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By *kinSense OP Man
over a year ago

Angus

Are you living the lie

or living the dream?

Why?

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By *lan82Man
over a year ago

North Hykeham, Lincoln

I’m living the nightmare

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By *kinSense OP Man
over a year ago

Angus

"I’m living the nightmare "

I hope you wake up from it soon

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By *ussexguy1952Man
over a year ago

horam, nr hailsham

Best thing i ever did was kick down the closet door !! 99% of my friends and family were very supportive including my wife of 44 years..she has a lover for her needs..my daughter thinks its cool to have a gay daddy! Be brave guys ..you will feel much better being honest !!

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By *camp99Man
over a year ago

moreton

I too lived that lie untill I couldn't carry on. Each morning as I washed and shaved I didn't know or like the man that stood before me. The closet door opened and I sheepish stepped out. I was married for nearly 30 years three grown up children five beautiful grandchildren.

All have been amazing and I am so blessed to have their respect and love. Even my x wife is still my best friend. Not an easy situation to be in. But hey ho life doesn't stop just because am being true to myself. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came out to be with my late husband (at 27 I had never even messed around even at school - though have never successfully been with a woman) - from then on (almost 30 years) I/we were 100% out with everyone including all our clients (we had a successful business together)- our approach being 'this is us, who the FUCK are you to think you can judge us' - it's only an issue if people can use it against you - if you're unapologetic you are strong, they are weak (that said my dad was a shit about it) - must admit though given how heavy some of our close friends are if anybody did give us shit they'd regret the day they were born. Dx

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By *auraTV/TS
over a year ago

Rugby

I'm afraid I am living the lie have a long term gf who I love to bits but like to play with cocks simply that.

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By *ondon RimmerMan
over a year ago

Islington

Came out decades ago, best thing I ever did.

No dishonesty with friends, family, work colleagues

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By *ildwestheroMan
over a year ago

Llandrindod Wells

I'm neither in or out of the proverbial closet. During my 12 years in the army I obviously was as it was illegal then. Since then I have kept fairly quiet about my sexuality mainly because it is no one else's business. Some friends know as do some members of my family, but not all. I neither deny it or shout it from the rooftops.

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By *antienicTV/TS
over a year ago

nottingham

Were knickers etc 24/7 wife fully aware .dont know I also love cock xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being bisexual is hard enough and even tougher being a cd

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By *arti G xTV/TS
over a year ago

Chandlers Ford

I came out late but always knew, kept thinking about coming out for months but was kinda scared, then one night just thought am gonna do it, I told my Dad on Christmas day of all days, took me awhile as obviously other things going on , I could even hear myself saying it in my head as clear as anything but just couldn't, so just thought right if I don't do it now I probably won't, so just told my Dad & he just said if you are you are, he was absolutely fine about it, am so glad I did it as I can be myself & all family/friends & work are fine with it to, it's probably the hardest thing have done but it's also the best , am happy with who & what I am & not ashamed of it, being gay is a part of my life it doesn't rule it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

out about and a bit of a lout

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By *arryh1972Man
over a year ago

walton

I prefer a ottoman meself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far back I’m in Narnia tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you living the lie

or living the dream?

Why?"

I have been living the truth for over 40 years, and the truth is I do not have the privilege or benefit of the understanding or supportive family that some guys have.

Therefore, like many married bi guys, the lies and deceit are very much a part of my life now... I had a long term lover for 36 years who took his secret to the grave, and that is how I hope it will be for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to live in a lie but now I am openly bi and my new partner is happy and willing to try something together in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Came out as bi to the wife about 4 months ago, I am now back in the closet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Climbed in the closet at 19 opps now find it impossible to climb back out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When l 1st suspected l may be bisexual after a man on man incident in my 20s when a family friend masturbated me & sucked me off & l found l liked it.l asked my late father how he'd react if l or 1 of my siblings turned out to be gay ,lesbian or bisexual,his reply told me all i needed to knowable What his reaction would be and we would have nothing to fear.but it would be 30 years after that b4 l discovered my bisexuality by which time he was dead but l have decided not come out to family or friends as l don't feel they need to know,but if they ever find out l won't deny it as I'm proud of myself and my sexuality.

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By *ountainMan
over a year ago

ipswich

I'm living the dream in the closet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm living the dream in the closet."

Wish we could share a closet sometime

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By *teveSheffMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I got sick of not being myself. Now separated, moved away, trying to work out what my life means now. Happier than I have been for many years. Didn’t have the courage to do it earlier.

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By *hickenmcnuggetsMan
over a year ago

Coxlodge, Newcastle upon Tyne

More-or-less out now. I just don’t broadcast it to the wider world that much - not much need to do so, really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are out. Our children, grandchildren and close relatives know as do all our regular friends. It makes life so much easier.

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By *dnewportTV/TS
over a year ago

newport

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By *ountainMan
over a year ago

ipswich

I've come out of the closet and gone into the wardrobe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really ive been out with missus more or less since married 43 years ago

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By *dnewportTV/TS
over a year ago

newport

I came out as bi at my 18th birthday party in front of all my friends , few work colleagues and in front of my ex girlfriend And told them all I love wearing women’s knickers and no hatred from them at all and they support me

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By *atirical DesiresMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm just living and happy to be alive.

