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"As verifications inform me most on whether to meet up with someone or not why does FG allow them to be hidden? So annoying " It certainly is | |||
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"As verifications inform me most on whether to meet up with someone or not why does FG allow them to be hidden? So annoying " Yes don't no why they do it.Lets you see there getting folk.Im no interested in profiles who hide them. | |||
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"People hide their verifications because its their choice. TBH verifications only confirm (in the majority of cases) that that person has met or been seen on cam. What do they actually prove?? Have you ever read a bad verification? Everyone is 'hung', best fuck ever, heavy cummer, one of the genuine ones, dont mess about etc. I have veris from meets and lots from camming, many of which I choose not to show, not because they're bad or that I dont appreciate the time and effort that people have taken to write them but its my choice. " Like several above, I find the words written by other people will often tell me more about a man than he will volunteer himself. They are also a good gauge for what types of sex they liked, how they interacted, what impressions others had of them. As a general rule, the more open a man is about his sex on a site like this, the easier dealing with him is going to be. But people are different. I’m fully aware not everyone is as sexually open or as sexually active as I am. There’s no judgment. Some men are very private people, some entrapped by discretion issues, some cagey about allowing others to know who they meet, etc etc. You have to respect that. It is indeed their choice. But the less info you have, the less you have to work with to gauge suitability and sexual parity. But I don’t agree at all with some of this: “TBH verifications only confirm (in the majority of cases) that that person has met or been seen on cam.” They tell you so much more than this. If it’s a verification that just says “saw on cam, big cock” or “met him, decent guy” then it is pointless in one sense - but it’s value is that it should set your mind wondering why the person couldn’t or didn’t choose to tell you anything more about the person they met. “What do they actually prove??” So much. Is their sex regular or sporadic? How long ago did they get a Fab verification? The person who had a meet last week and one 2 months before etc is invariably is up for the arrangement you made. The person who has 1 verification from 7 years ago will invariably not see an arrangement through. You learn this by experience. 1 x 7 year old verification not published - it might as well have been written by their mum. That isn’t a profile I consider verified in any provable way. “Have you ever read a bad verification?” Yes, loads. The ones that are valueless, go through the motions, are just courtesy verifications only. You can always tell mutual courtesy verifications. They are impersonal. Tell you nothing about the man. No adjectives. No anecdotes. No locations. Could have been written by AI. “Everyone is 'hung', best fuck ever, heavy cummer, one of the genuine ones, dont mess about etc.” And that is why you have to parse verifications more acutely. If people resort to hackneyed schlock only they are the valueless verifications. If I see someone has (say) 6 published verifications and every one of them tells me zilch, then I’m less inclined to be interested. I know they do meet - but I don’t know if they’re worth meeting! “many of which I choose not to show… not that I dont appreciate the time and effort that people have taken to write them… but its my choice. Exactly your choice. But anyone who works like me: less info = less interest. I also discuss with people if we are going to verify or not. There’s no point wasting each other’s time if they don’t want a verification or would never publish it anyway. If someone has bothered to write something for me on that basis, I think it’s disrespectful not to publish. | |||
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"…Plus there was a guy on here who was messaging guys on verification lists,saying he had met the person they had verified ,which he hadnt to try and get in with them etc.as if a friend ,long story but a nutter… " What’s the point you’re making..? We shouldn’t publish verifications because there are nutters on here..? Shock news: nutters can message you whether you publish verifications or not, or indeed you have none. And they often do. | |||
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"1. People leave the site and verification count stays but the verification disappears. 2. The verification is bland. 3. The stupid games some people play, like you won't meet a perosn so he starts pressing the guys you have met for meets. 4. You decide that person isn't who uounforst thought they qere so block rhem and lose the verification. Just a few reasons. I am sure others have more" 1] That’s why your verification summary is commonly never in tally with the number you might display. But not relevant to why you might hide your other verifications. 2] Indeed. But not relevant to displaying other less bland verifications. 3] You block the problem profile. They then can’t see your verifications. You don’t need to hide them for that reason. 4] See 1] | |||
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"Because whatever happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom. All you need to know is the person is verified. " Well, if you’re only doing it in the bedroom that’s a bit dull for a start. A green tick ✅ without any published verification and without a verification summary is utterly meaningless. You don’t know if it was a cam wank - have they ever actually met another man for sex?! And it could have been 12 years ago when they were younger and fitter and they never plucked up the courage to do it again (such things are not uncommon). If you’re going to work on the basis just a ✅ means assurance you’re going to get let down a few times. | |||
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" 3. Not displaying can make it look like you haven’t met anyone. " Though the green circle with a tick in it on your profile means you've been verified by others. | |||
