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By *aohiaochiaokeng OP   Man
4 days ago

England

There is no love in this world.

Thinking about it only brings more pain and unhappiness.

The answer to all our pain is polyamory. When someone doesn't want you anymore, there are others who will.

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By *oshua.LMan
4 days ago

slough

As The Sweet said in their 1978 hit…..

Love is like oxygen;

You get too much, you get too high,

Not enough, and you’re gonna die.

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
4 days ago

Bristol East

Have you been dumped?

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By *aohiaochiaokeng OP   Man
4 days ago

England


"As The Sweet said in their 1978 hit…..

Love is like oxygen;

You get too much, you get too high,

Not enough, and you’re gonna die. "

I am very unhappy today.

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By *owzerMan
4 days ago

Chester.....

Love is all around

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By *ichey6Man
4 days ago

aberdeen

I love Celtic.

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By *oosterladMan
4 days ago

ipswich

The price of love is grief. Sending you a hug x

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By *aggonerMan
4 days ago

Malvern

You would like the idea I postulated a while back of a fixed term marriage certificate which had to be renewed, or not.

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth

I love p*sing on Celtic...

😎

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth

"Love is an illusion created by weak people to stop them jumping out of windows..."

Gordon Gekko

😎👌

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth

'Love is a feeling...'

Pizza Bhoy, circa 2022/23 during his 'Ange is the next Jock Stein' embarrassing psychosis...

😂😭🤣😜😬

What a pizza verbal diarrhoea...

🤔😎😆

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By *ountainMan
4 days ago

ipswich

Love can be fleeting or permanent.

Appreciate it while you have it.

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By *tephen_b50Man
4 days ago

Bristol


"As The Sweet said in their 1978 hit…..

Love is like oxygen;

You get too much, you get too high,

Not enough, and you’re gonna die. "

As The Beatles said in 1967:

Love Is All You Need.

Not entirely convinced by that, though.

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth


"There is no love in this world.

Thinking about it only brings more pain and unhappiness.

The answer to all our pain is polyamory. When someone doesn't want you anymore, there are others who will. "

How many married people are having sexual or platonic, or indeed imaging affairs/relationships with friends, colleagues behind their partners backs as we speak?

Love is a delusional concept people create to justify their own existence, to kid themselves that their existence, 'life' has meaning, purpose, validity. It's all completely subjective.

For example: A woman deeply 'loves' her husband. They have a happy marriage for 30 years, she praises him to all and sundry and genuinely believes he's Mr perfect.

He is very smart and has been screwing female work colleagues, friends of his wife, and prost*tutes behind her back but knows how to get away with it without her knowing.

She dies loving him to the last, while he holds her hand.

Hours after she dies he visits his favourite hoo*er as he usually does on a Thursday...

Did the 'love' the wife feel for him exist in reality? He obviously didn't feel it. She did. If she found out it would have killed her 'love' for him. But she died blissfully ignorant of the fact. So can love exist if only one member of the partnership feels it/lives by it?

Everything regarding emotion in life is subjective, relative to the individual...

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth


"Love can be fleeting or permanent.

Appreciate it while you have it."

Prove 'love' exists. Like all metaphysical 'concepts' it's impossible. The fact unrequited 'love' exists defeats the whole concept of 'love', ultimately, surely?

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By *ountainMan
4 days ago

ipswich


"Love can be fleeting or permanent.

Appreciate it while you have it.

Prove 'love' exists. Like all metaphysical 'concepts' it's impossible. The fact unrequited 'love' exists defeats the whole concept of 'love', ultimately, surely? "

Love for your children? Willing to die for them . Love does exist outside of clever words to the contrary.

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By *ottom_only_CDTV/TS
4 days ago

Lenzie


"Love can be fleeting or permanent.

Appreciate it while you have it.

Prove 'love' exists. Like all metaphysical 'concepts' it's impossible. The fact unrequited 'love' exists defeats the whole concept of 'love', ultimately, surely?

Love for your children? Willing to die for them . Love does exist outside of clever words to the contrary. "

I believe the only true unselfish love is a mother for her children. Even though like everything there are exceptions to the rule.

All other love is conditional, I include a father's love for his child in this..

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth

But ultimately a parents 'love' for their child is selfish. It's about self-love, ego, innate primate 'survival instinct' because a child is just an extension of themselves... The life of the child affirms, validates and justifies the existence of the parent. And ultimately, collectively the human race as a whole...

