FabGuys.com: Dulce Lobo (39) , Man in Beeston, Leeds, North East, UK

DISCLAIMER :

Despite having an elaborate profile, I'm pretty chill. Like to relax with guys who know how to relax. And I'm only interested in virtuous men who own their charm and simultaneously carry the humble understanding that it's not supposed to be for everyone.

I've been on this site for a while and I wrote the following text for men who appreciate reading someone's thoughts on sex. I'm a psychology student so of course I enjoy discussions on this topic. If you're someone who doesn't, then I advise you stop reading any further and just stick to the Interests section for minimal insight. And if you choose to ignore that advice and continue to read...ok, but you can't say I didn't warn ya.

This is an overview of what I enjoy. I'm not dictating how anyone else should enjoy sex. I'm merely offering insight for someone to consider before choosing to contact me.

And it's there for you to enjoy, or not. These are just my thoughts, which no one is forcing you to read. So, please spare me your critique on how long you think it is or how big-headed you think I am for uploading it. Seriously, I don't message others telling them I think their profile is too brief or self-depricating. It's none of my business how they choose to present themselves. If I don't find it appealing, then I don't bother with them. Their profile, their choice. Use your time wisely.

And nowhere have I mentioned anyone specific for anyone to get offended. If you find that you don't appreciate what I've written, then instead of wasting your time and mine sending me a message telling me this, I suggest you move onto a profile of someone whose thoughts you do appreciate. Makes sense, right?

Oh, and any request to see my friend only pics from a profile with no public pics / no friend only pics without sending me a message with pics will be ignored. Mad stalker vibes. All take no give. Start how you mean to go on.

That's enough warning. Let's get into it.

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8 POINTS OF BASIS :

The basis for chatting up a guy on this site is to...

1 - Remember you are not the centre of the universe. People have lives they are living and you should take this fact into consideration before making assumptions as to why they haven't gotten back to you straight away. This is beneficial for them and crucial for your own integrity.

2 - Acknowledge that we're all different. You can't expect everyone to be into you. Not everyone likes the same things. This shouldn't stop you being respectful to others and yourself. Rejection is just a part of life that we all have to deal with. And how you choose to deal with it determines what kind of respectful adult you are.

3 - It's worth checking his verifications to see what others say about him, but more importantly, read his profile and pay attention to the contents within messages so he doesn't have to repeat himself. Don't just go on pictures, unless that's all he has.

4 - Understand the difference between chatting up a guy and ordering a paid guy to fulfil your fantasies by filling in your own profile and sparing him your list of things you're into in conversation. Don't just ask 'What you into?' or 'What you looking for?' A thousand guys have asked him this question already. Asking a guy 'What you into?' or 'What you looking for?' is sending the message 'Hi, I'm willing to make this as automated as possible because I've got zero conversation skills and I don't know how to flirt'.

5 - Rely on charm and intuition while recognising what business of yours is worth sharing and don't brag or divulge info about cheating on your partner, cos this just makes you look like a %*€$. Plus, it most likely helps your anonymity to not tell people you require discretion when you think about it. And paranoia is not making you any sexier.

6 - Know thyself and your status. I'm neg on prep and STI clear (tested October 2024) Also, educate yourself because it's not the 80's anymore! Science has come a long way, yet people still feel dignified to shame those of us who prefer bareback sex. When most of us are either undetectable or on prep and get tested every 3 months, which is actually taking more steps into preventing infection than just wearing a condom that can split.

7 - We can play the game of Winks initially if you want, but if you send me a Wink first and I'm interested based on the pics/info on your profile, I will just reciprocate. You're gonna have to message me after if you want to chat. No need to be shy.

8 - Thou Shalt Not Lie About Thy Age. His real age does not make a man unattractive. However, what does make a man less attractive is the fact he decided to pander to ageists at the price of his own authenticity. Spare yourself encountering these men by saving yourself for a guy who is actually worthy of your time. Because when you're with 1 of the good ones and you have to reveal to him that you lied for the reasons above, despite the fact you have managed to get him into bed, it still reduces your sex appeal. Sexy men own their age with pride, no matter the age.

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SINGLE CARNAL SCORPIO MAN :

Experienced guy good with first-timers.

Looking to spend some quality time with decent guys, until the right guy comes along.

Sapiosexual - The most attractive part of a man are his eyes and his mind. What he thinks and feels...it distinguishes him from others the most. And it determines what kind of lover he can be.

I do appreciate a man who practices self-care.

And it's worth pointing out for those of you who misappropriate what it means to be a man...if you associate masculinity with being either heterosexual/bisexual, then you are the problem.

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SEXUALITY :

In the hope that someone from admin reads this and updates the section on sexuality to be more inclusive, so that I don't have to misrepresent myself as just 'Gay', I'm Androsexual because I'm sexually and romantically attracted to masculine males, including FTM (trans men).

But I'm not gynosexual because I'm not sexually or romantically attracted to women including MTF (trans women) or feminine men.

Although I'm a philogynist because I admire women (including trans women) and feminine men, holding an inate desire to protect them, without being sexually or romantically attracted to them.

Of course I can accept that some people are sexually attracted to both men and women and so I don't attempt to debunk Bisexuality.

However, Bi-curious is not a sexuality. Because I don't see how you can be curious about who you are sexually attracted to.

This is not how sexual attraction works.

Curious about whether or not you will enjoy sex with the person you end up choosing to have sex with? Yeah. But that is down to the chemistry between you and the person you chose. This is not conclusive evidence to deny your desire of an entire gender.

Your sexuality is based on who you are sexually attracted to and not who you have managed to have sex with.