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"People hide their verifications because its their choice. TBH verifications only confirm (in the majority of cases) that that person has met or been seen on cam. What do they actually prove?? Have you ever read a bad verification? Everyone is 'hung', best fuck ever, heavy cummer, one of the genuine ones, dont mess about etc. I have veris from meets and lots from camming, many of which I choose not to show, not because they're bad or that I dont appreciate the time and effort that people have taken to write them but its my choice. Like several above, I find the words written by other people will often tell me more about a man than he will volunteer himself. They are also a good gauge for what types of sex they liked, how they interacted, what impressions others had of them. As a general rule, the more open a man is about his sex on a site like this, the easier dealing with him is going to be. But people are different. I’m fully aware not everyone is as sexually open or as sexually active as I am. There’s no judgment. Some men are very private people, some entrapped by discretion issues, some cagey about allowing others to know who they meet, etc etc. You have to respect that. It is indeed their choice. But the less info you have, the less you have to work with to gauge suitability and sexual parity. But I don’t agree at all with some of this: “TBH verifications only confirm (in the majority of cases) that that person has met or been seen on cam.” They tell you so much more than this. If it’s a verification that just says “saw on cam, big cock” or “met him, decent guy” then it is pointless in one sense - but it’s value is that it should set your mind wondering why the person couldn’t or didn’t choose to tell you anything more about the person they met. “What do they actually prove??” So much. Is their sex regular or sporadic? How long ago did they get a Fab verification? The person who had a meet last week and one 2 months before etc is invariably is up for the arrangement you made. The person who has 1 verification from 7 years ago will invariably not see an arrangement through. You learn this by experience. 1 x 7 year old verification not published - it might as well have been written by their mum. That isn’t a profile I consider verified in any provable way. “Have you ever read a bad verification?” Yes, loads. The ones that are valueless, go through the motions, are just courtesy verifications only. You can always tell mutual courtesy verifications. They are impersonal. Tell you nothing about the man. No adjectives. No anecdotes. No locations. Could have been written by AI. “Everyone is 'hung', best fuck ever, heavy cummer, one of the genuine ones, dont mess about etc.” And that is why you have to parse verifications more acutely. If people resort to hackneyed schlock only they are the valueless verifications. If I see someone has (say) 6 published verifications and every one of them tells me zilch, then I’m less inclined to be interested. I know they do meet - but I don’t know if they’re worth meeting! “many of which I choose not to show… not that I dont appreciate the time and effort that people have taken to write them… but its my choice. Exactly your choice. But anyone who works like me: less info = less interest. I also discuss with people if we are going to verify or not. There’s no point wasting each other’s time if they don’t want a verification or would never publish it anyway. If someone has bothered to write something for me on that basis, I think it’s disrespectful not to publish. " The gays and their rules  | |||
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"Verifications don't really mean much to me. I never ask for them, and prefer to keep the ones I have private. Personal preference, that's all. My last verification was seven months ago. Does that mean I haven't met anyone since? Absolutely not. I'd like to think I've put some effort into my profile though, to give a good idea of what I'm looking for. The idea of banning people after a certain timeframe with no verifications is ridiculous though, lol. I've been on Swingers just as long as I have on Guys, but have zero verifications on Swingers. I've certainly had meets though. The site provides options. Use them, or don't, haha." Guys on site over a year and no icon of verification no verification from Fabguys no verification summary or write up simply rings alarm bells when i get explicit or invitation messages or friend request in my inbox something just not right so I believe after a year on the site and no evidence whatsoever of the person that being pic or icon of verification and summary should be removed instantly not everyone though but thats mine. | |||
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" 3. Not displaying can make it look like you haven’t met anyone. Though the green circle with a tick in it on your profile means you've been verified by others." Dosent prove others as you state may be just the one person and that can just be by cam not actually meeting where verification summary shows how many and with m mm tv/trans as said one dont have to display the write up for there own reasons and choice. | |||
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"Guys on site over a year and no icon of verification no verification from Fabguys no verification summary or write up simply rings alarm bells when i get explicit or invitation messages or friend request in my inbox something just not right so I believe after a year on the site and no evidence whatsoever of the person that being pic or icon of verification and summary should be removed instantly not everyone though but thats mine." And you're perfectly entitled to have that opinion. If no verifications puts you off a profile, then just move on to the next. Block the ones you don't want to see again. No harm, haha. | |||
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"Sometimes I choose to hide my veries because I have had guys message me on the strength of a veri I have left for, or been left by, a third guy. Most recent was "You've met ****, when do we fuck?" When I turned the guy down he got stroppy. Had never even looked at him, wasn't my type when I did and told him so." A man with no idea how to behave. So you block him. (Or I certainly would.) What’s that go to do with how you would otherwise behave? There seems a lot of it in this thread. “XXX behaved stupidly and so I changed the way I do things.” Why allow XXX such power over you..?! | |||