It's all just primal, animalistic self-preservation, self-perpetuation. Continuation of the species... Nothing more. It's nit spiritual or 'deep'. It's primal, animal.

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By *ountainMan
4 days ago

ipswich


"But ultimately a parents 'love' for their child is selfish. It's about self-love, ego, innate primate 'survival instinct' because a child is just an extension of themselves... The life of the child affirms, validates and justifies the existence of the parent. And ultimately, collectively the human race as a whole...

It's all just primal, animalistic self-preservation, self-perpetuation. Continuation of the species... Nothing more. It's nit spiritual or 'deep'. It's primal, animal.

"

There's nothing wrong with primal love.

We're animals . With all that entails.

One of which is protection of offspring. Love by another name. Love isn't manufactured in factories and sold in shops yet.

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth

I never said there was lol. I'm just saying it's not 'spiritual' or special/superior to any other mammal on the planet.

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By *icariusMaximusMan
4 days ago

Handsworth


"But ultimately a parents 'love' for their child is selfish. It's about self-love, ego, innate primate 'survival instinct' because a child is just an extension of themselves... The life of the child affirms, validates and justifies the existence of the parent. And ultimately, collectively the human race as a whole...

It's all just primal, animalistic self-preservation, self-perpetuation. Continuation of the species... Nothing more. It's nit spiritual or 'deep'. It's primal, animal.

There's nothing wrong with primal love.

We're animals . With all that entails.

One of which is protection of offspring. Love by another name. Love isn't manufactured in factories and sold in shops yet. "

Valentines Day? A load of guff manufactured in factories and sold in shops...

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By *annyDanielleMan
4 days ago

Street, Somerset


"But ultimately a parents 'love' for their child is selfish. It's about self-love, ego, innate primate 'survival instinct' because a child is just an extension of themselves... The life of the child affirms, validates and justifies the existence of the parent. And ultimately, collectively the human race as a whole...

It's all just primal, animalistic self-preservation, self-perpetuation. Continuation of the species... Nothing more. It's nit spiritual or 'deep'. It's primal, animal.

There's nothing wrong with primal love.

We're animals . With all that entails.

One of which is protection of offspring. Love by another name. Love isn't manufactured in factories and sold in shops yet. "

But it is a chemical imbalance.

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By *ountainMan
4 days ago

ipswich


"I never said there was lol. I'm just saying it's not 'spiritual' or special/superior to any other mammal on the planet. "

That's true. x

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By *ucker4you80Man
4 days ago

Calne

Everything is impermanent, love is just another concept that we fool ourselves with. Once you realise this you'll be much happier, stop holding on to things and let go.

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By *ountainMan
4 days ago

ipswich


"But ultimately a parents 'love' for their child is selfish. It's about self-love, ego, innate primate 'survival instinct' because a child is just an extension of themselves... The life of the child affirms, validates and justifies the existence of the parent. And ultimately, collectively the human race as a whole...

It's all just primal, animalistic self-preservation, self-perpetuation. Continuation of the species... Nothing more. It's nit spiritual or 'deep'. It's primal, animal.

There's nothing wrong with primal love.

We're animals . With all that entails.

One of which is protection of offspring. Love by another name. Love isn't manufactured in factories and sold in shops yet.

Valentines Day? A load of guff manufactured in factories and sold in shops...

"

But that's not love, it's pieces of paper with writing and maybe a picture of a heart on it that ends up in the bin. Recycling bin i hope. Love definitely has a visceral feeling though.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
4 days ago

Motherwell

Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

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By *ucker4you80Man
4 days ago

Calne


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀 "

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

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By *ildwestheroMan
4 days ago

Llandrindod Wells

"What is love?" as a certain young gentleman said back in 1981. We all have different ideas and interpretations of it. Sometimes it is such lust or a burning passion that will burn itself out. Sometimes it is gentle and lasting. Something stronger than just friendship.

Sorry to hear that the OP is having a bad day. Hopefully things will improve.

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By *pankmandyTV/TS
4 days ago

scunthorpe

Love is just a chemical imbalance in the brain. Like depression but at the other end of the scale. It too can come and go.

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By *astDevonGuyMan
4 days ago

East Devon

Love is not a single experience , it comes in many guises, strengths and flavours. It can make one whole or tear you apart. It can last a lifetime or disappear as fast as it came. Love makes Heroes and Fools in equal measure, it bonds us together or shatters us apart.

Yes love exists , be it chemical, emotional , learned or imagined. Love puts the human in humanity.