So, you're either acknowledging your attractions to someone and choosing to act on them in the hope of forming a genuine connection with them...seems honest...or, you're choosing to conduct an 'experiment' with the bias of proving you're not into it, which is obviously pointless and disrespectful to the person you're with.

Your sexuality is not based on who you think or who others think or what you've been told God thinks you should be sexually attracted to, rather who you actually are sexually attracted to. And anyone possessing apt critical faculties regarding self-awareness knows this.

Who do you willingly think about when you masturbate to help you to cum? Because therein lies your sexuality. Admittedly, once you recognise this, you will realise how absurd the term Bi-curious is.

All that calling yourself Bi-curious does is shows the disparity between your sexuality and who you convince yourself you are/how you choose to present yourself to others. And let's be real, when it comes to men who own who they are, there is no disparity.

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INTIMACY :

Mutual pleasure is the goal

I won't meet a man who doesn't kiss men. This is absurd to me.

It's very important to understand the difference between Top and Dom, Bottom and Sub.

Men who are scared of intimacy will do either 1 of 4 things when approaching intimacy:

1. act shy.

2. try to mask reality by acting submissive.

3. try to mask reality by acting dominant.

4. try to overcome their fear of intimacy with the man they are with.

If being intimate with someone is something you avoid during sex, this suggests a wide range of issues that you probably should address before having sex with anyone.

Dom/Sub mentality is a weakness. Not a strength.

I want your adoration and respect. Not your orders/depravity.

Don't get it twisted.

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SEX = TRUST :

The more you trust each other's sexual intuition, the better the sex.

And I want to earn that trust through your recognition of my attentive prowess. And I expect the same intent of you.

You don't have to tell me what turns you on. I'll find out. That's part of the fun of meeting someone new.

I have a good track record for making guys cum handsfree...so I prefer a guy who doesn't pull on his cock when I'm inside. And I'll carry that same trust in you. 100% Vers. No p*ppers necessary.

I find it sad when I see a guy getting fucked saying 'You're gonna make me cum' but he's pulling on his cock while being fucked...as if he doesn't know that some guys can make you cum handsfree.

That's not him making you cum. That's the combination of him fucking you and you wanking making you cum and in those instances the correct grammar would be 'We're gonna make me cum'

I've managed it with about half the guys I've fucked.

It's also reticent of the fact that sex = trust. And he's not trusting your capabilities by relying on wanking to make himself cum and this makes me lose my erection.

Same if he relies on p*ppers.

Despite the fact that kissing on p*ppers can be hot, when it comes to making you feel relaxed, a dedicated man makes p*ppers irrelevant through the presence he exudes, being a good kisser, synchronised breathing, oral pleasure, decent lube and being tender when necessary. The payoff of reaching those heights naturally together is more rewarding.

If your main focus as a Top is not the pleasure of the guy you're fucking and getting him to look up at you with trusting eyes, then you're not doing it right.

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KINKS :

I'm not kink/fetish-minded and at the risk of sounding harsh, I associate kinks with fantasists who generally aren't very good at sex.

If there isn't a shared goal to form a connection of mutual adoration and instead it's 1 getting something out of the other, this will become immediately apparent and I'm automatically turned off.

And if this isn't obvious from your profile, I'll attempt to find out if this is you before arranging a meet to prevent wasting both our time.

Not into toys or cock rings etc, prefer natural. Don't mind a Prince Albert. Can appreciate men's underwear (jocks/briefs/boxers) but they'll be coming off fairly quickly because I love being naked together.

I think 69 is overrated. I can appreciate it with the right guy sometimes...but if it's not obvious by now, it's being attentive that really turns me on...and allowing each other to sit/lay back in turn and appreciate the other's technique is pretty damn hot! I love watching how he sucks my cock. And I love feeling him watch how I suck his too.

I don't do drugs anymore. There was a point when I realised I love sex more than I love drugs. And the problem with drugs is that they creep up on you and convince you that you need the drugs in order to enjoy the sex...and that's just bullshit because if you're not getting high naturally off the chemistry between the 2 of you, then you're with the wrong guy.

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MOST IMPORTANT :

Stay away from me if you're a selfish lover obsessed with your own nipples. I don't care how sensitive they are.

Or in fact, if you try and direct my attention towards any part of your body tbh. Massive turn off.

A real man is respectful and knows how to appreciate the attention he receives without trying to usher it to a specific area.

If you're meeting me, you need to appreciate being with another human being and understand the difference between sex-mode and wank-mode.

I'm an eyes man, so make sure I can see them if you want to chat. Eyes are the best indicator for a good kisser.

If I have to ask for a clear face pic and you send me only a pic of you wearing shades, I'll just ignore you.

Prefer a longer session to quick fuck and go.

Shower thoroughly before meet. But no deodorant. It acts as a repellent for a guy's nose and tongue. Same if you haven't brushed your teeth or washed your cock properly. Both are offputting. Be a respectful adult and recognise this about yourself. Or let a guy know in advance if you've not managed to shower and need to borrow his before fun. It may seem like an inconvenience, but trust me he'll appreciate it.

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MORNING GLORY:

My favorite game to play after spending a night together is Who Wakes Up First.

Whoever wakes up first has to make his way down the sheets slowly (as not to wake him up) and greet his morning glory by softly licking and kissing until it escalates to sucking (still softly, as the point of the game is to see how long you can enjoy 'breakfast' without waking him up)

Then when he does eventually wake up from the sensual pleasure, lifts the sheet and opens his eyes, the first thing he sees that morning is you fully engulfed in the taste of him ;)

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