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"Guys on site over a year and no icon of verification no verification from Fabguys no verification summary or write up simply rings alarm bells when i get explicit or invitation messages or friend request in my inbox something just not right so I believe after a year on the site and no evidence whatsoever of the person that being pic or icon of verification and summary should be removed instantly not everyone though but thats mine. And you're perfectly entitled to have that opinion. If no verifications puts you off a profile, then just move on to the next. Block the ones you don't want to see again. No harm, haha." I dont go as far as blocking anyone unless they come rude disrespectful persistent after I dont pay them no mind  | |||
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"Showing veri's gives away contact history and your contacts may choose to remain anonymous. " Surely if someone wants to remain anonymous they’re not going to write you a verification or want one from you..? Am I missing something?! That’s why you discuss this with each person. Sometimes I’ve met a few guys who had no verifications on this site. They didn’t want to publish anything but realised having a verified by meeting status was very useful. So after discussion they have received a “Lovely to meet you!” verification from me that gives them a ✅ and which they didn’t publish. As they wanted. Completely anonymous. But their profiles are still not helpful to any others out there. | |||
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"… The gays and their rules …
"What rules? What’s someone’s sexuality to do this issue? | |||
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"Guys on site over a year and no icon of verification no verification from Fabguys no verification summary or write up simply rings alarm bells when i get explicit or invitation messages or friend request in my inbox something just not right so I believe after a year on the site and no evidence whatsoever of the person that being pic or icon of verification and summary should be removed instantly not everyone though but thats mine. And you're perfectly entitled to have that opinion. If no verifications puts you off a profile, then just move on to the next. Block the ones you don't want to see again. No harm, haha." Alarm bells ringing is the right reaction. Handle them accordingly. Banning profiles is certainly not the right reaction. | |||
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"Guys on site over a year and no icon of verification no verification from Fabguys no verification summary or write up simply rings alarm bells when i get explicit or invitation messages or friend request in my inbox something just not right so I believe after a year on the site and no evidence whatsoever of the person that being pic or icon of verification and summary should be removed instantly not everyone though but thats mine. And you're perfectly entitled to have that opinion. If no verifications puts you off a profile, then just move on to the next. Block the ones you don't want to see again. No harm, haha. Alarm bells ringing is the right reaction. Handle them accordingly. Banning profiles is certainly not the right reaction. " Indeed | |||
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" Dosent prove others as you state may be just the one person and that can just be by cam not actually meeting where verification summary shows how many and with m mm tv/trans as said one dont have to display the write up for there own reasons and choice." Personally I don't care, not showing veris is my choice, I'm not on here to collect notches on the bedpost, over the years I've not done too badly on here even though I choose to hide verifications, why should those of us that hide veris have to change for the benefit of people we're unlikely to meet anyway? | |||
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" The gays and their rules "WTF had being gay got to do with it? | |||
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" Dosent prove others as you state may be just the one person and that can just be by cam not actually meeting where verification summary shows how many and with m mm tv/trans as said one dont have to display the write up for there own reasons and choice. Personally I don't care, not showing veris is my choice, I'm not on here to collect notches on the bedpost, over the years I've not done too badly on here even though I choose to hide verifications, why should those of us that hide veris have to change for the benefit of people we're unlikely to meet anyway?" Didn't say show written verifications but the summary Fabguys have which can be seen and as said prove authenticity that one really is real and actually helps others make there mind up to engage in conversation which is good or meet. | |||
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" The gays and their rules
WTF had being gay got to do with it?"Hahahaha was thinking exactly the same but its ok its a thread everyone is welcome to there views and thoughts | |||
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" The gays and their rules
WTF had being gay got to do with it?"That bit wasn’t immediately clear to me. But as the profile in question states he’s basically “never looking to meet”… it begs questions as to why a perspective on verifications from someone who’s not interested in them and wouldn’t need to use them is much of a contribution to the topic. Just seemed an occasion to throw a half-arsed homophobic comment into the mix. | |||
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" Dosent prove others as you state may be just the one person and that can just be by cam not actually meeting where verification summary shows how many and with m mm tv/trans as said one dont have to display the write up for there own reasons and choice. Personally I don't care, not showing veris is my choice, I'm not on here to collect notches on the bedpost, over the years I've not done too badly on here even though I choose to hide verifications, why should those of us that hide veris have to change for the benefit of people we're unlikely to meet anyway? Didn't say show written verifications but the summary Fabguys have which can be seen and as said prove authenticity that one really is real and actually helps others make there mind up to engage in conversation which is good or meet." I'd say 90% of the people who message me clearly haven't read my profile, some clearly haven't noted how far away from them I am so I'm not sure that showing my verifications or even a summary of my verifications would make any difference at all. | |||