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By *lder bi guyMan
4 days ago

telford

sex is lovely no emotions involved

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By *hris4tvMan
4 days ago

liverpool

Fabademics

1. The peacocking of an indivdual relating to education and scholarship despite lacking both.

'Fabademic achievement'

2.Not of practical relevance; of only shallow theoretical interest.

'the debate has been largely fabademic'

3. Sniffs their own farts and actively admires their own brand

4. Owns a fine high horse.

noun: a twat or faux scholar who seeks to project intellegence with an ill thought out, or false premise.

"the EU offers grants to fabademics for white knighting, virtue signalling and bullshit posturing"

Similar:

A c**t

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By *ountainMan
4 days ago

ipswich

Love is a many splendid thing.

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By *oey6666Man
4 days ago

somewhere near you

I love my kids. I know what that is

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By *icole FanningTV/TS
4 days ago

Navan

As old Nat King Cole said ….

“The greatest thing you'll ever learn,

Is just to love and be loved in return”

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By *eonsMan
4 days ago

Risbough

It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved, can't remember who's phrase it is but it's so right.

It would be an empty cold life without the ability to love a fellow human or even your pet.

From the first crush at school to the all consuming love for someone that hits you from nowhere,it's all part of lifes rich Padgett.

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By *luggableMan
3 days ago

Wymondham

Love is simply a frame of mind which has been evolved to make us breed.

It's hit and miss - more miss if conscious thought gets involved.

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By *icariusMaximusMan
3 days ago

Handsworth


"Love is just a chemical imbalance in the brain. Like depression but at the other end of the scale. It too can come and go."

This exactly... 👍

Statistically 1 in 8 men in the UK use prostit*tes on a regular basis with commercial sex being very much a growth industry.

I bet most are married in a 'relationship' with a wife/girlfriend who is 'in love' with them.

It's all in the mind... Thus has no basis in reality other than within the individual.

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By *icariusMaximusMan
3 days ago

Handsworth


"Fabademics

1. The peacocking of an indivdual relating to education and scholarship despite lacking both.

'Fabademic achievement'

2.Not of practical relevance; of only shallow theoretical interest.

'the debate has been largely fabademic'

3. Sniffs their own farts and actively admires their own brand

4. Owns a fine high horse.

noun: a twat or faux scholar who seeks to project intellegence with an ill thought out, or false premise.

"the EU offers grants to fabademics for white knighting, virtue signalling and bullshit posturing"

Similar:

A c**t

"

👍👌😂😅

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By *eanne_kingTV/TS
3 days ago

Sedgley

I love … lamp

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By *enjamin2018Man
3 days ago

Gosfield

Love takes sex to a more sensual level.

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By *uperpieMan
3 days ago

Sheffield

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By *uperpieMan
3 days ago

Sheffield

Well to follow the pattern of other replies, as Burt Bacharach once said:

What do you get when you fall in love

You only get lies, pain and sorrow

So for at least, until tomorrow

I'll never fall in love again

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By *ustaNormalBlokeMan
3 days ago

Strood

It’s around, but personally I’ve given up on it.

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
3 days ago

Bristol East


"Love is just a chemical imbalance in the brain. Like depression but at the other end of the scale. It too can come and go."

If you do not experience it as an infant and child, generally you do not recognise it as an adult.

The study of serial killers and psychopaths, and the reasons for their absence of empathy, is fascinating in that regard.

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By *airFetishMan
3 days ago

Maldon

Everything you feel exists in your head and love is as valid as anything else in there.

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By *icariusMaximusMan
3 days ago

Handsworth


"Everything you feel exists in your head and love is as valid as anything else in there."

And as invalid too. You may love someone but it's unrequited. Plenty of loons out there who believe they are in love with famous people. In their minds it may seem valid. But in reality it's mental illness. See John Hinckley Jnr. He tried to kill President Reagan to impress Jodie Foster, who he was 'in love with'.

Was his love/psychosis valid?

🤔

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
3 days ago

Motherwell


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded."

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜

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By *ottom_only_CDTV/TS
3 days ago

Lenzie

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By *ottom_only_CDTV/TS
3 days ago

Lenzie


"Everything you feel exists in your head and love is as valid as anything else in there.

And as invalid too. You may love someone but it's unrequited. Plenty of loons out there who believe they are in love with famous people. In their minds it may seem valid. But in reality it's mental illness. See John Hinckley Jnr. He tried to kill President Reagan to impress Jodie Foster, who he was 'in love with'.

