraction only exists behind a locked door, nor do I suddenly become “straight” when the conversation gets inconvenient.
What attracts me is confidence, femininity, humour, intelligence and somebody who can hold a proper conversation before expecting trousers to hit the floor.
I enjoy the flirting, the tension and the wicked little shift in a conversation when both people realise exactly where it might be heading. I’m not here for joyless mechanical sex with somebody checking the time over my shoulder.
I can accommodate, I’m discreet when discretion is genuinely required, and I don’t drink at all. Not “only socially”, not “cutting down”, and not “apart from weekends”. None. I’m still perfectly capable of enjoying myself without marinating my personality in lager first.
I cook properly, having trained as a chef long before every bloke with an air fryer started describing himself as a foodie. I spend a fair amount of time outdoors, get into cold rivers voluntarily and occasionally convince myself this is character building rather than evidence of poor judgement.
I’ve been around the swinging and alternative scene for more than twenty-five years, both as part of a couple and as a single man. I understand boundaries, consent, nerves, changing your mind and the simple fact that nobody owes anybody access to their body because a few messages were exchanged.
I’m not looking to shag my way through the site. I’d rather find a few people I genuinely click with, laugh with and want to see again.
Current face pictures are available. Yours should be too.
Say more than “hi”. Give me something to work with.