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"Sometimes I choose to hide my veries because I have had guys message me on the strength of a veri I have left for, or been left by, a third guy. Most recent was "You've met ****, when do we fuck?" When I turned the guy down he got stroppy. Had never even looked at him, wasn't my type when I did and told him so." That is exactly why I chose to hide mine. It wasn’t just one person either. Both myself and the guys who verified me were getting persistent messages so we all no longer display verifications. | |||
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"I hide them because people can be a bit judgy, including myself. Profiles with 100s of veris in the past few months just make me think of an sti risk rather than a fun encounter. Someone who lists themself as a top but has lots of veris saying how great he is at taking cock just make me think he's a bit fake." The same old bizarre tropes. 🙄 Everyone who has lots of sex is an STI risk. FabGuys is the only place anyone has sex. So a person with 1 verification in 2026 couldn’t possibly have been in a sauna with multiple guys every day of the year. No mainly top guys can ever get fucked. Versatility isn’t real. Real tops have never bottomed. | |||
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"I hide them because people can be a bit judgy, including myself. Profiles with 100s of veris in the past few months just make me think of an sti risk rather than a fun encounter. Someone who lists themself as a top but has lots of veris saying how great he is at taking cock just make me think he's a bit fake. The same old bizarre tropes. 🙄 Everyone who has lots of sex is an STI risk. FabGuys is the only place anyone has sex. So a person with 1 verification in 2026 couldn’t possibly have been in a sauna with multiple guys every day of the year. No mainly top guys can ever get fucked. Versatility isn’t real. Real tops have never bottomed. " Quite, I have profiles on several sites, though at the moment due to unemployment I'm only paying full membership on here and Fabswingers, I also am a regular at Gay Saunas, at one time I was going once a week, currently once a month due to finances, plus I have some other contacts, my veris on here don't tell the whole story of my sexual activity. | |||
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"Suppose its about giving people control of their own accounts and the choice of what they do or dont display. I definately use them as a tool to decide whether to make contact or not. Sometimes you get more info here than the profiles own bio, really helps to make educated decisions. Ive had a couple of people tell me they dont want to meet me as i have too many on my profile, i totally respect their choice but i will continue to display" Good for you, lad. 👍 “Ive had a couple of people tell me they dont want to meet me as i have too many on my profile” - NEVER be sex shamed or kink shamed by some of the desiccated sneerers on here. Over the years I’ve had messages out of the blue telling me I’m a pr*stitute - I must be riddled with STIs and AIDS - I meet too many men [they only see those that choose to verify me here and who are on here, so the reality would blow their minds] - I’m so brazen and should be ashamed to publish names [do they understand the system at all?!] - all my verifications are fake [how?!] - etc etc. It’s always told me a great deal about the people messaging and very little about me. This subject seems to bring out a very strange side of some users. I gravitate towards people who are at ease with themselves and their sex lives. This is a personal choice and I respect whatever others choose to do. Sadly a lot of those requesting respect aren’t always too hot at giving it. But if your sex is so furtive and you’re so incredibly discreet that others can discern little about you, you’re unlikely to find me a good match-up. | |||
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"…Plus there was a guy on here who was messaging guys on verification lists,saying he had met the person they had verified ,which he hadnt to try and get in with them etc.as if a friend ,long story but a nutter… What’s the point you’re making..? We shouldn’t publish verifications because there are nutters on here..? Shock news: nutters can message you whether you publish verifications or not, or indeed you have none. And they often do. " yes they can message you but point im making is they cant contact your verifiers if you dont publish them on fab | |||
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"Do guys actually read verifications. Most can’t even read a profile, so why bother about verifications " This^ A point I made in a previous post. | |||
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"…Plus there was a guy on here who was messaging guys on verification lists,saying he had met the person they had verified ,which he hadnt to try and get in with them etc.as if a friend ,long story but a nutter… What’s the point you’re making..? We shouldn’t publish verifications because there are nutters on here..? Shock news: nutters can message you whether you publish verifications or not, or indeed you have none. And they often do. yes they can message you but point im making is they cant contact your verifiers if you dont publish them on fab " They can’t contact you if you don’t have a profile here too... They can’t contact you if you hide under the bed in a lead-lined casket… At some point a decision has to be made in all things how much you change your behaviour based on a few problem nutters. I wouldn’t allow them to dictate my behaviour. But clearly other people are different. I was brought up never to compromise with bad behaviour. | |||
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"Do guys actually read verifications. Most can’t even read a profile, so why bother about verifications " Always play to the highest common factor not the lowest common denominator. If you followed your logic through to its natural conclusion: you wouldn’t bother writing any profile because you knew many wouldn’t read it; you wouldn’t add any pictures because you knew some wouldn’t bother to look through them; you wouldn’t set an age range because so many would ignore it; you wouldn’t etc etc. | |||
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"Do guys actually read verifications. Most can’t even read a profile, so why bother about verifications " I always read verifications | |||