Was his love/psychosis valid?

🤔"

Marti Pellow says you don't have any fingers or toes.

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By *ucker4you80Man
3 days ago

Calne


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜"

Oh, I didn't think your rebuttal needed answering, there's nothing in it. Perhaps you're too academic to see sense.

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By *evinmanMan
3 days ago

Dublin

Unrequited love is very painful

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By *uck me in KentMan
3 days ago

Medway

Love comes in many forms and sometimes when you least expect it.

You just need to be open to it and grow with it

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By *ogwhammerMan
3 days ago

Rainham KENT

I've looked at love from both sides now

From give and take, and still somehow

It's love's illusions I recall

I really don't know love at all

I’m not a big fan of Joni Mitchell but this just about sums it up for me

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
3 days ago

Bedford

No love is not an illusion ive been married 54years and still love her more than ever and yes she knows always has from day one my rock my soul mate my best friend. And I want to die a day before her because I don't want to live a day without her xx

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By *othingBetweenUsMan
3 days ago

Ask

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By *othingBetweenUsMan
3 days ago

Ask

❤️ When It Is of Love

1. There’s Clarity, Not Confusion

Love doesn’t leave you guessing. You don’t constantly wonder where you stand, or if they care. There's a calmness — even in conflict — that says "we’re in this together."

Real love feels steady, not like you're always trying to hold on.

2. You’re Seen — And Still Accepted

When it’s love, the person sees you for who you are — flaws, fears, dreams — and they don’t try to change you into someone else. And you do the same for them.

"You don’t have to shrink yourself or perform to be enough."

3. There's Freedom, Not Control

Love isn’t about possession or needing to be with someone 24/7. It gives space. There's respect for each other’s autonomy, choices, and growth.

4. It Shows Up in Actions, Not Just Words

It’s easy to say “I love you.” But love shows up in consistency — checking in when you're low, remembering the small things, making you feel safe in silence.

5. There's Growth, Not Just Comfort

Love challenges you, gently. It doesn’t let you stagnate. It inspires you to be more — not out of pressure, but because someone believes in you.

6. It’s Shared, Not One-Sided

You both invest. You both care. You both show up, not just when it’s easy, but when it’s hard. Love isn’t chasing or begging. It’s meeting each other halfway — again and again.

7. You Can Be Silent Together

You don’t always have to talk, explain, or entertain. There’s peace in just being. And that peace says: you’re home here.

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By *othingBetweenUsMan
3 days ago

Ask

"the illusion of love,"

🌀 1. Projection Over Reality

We sometimes fall in love not with a person, but with who we want them to be. Our minds fill in blanks with fantasies — about compatibility, shared values, or what they’ll bring into our lives. It feels like love, but it's often just projection.

"I loved the idea of you more than the reality of you."

🧠 2. Chemical Highs and Attachment

Love triggers dopamine, oxytocin, and other feel-good chemicals. That rush can mask incompatibilities or red flags. It’s like a drug — euphoric at first, but not always sustainable once the high fades.

⚖️ 3. Need vs. Love

Sometimes, what we call love is actually a deep emotional need — for validation, security, or not being alone. When that need is temporarily met, it feels like love... but it might not be.

⌛ 4. The Time Trap

Just because someone’s been around for a long time or shared deep moments with us, it can create the illusion of love. But time and intensity don't always mean truth or compatibility.

🥀 5. Fear of Loneliness

Many people stay in relationships or pursue "love" to avoid being alone. That fear can blur our perception, making us cling to something that isn't love, but comfort in disguise.

💭 6. Media & Cultural Conditioning

Movies, songs, and stories sell us a dream of perfect, fated, all-consuming love. We chase that ideal — sometimes convincing ourselves we’ve found it — even when what we’re feeling is far more complicated or one-sided.

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By *ighway expressMan
3 days ago

Campbeltown

Love Is Contagious

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By *ighway expressMan
3 days ago

Campbeltown

Love Is A Bourgeois Construct

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By *ighway expressMan
3 days ago

Campbeltown

Love Is A Wonderful Colour

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By *ames canMan
3 days ago

monaghan


"Love is just a chemical imbalance in the brain. Like depression but at the other end of the scale. It too can come and go.

This exactly... 👍

Statistically 1 in 8 men in the UK use prostit*tes on a regular basis with commercial sex being very much a growth industry.

I bet most are married in a 'relationship' with a wife/girlfriend who is 'in love' with them.