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By *orks762014Man
over a year ago

home

I've got 1 foot out of the closet. I've told the wife I X dress ?? but not about this side of me

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By *arah briscaTV/TS
over a year ago

Nottingham

Im 100% out and living the dream.

My family also support me.

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By *ernowcubMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Are you living the lie

or living the dream?

Why?"

Realised at a young age I couldn't love or even have sex with women so had no choice.

I grew up in Cornwall which was intensely homophobic, my parents threw me out when I came out, so I applied for all the help I could get went to university not far from Manchester and it was the best decision.

I'm very masculine and nobody realises I'm gay without telling them so it's been easier in life, in work I am not really out as it's not their business. In personal life I am out.

I can't imagine how awful being in the closet would be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not out but tbh I don’t see myself settling down and having a family with a guy. I can see myself settling down with a woman but every now and then like abit of man fun. I don’t want to come out as I know a lot of my friends and family would look at me different and tbh it’s none of their business what I prefer. If I was straight I wouldn’t go around telling ppl I’m straight so why do I need to go around telling ppl I’m bi? Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Closet here sorry xxx

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By *hubbynewbieMan
2 weeks ago

london

No one knows what I want and what I do x but so tempted to show my face x

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By *excessMan
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

I wouldn't classify keeping my sexuality secret as a lie.

I just don't think it's anyone else's business.

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By *airFetishMan
2 weeks ago

Maldon

"Are you living the lie

or living the dream?

Why?"

I came out to all my fellow automobile engineering students one class in 1978 - I've never been back in!

I cam out to mum, dad and brother in 1980.

I've never for one second felt bad about being gay, jbut my family didn't talk about sex at all (or anything that much!) but I couldn't not tell them after meeting the first love of my life on a Gay Pride march in 1980.

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By *airFetishMan
2 weeks ago

Maldon

I have to say, reading the comments on here, it's so sad to see such a large number of men on here still in the closet!

I read on social media "Nobody cares anymore if you're gay" (which is a lie I know) but all the same.

Gay sex (in private) decriminalised in 1967, age of consent equalised, laws changed, pardons given, Civil Partnership and marriage now possible. Elton John, Freddie, George Michael, Gareth Thomas and many more publicly out and yet still, in 2026 so many men can't be themselves!

What is the fear? If you are married with kids then I can see that can be tricky, but all those who aren't ...

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By *ildwestheroMan
2 weeks ago

Llandrindod Wells

Always think 'the closet' is a strange expression and probably more to do with transvestitism that being gay. Don't like closets or confined spaces. A bit claustrophobic. As far as my sexuality is concerned it is really no one else's business unless it is the guy I'm taking to bed.

I was only 'out' once for about 12 months when I had a live-in lover. Suppose we could have kept quiet and I could have passed him off as a lodger but that seemed unfair on him. We had a mixed reaction from work colleagues and none from neighbours. Once he had gone [a foreign national he on a 12 month work visa] there didn't seem any point in being 'out' anymore. Not in denial. Just don't see the point of broadcasting it.

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By *airFetishMan
2 weeks ago

Maldon

"I wouldn't classify keeping my sexuality secret as a lie.

I just don't think it's anyone else's business."

I can't imagine many heterosexual people saying that. Naturally, they very rarely need to as people are assumed to be heterosexual until proved otherwise.

As long as you'd correct someone who clearly assumed you were heterosexual then fair enough.

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By *MB9Man
2 weeks ago

Northampton

Came out 3 years ago and never been happier.

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By *onnyd26Man
2 weeks ago

Mitcham

Out of the closet to family and some friends, but leave my sex life away from work dont need the agro

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By *erscumdumpMan
2 weeks ago

Watford & Worth Matravers

No closet here but my sex life is, as it should be, private. I think most people that know me would be quite shocked 😆 Saying that, I might be quite shocked over what they get up to.

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By *arriedbiMan
2 weeks ago

Aldershot

Out closet to select group of mates but in closet to family

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By *ndy61hMan
2 weeks ago

Plymouth

I was outed to some extent by my partner at the time. In some ways it was a relief, but I would have preferred to have done it under my own terms.

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By *DCambsMan
2 weeks ago

Cambridge

"..... If I was straight I wouldn’t go around telling ppl I’m straight so why do I need to go around telling ppl I’m bi? Just my opinion.

Yes, I've always thought, "I've never had someone introduce themself to me and tell me they're straight, so why do I need to tell someone on meeting that I'm gay?"

I'm not a banner waver and don't broadcast my sexuality, but those who are near and dear to me do know and many who ask an honest question will receive an honest answer. But the actual details of my sex life are not shared.

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By *ustOneBearMan
2 weeks ago

Neath

I was always out. Right from the start.

During my NHS training in the 80’s I was outside of London and the attitude was very homophobic. I just carried on with my work life and my personal life and partner separate during those years. Once I qualified I just answered if asked. Some tried to be vile but they often were sorry about it. Got a reputation as the gay you didn’t try to bully.

I’ve been politically active with marches/ die ins/ protests throughout my life.

I would love to still have my husband with me. So can’t say I’m living the dream. But I’m happy with who I’ve become. Don’t regret any of the arrests, police beatings, dropped charges. Queer bashings. I decided to stand up not hide. Did it cost me? Yes family and friends at the beginning but it is a much better life than living in fear.

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