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"Because I don't necessarily want everyone to know who I've met and what we did. I haven't verified anyone in 2 years and not that interested in receiving them. Just wanted to receive an initial veri so people knew I've genuinely met. Also one of the guys who verified me mentioned my 1st name in it so I don't want to show that lol." Well they can only mention your first name if you tell them it! To me, verifications are more important than photos, and I won't accommodate anyone if I can't read at least 4 or 5 verifications... I'll probably visit, but not accom that's the difference veri's make to me But each to their own | |||
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" Each to their own I think, its a broad Church here and everyone should be able to have fun in their own way. " I agree. It's when people insist that others maintain their personal profile in a manner that they insist upon that it becomes a problem. | |||
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" Well they can only mention your first name if you tell them it! To me, verifications are more important than photos, and I won't accommodate anyone if I can't read at least 4 or 5 verifications... I'll probably visit, but not accom that's the difference veri's make to me But each to their own" | |||
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"🤖 How about an AI summary? "Generally people liked the way he sucked cock..." " Or if it's Meta , "it is currently unclear how he sucks cock, and without that information, it is difficult to summarise.... do you have anything else to help with the answer? How do you feel about sucking cock....? | |||
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"Admin like to give people a choice over whether to show your verifications or not. " This thread started by a guy (with fairly new, 3 week old profile) that doesn't like the choices others make. Google AI helpfully says - Key realities about the choices others make: They Affect You: Actions of others—whether personal, professional, or social—create ripples that directly influence your environment and options. They Are Outside Your Control: You cannot force others to make specific decisions, nor can you "fix" their mistakes, regardless of how much you may want to. Perception is Key: You may not fully understand their motives, as their choices are filtered through their unique experiences and, often, subconscious processes. Your Response Matters: Rather than wasting energy stressing over others' decisions, you must focus on your own, acting in your own best interest. You Can Only Control Yourself: Ultimately, you are responsible for your own reactions, actions, and the life you build for yourself. | |||
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"I get it if someone puts things too personal on verification that you don’t want made public but surely just message them back and ask them to edit out that details? Also many , but not all ,with webcam verifications tend to waste your time in arranging meets and never turn up . If the idiots going through verifications and pestering those you have met surely just block them and not ruin it for others " We cant edit veri once its given. | |||
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"As verifications inform me most on whether to meet up with someone or not why does FG allow them to be hidden? So annoying " surely that's the choice of the account holder. | |||
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"I don’t display my verifications nor do I read other peoples, I prefer to chat with someone and make up my own mind about them gut feeling over a faceless verification every time" That's fair enough, but I just use verifications as a tool to decide whether I give out my address to someone or not.. if I can see that they've had a few encounters in my area, and others (often who I know) class them as genuine...I'll invite over No verifications, I'm not giving my address out. So it's pretty black and white for me.. If I'm invited to their place, I'm not nearly so stringent, but still prefer it if verified | |||
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"I get it if someone puts things too personal on verification that you don’t want made public but surely just message them back and ask them to edit out that details? Also many , but not all ,with webcam verifications tend to waste your time in arranging meets and never turn up . If the idiots going through verifications and pestering those you have met surely just block them and not ruin it for others We cant edit veri once it’s given." Recipient deletes/does not publish and and new one sent is, I think, what is meant by "edit." | |||
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"Who gives a toss about verifications! What about before the Internet or before some of you were even born,no one knew anything about anyone,all we wanted was sex with men. Yes I'm old but I know what I want and who I want sex with." Before the internet you wouldn't have been on this website...so why now? you wouldn't have sent text messages, so why now? Because It's progress and convenience, hence I use verifications now, cos I can and it helps me. | |||
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"Its hard enough to get guys to verify you but find it more frustrating that when people delete their profile or leave fab the verifications disappear too! I should have at least 4 or more than I do ! " The verification disappears however your verification count stays the same | |||
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"People hide their verifications because its their choice. TBH verifications only confirm (in the majority of cases) that that person has met or been seen on cam. What do they actually prove?? Have you ever read a bad verification? Everyone is 'hung', best fuck ever, heavy cummer, one of the genuine ones, dont mess about etc. I have veris from meets and lots from camming, many of which I choose not to show, not because they're bad or that I dont appreciate the time and effort that people have taken to write them but its my choice. Like several above, I find the words written by other people will often tell me more about a man than he will volunteer himself. They are also a good gauge for what types of sex they liked, how they interacted, what impressions others had of them. As a general rule, the more open a man is about his sex on a site like this, the easier dealing with him is going to be. But people are different. I’m