It's all in the mind... Thus has no basis in reality other than within the individual. "

...it appears you can't tell the difference between love and sex...?

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By *icariusMaximusMan
3 days ago

Handsworth


"Everything you feel exists in your head and love is as valid as anything else in there.

And as invalid too. You may love someone but it's unrequited. Plenty of loons out there who believe they are in love with famous people. In their minds it may seem valid. But in reality it's mental illness. See John Hinckley Jnr. He tried to kill President Reagan to impress Jodie Foster, who he was 'in love with'.

Was his love/psychosis valid?

🤔

Marti Pellow says you don't have any fingers or toes."

Frostbitten Love by Sir Ranulph Fiennes...

😂

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By *icariusMaximusMan
3 days ago

Handsworth

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By *icariusMaximusMan
3 days ago

Handsworth


"❤️ When It Is of Love

1. There’s Clarity, Not Confusion

Love doesn’t leave you guessing. You don’t constantly wonder where you stand, or if they care. There's a calmness — even in conflict — that says "we’re in this together."

Real love feels steady, not like you're always trying to hold on.

2. You’re Seen — And Still Accepted

When it’s love, the person sees you for who you are — flaws, fears, dreams — and they don’t try to change you into someone else. And you do the same for them.

"You don’t have to shrink yourself or perform to be enough."

3. There's Freedom, Not Control

Love isn’t about possession or needing to be with someone 24/7. It gives space. There's respect for each other’s autonomy, choices, and growth.

4. It Shows Up in Actions, Not Just Words

It’s easy to say “I love you.” But love shows up in consistency — checking in when you're low, remembering the small things, making you feel safe in silence.

5. There's Growth, Not Just Comfort

Love challenges you, gently. It doesn’t let you stagnate. It inspires you to be more — not out of pressure, but because someone believes in you.

6. It’s Shared, Not One-Sided

You both invest. You both care. You both show up, not just when it’s easy, but when it’s hard. Love isn’t chasing or begging. It’s meeting each other halfway — again and again.

7. You Can Be Silent Together

You don’t always have to talk, explain, or entertain. There’s peace in just being. And that peace says: you’re home here."

Sums up my love for beef Madras... 😏😁

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By *ichey6Man
2 days ago

aberdeen

'Lot of difference between love and comfort...

Brutal and mocking but always there...

COMFORT COMES

At least till the morning'

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By *q oralistMan
2 days ago

Torquay

Reading this thread, I think people think too much

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By *ichey6Man
2 days ago

aberdeen

Or perhaps they are engaging in bantz?

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By *hades 11Man
2 days ago

ireland


"❤️ When It Is of Love

1. There’s Clarity, Not Confusion

Love doesn’t leave you guessing. You don’t constantly wonder where you stand, or if they care. There's a calmness — even in conflict — that says "we’re in this together."

Real love feels steady, not like you're always trying to hold on.

2. You’re Seen — And Still Accepted

When it’s love, the person sees you for who you are — flaws, fears, dreams — and they don’t try to change you into someone else. And you do the same for them.

"You don’t have to shrink yourself or perform to be enough."

3. There's Freedom, Not Control

Love isn’t about possession or needing to be with someone 24/7. It gives space. There's respect for each other’s autonomy, choices, and growth.

4. It Shows Up in Actions, Not Just Words

It’s easy to say “I love you.” But love shows up in consistency — checking in when you're low, remembering the small things, making you feel safe in silence.

5. There's Growth, Not Just Comfort

Love challenges you, gently. It doesn’t let you stagnate. It inspires you to be more — not out of pressure, but because someone believes in you.

6. It’s Shared, Not One-Sided

You both invest. You both care. You both show up, not just when it’s easy, but when it’s hard. Love isn’t chasing or begging. It’s meeting each other halfway — again and again.

7. You Can Be Silent Together

You don’t always have to talk, explain, or entertain. There’s peace in just being. And that peace says: you’re home here.

Sums up my love for beef Madras... 😏😁"

The love you have for beef Madras....yeah you mentioned it before.

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By *ichey6Man
2 days ago

aberdeen

Can you hear us

Watching on the radio?

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By *aohiaochiaokeng OP   Man
2 days ago

England


"Or perhaps they are engaging in bantz?"

You may be right. He told me he has fallen in love with another guy he has sex fun with but he never leave me. We are still together.