fully aware not everyone is as sexually open or as sexually active as I am. There’s no judgment. Some men are very private people, some entrapped by discretion issues, some cagey about allowing others to know who they meet, etc etc. You have to respect that. It is indeed their choice. But the less info you have, the less you have to work with to gauge suitability and sexual parity. But I don’t agree at all with some of this: “TBH verifications only confirm (in the majority of cases) that that person has met or been seen on cam.” They tell you so much more than this. If it’s a verification that just says “saw on cam, big cock” or “met him, decent guy” then it is pointless in one sense - but it’s value is that it should set your mind wondering why the person couldn’t or didn’t choose to tell you anything more about the person they met. “What do they actually prove??” So much. Is their sex regular or sporadic? How long ago did they get a Fab verification? The person who had a meet last week and one 2 months before etc is invariably is up for the arrangement you made. The person who has 1 verification from 7 years ago will invariably not see an arrangement through. You learn this by experience. 1 x 7 year old verification not published - it might as well have been written by their mum. That isn’t a profile I consider verified in any provable way. “Have you ever read a bad verification?” Yes, loads. The ones that are valueless, go through the motions, are just courtesy verifications only. You can always tell mutual courtesy verifications. They are impersonal. Tell you nothing about the man. No adjectives. No anecdotes. No locations. Could have been written by AI. “Everyone is 'hung', best fuck ever, heavy cummer, one of the genuine ones, dont mess about etc.” And that is why you have to parse verifications more acutely. If people resort to hackneyed schlock only they are the valueless verifications. If I see someone has (say) 6 published verifications and every one of them tells me zilch, then I’m less inclined to be interested. I know they do meet - but I don’t know if they’re worth meeting! “many of which I choose not to show… not that I dont appreciate the time and effort that people have taken to write them… but its my choice. Exactly your choice. But anyone who works like me: less info = less interest. I also discuss with people if we are going to verify or not. There’s no point wasting each other’s time if they don’t want a verification or would never publish it anyway. If someone has bothered to write something for me on that basis, I think it’s disrespectful not to publish. The gays and their rules " | |||
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"… I've had really negative experiences in DMs with guys with lots of verifications. On the flipside I've had positive experiences with guys with no verifications..." You’ve told us in other threads that you’ve yet to meet anyone [and were not minded to as you stated so many men here were gross freaks]. The “experience” of chatting to someone who has no verifications and no intention of meeting is certainly different from someone who is verified and looking to meet someone. The first is there to waste your time (if you let them) in aimless non-committal chat and the second will be frustrated you might be wasting their time. | |||
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"… I've had really negative experiences in DMs with guys with lots of verifications. On the flipside I've had positive experiences with guys with no verifications... You’ve told us in other threads that you’ve yet to meet anyone [and were not minded to as you stated so many men here were gross freaks]. The “experience” of chatting to someone who has no verifications and no intention of meeting is certainly different from someone who is verified and looking to meet someone. The first is there to waste your time (if you let them) in aimless non-committal chat and the second will be frustrated you might be wasting their time. " Yeah whatever | |||
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"As verifications inform me most on whether to meet up with someone or not why does FG allow them to be hidden? So annoying " I like the option to keep them hidden. I now keep them that way as a guy who wouldn’t take no for an answer started to contact those who had verified me to ask where I lived etc. So for me, it’s not annoying at all, it’s a good safety feature  | |||
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"In case the Mrs ever finds your profile "But she'd be ok with you being on the site? | |||
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"People hide their verifications because its their choice. TBH verifications only confirm (in the majority of cases) that that person has met or been seen on cam. What do they actually prove?? Have you ever read a bad verification? Everyone is 'hung', best fuck ever, heavy cummer, one of the genuine ones, dont mess about etc. I have veris from meets and lots from camming, many of which I choose not to show, not because they're bad or that I dont appreciate the time and effort that people have taken to write them but its my choice. " I am exactly the same, I like to show that I do and have met BUT is a meet is less than expected or not recommended I don't show the verification. - Simples | |||
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"Oh the irony that the OP has hidden their profile! Talk about looking ridiculous... " To be fair some people hide their profile when they are taking a break from the site for whatever reason. | |||
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"As verifications inform me most on whether to meet up with someone or not why does FG allow them to be hidden? So annoying " Yet you hide your whole profile! | |||
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But she'd be ok with you being on the site?"Finding your profile is one level of shit hitting the fan Finding your profile with 50 verifications is another level Finding your profile with 50 verifications about how they fucked in her bed wearing her underwear is yet another level | |||
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"Who gives a toss about verifications! What about before the Internet or before some of you were even born,no one knew anything about anyone,all we wanted was sex with men. Yes I'm old but I know what I want and who I want sex with. Before the internet you wouldn't have been on this website...so why now? you wouldn't have sent text messages, so why now? Logical Because It's progress and convenience, hence I use verifications now, cos I can and it helps me." I'm happy for you | |||
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"Who gives a toss about verifications! What about before the Internet or before some of you were even born,no one knew anything about anyone,all we wanted was sex with men. Yes I'm old but I know what I want and who I want sex with. Before the internet you wouldn't have been on this website...so why now? you wouldn't have sent text messages, so why now? Logical Because It's progress and convenience, hence I use verifications now, cos I can and it helps me. I'm happy for you "I'm happy you're happy | |||
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"IMHO verifications are only valid between the two parties meeting. You choose to publish what verifications you think will get you attention. You are not going to publish a bad or negative one. So for you guys relying on verifications you are only seeing what that guys allows you to see. There are many guys on here who claim to be top. Yet when you meet are actually versatile they didn't publish my verification. " A lot of strange thinking and utter naivety here. “verifications are only valid between the two parties meeting” Eh? What does that even mean..? If you choose to publish them it means any user of the site who can see your profile (ie who is not blocked by you) can view these. People wouldn’t publish them if they weren’t happy with others reading them. The site wouldn’t have developed a system where they could be seen beyond the two parties if that wasn’t the point. It’s the whole point of the verification system. “You are not going to publish a bad or negative one.” Well, obviously. And you’re not going to receive one. Nobody’s going to put finger to keyboard to write something critical when they know the user doesn’t have to publish it. “you guys relying on verifications you are only seeing what that guys allows you to see.” Err, yes. How could it work otherwise?! “There are many guys on here who claim to be top. Yet when you meet are actually versatile” Why is this a problem? If you agree the sex you are going to have beforehand. If you silly enough not to talk through the dynamics of a meeting with someone you’ve not met before, that’s your problem. What’s that got to do with publishing or hiding verifications..? “they didn't publish my verification” You’re not verified yourself so will never have been able to verify another user. I don’t understand why a number of users here are on a site with an in-built verification system that they don’t agree with and don’t want to use and about which they seem to have major problems. Go to another site. | |||
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"The current verification system is not honest or transparent. Simply put it only allows the person receiving the verification the option to publish or not. What are you actually verifying? He has a nice house, makes you a cup of tea with nice biscuits? Verification is the process of establishing the truth, accuracy, or validity of something, such as a statement, data, or identity. The current leaving verifications is just a badly conceived feedback system where the person receiving the feedback decides to publish or not. The system should allow for negative feedback (I have left many of the years for guys who were not as they claimed), unfortunately they were never seen as the recipient choose not to display. Yet my verification was added to that persons total number of verifications. The feedback system or should I say the verification system should allow for Positive Neutral or Negative verifications and it should publish the amount of each rating received. Then and only then will you have an near honest system. That will allow users to make an informed choice. I am guessing it was not introduced as the owners don't want to get involved with petty disputes. With the current verification system each user should only need one verification by another user to confirm they are the person they claim to be on their profile. All other verifications are just positive feedback. As for users on here telling others users to Go to another site because they don't agree with what they are saying is not acceptable. People have the right to engage in open discussion with being told to Go to another site because you don't agree with them. I will not be replying further regarding this thread as I don't enter into mindless debate or agonistic behaviour. Take care, Happy Fabbing " I’m sorry you have decided to go off in a huff and not “engage in open discussion” as you yourself advocate. No one has told you to leave the site because you don’t agree with them. Please do not try to intimate otherwise. I’ve pointed out that this is a site which openly uses an in-built verification system - and if this is something that is a major problem for any user, it’s unclear why someone would persevere here and not use another site that does not use such a verification system. In your analysis of the site above, you outline a system which you clearly believe is fundamentally flawed and can never work. So it makes zero sense why you would use such a site with that negative mindset. I am with many others who do not agree that the site is fundamentally flawed and see the verification process as an essential and very successful aspect of the site. As for your absurd comments about verifying whether people have nice houses or made you a nice tea and biscuits… If someone is unable to parse verifications for a sense of someone and how well they might work with that person sexually, that’s a matter for them. As for sending people negative verifications which they have unsurprisingly not published… If you have actually done that (which must have been on previous profiles) this shows a complete misunderstanding of the verification system. Genuine issues with people’s behaviour to you or people who did not show up to meet etc should be reported following the site’s clearly stated rubric. | |||
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"…You have yet to make your case for what verifications are for and why you need more than one…" Why do I have to make a case to you or anyone else for anything?! I’m happy with the site as it is. I’m not looking for anything to be changed - unlike you. Unlike the OP, I don’t have a problem if people choose to hide their verifications. It’s their prerogative. Personally it means I have less information to assess them and they will be of less interest to me, but that’s their choice. As a Forum Moderator explained above to us, FabGuys wanted to give people the choice. Clearly the site managers felt there was a purpose behind verifications and clearly they allowed people to have more than one. So why not aim your questioning to them..? The system hasn’t changed in the 8 years you state you’ve been using the site. | |||
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"If you publish your verificatíons; you are publishing the ID of your contacts. That may not be wise, or in fact legal. I publish mine, but always ask permission of the sender. " No you're not, you're publishing profile details of who has met you. There is no ID. If people can be ID'd from their profile, thats on them. Nobody needs permission to publish a veri. If they dont want a veri published, they simply won't give one. | |||
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"If you publish your verificatíons; you are publishing the ID of your contacts. That may not be wise, or in fact legal. I publish mine, but always ask permission of the sender. " Illegal to publish verifications..? Quick - close the site down! How could FabGuys have missed that… Some of you really are quite batty. | |||
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"If you publish your verificatíons; you are publishing the ID of your contacts. That may not be wise, or in fact legal. I publish mine, but always ask permission of the sender. " No Jenny, you are not, there is a link to that persons profile, that is all, however that persons profile, unless they've decided to hide it, is available for anyone to view anyway. If someone puts info in their profile that will identify them in the real world then that's down to them. | |||
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"Who I meet and what we do is none else’s business. It’s private. Choosing to not show is my choice. A green tick is fine for me but I don’t want to read verifications. No one is going to display anything negative anyway. Plus, living in a small community, it’s broadcasting who you have met up with and leads to gossip, judgement and more negativity. Too many comments here from people who only see everything from their own narrow point of view. I’m sure if anyone could be bothered analysing that, it would not show them in a particularly favourable light. " “Who I meet and what we do is none else’s business. It’s private. Choosing to not show is my choice.” That’s exactly why you have the option not to publish verifications on the site. So it gives you a choice that works for you. “A green tick is fine for me but I don’t want to read verifications.” OK. A green tick ✅ may be fine for you but it doesn’t have suitable meaning for me and clearly many other site users. Was it some cam wank 10 years ago or is the user someone who actually meets people off the site in more recent times? And lots of other users enjoy reading verifications and find them incredibly useful. “No one is going to display anything negative anyway.” The ability to appreciate what is not written as well as what is written seems to elude far too many people on here. “Plus, living in a small community, it’s broadcasting who you have met up with and leads to gossip, judgement and more negativity.” I can appreciate the difficulties of living in a small island community. But not everyone will be on FabGuys… and why would that mean they are gossips…?! As for “more negativity” (which comes over as a strange thing to write) - what has the choice over the publication of verifications got to do with more negativity in your community..? Avoid gossips, judgmental people and negative people, surely. Whether they are on FabGuys or anywhere else. You’ve managed to make where you live sound like The Wicker Man. “Too many comments here from people who only see everything from their own narrow point of view.” Which is exactly what you’ve just done. | |||
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"I don't publish mine. It's nobodies business who I've played with and what I've done with them, unless i want them to know..also certain folks target/pester people you've met... A good chunk of verifications left are semi literate and crass in reality anyway.. I'm not that interested in reading verifications of a potential meet, all I want to know is they have them and do actually meet and not a timewaster... the only real benefit I can see is if I can see its a hundred cam veris but none by meet, then that persons likely a fantasist, and if they have met certain members or groups I know to avoid them... " “It's nobodies business who I've played with and what I've done with them, unless i want them to know” Which is why you have the choice the site has given you. “A good chunk of verifications left are semi literate and crass in reality anyway..” That supercilious comment tells us a lot about you and nothing about others leaving verifications. “I'm not that interested in reading verifications of a potential meet, all I want to know is they have them and do actually meet and not a timewaster...” So you are interested in reading them as you need to discern if they actually meet… “the only real benefit I can see is if I can see its a hundred cam veris but none by meet, then that persons likely a fantasist, and if they have met certain members or groups I know to avoid them...” So you ARE reading and indeed sensibly using the verifications - which at the same time you haughtily claim you not interested in reading - to check whether people have only cam verifications and you can avoid people who have met certain members or groups you don’t like… The disconnect is eye-popping. | |||
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"Some people get a bit upset when others don't share their viewpoint. Quite amusing "Who’s upset? I’m not upset. Why would I care if you and I agree or disagree about anything..? We’re going to be very different people with very different viewpoints. I’m not interested in changing your mind. I don’t need anyone to share my viewpoint. But you volunteered yourself a series of arguments. I’ve countered those as I think a lot of what you wrote simply does not stand up to scrutiny or logic. That’s the whole point of debate and discussion of a topic. Too many people seem to think the countering of argument as a personal attack. If you have a strong argument to make, make it. | |||
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