My rule is he can have sex with any guy he likes but not to fall in love with them. But after several days of reflection, I think falling in love is normal. Let him fall in love and enjoy sex with other guys too. It is healthy.

We are now in a polyamory relationship and feel much happier than before. There are several men who love and wanted me too. But I can't leave my Scottish partner.

Today I feel happier and stronger. Thank you.

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By *ichey6Man
2 days ago

aberdeen

Good man. I meant people on here though big man👍

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By *aohiaochiaokeng OP   Man
2 days ago

England


"Good man. I meant people on here though big man👍"

Yeah, let him enjoy sex with other guys too. It is good for him and healthy. When he is tired he will come back to me. Hahaha.

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By *ichey6Man
2 days ago

aberdeen

Rampant Scots...🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿😆

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
2 days ago

Motherwell


"Rampant Scots...🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿😆"

Nothing wrong with a Rampant Scotsman, I know a few mmm

Mx

😘

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By *icariusMaximusMan
2 days ago

Handsworth

You know a few who should have went to Specsavers...

😎😂🤣😭😜

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
2 days ago

Motherwell


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜

Oh, I didn't think your rebuttal needed answering, there's nothing in it. Perhaps you're too academic to see sense. "

Moi an academic, I am merely a slut on a gay website thread passing the time espousing on the qualities of the rich tapestry we call life. It's all just bantz after all.

Btw did you know my favourite team in the world who I also love

Celtic from Glasgow, where I am also a native of, have won in one season after a very successful Champions League campaign which enriched their coffers by a further £40 million two trophies, the league cup and the actual league. This is them 🏆🏆. Four league titles in a row this is them 🍀🍀🍀🍀 And the oodles of UCL cash , too much to actually depict on here but here is an example 💰💰💰💰💰.

Another form of love .

All bantz after all.

Mx 🍀🏆 💋

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By *icariusMaximusMan
2 days ago

Handsworth

Official Celtic merchandise for sale in Clydebank PRIMARK...

A Bigger Brand...

Only The Top Names...

😅🤣😭😂

Fur Coat(fake), No Knickers, Fab CSC...

😎🥷🥷🥷

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By *aohiaochiaokeng OP   Man
2 days ago

England

My final discovery :

Happiness is not based on external conditions or circumstances.

Happiness is a choice, decision, an attitude, or a mindset.

You can choose to be happy or unhappy.

Even though if you have everything in the world, you can still feel very unhappy if you chose to be unhappy.

So, it has nothing to do with my partner, but my thoughts and reactions or in scientific terms - my biochemistry, urea and electrolytes.

Today, I makre a decision to change my belief system, think positively and above all I make a decision to ge gappy and to enjoy my life. Thank you.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
2 days ago

Motherwell


"You know a few who should have went to Specsavers...

😎😂🤣😭😜"

Oh the witty banter, I bet you are a positive hoot at parties.

Mason Boyne , Mason Boyne, Mason Boyne.

Don't get offended now darling it's all bantz and good ol' fashioned ribald humour.

See my previous post for another wonderful season by Brendan and the Bhoys, slightly off topic but I hope you take it in the manner it was meant to be received in just like I am receiving from my Fabulous friend right now, he says hi btw and do you ever visit the blue lagoon chippy. 😜. Mx 🍀

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By *icariusMaximusMan
2 days ago

Handsworth


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜

Oh, I didn't think your rebuttal needed answering, there's nothing in it. Perhaps you're too academic to see sense.

Moi an academic, I am merely a slut on a gay website thread passing the time espousing on the qualities of the rich tapestry we call life. It's all just bantz after all.

Btw did you know my favourite team in the world who I also love

Celtic from Glasgow, where I am also a native of, have won in one season after a very successful Champions League campaign which enriched their coffers by a further £40 million two trophies, the league cup and the actual league. This is them 🏆🏆. Four league titles in a row this is them 🍀🍀🍀🍀 And the oodles of UCL cash , too much to actually depict on here but here is an example 💰💰💰💰💰.

Another form of love .

All bantz after all.

Mx 🍀🏆 💋"

Motherwell is NOT GLASGOW...

It's a sh*te town on its outskirts, like EK, Hamilton, Airdrie, Cumbernauld and Coatbridge...

Fact!!!

😏😎😜

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By *ucker4you80Man
2 days ago

Calne


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜

Oh, I didn't think your rebuttal needed answering, there's nothing in it. Perhaps you're too academic to see sense.

Moi an academic, I am merely a slut on a gay website thread passing the time espousing on the qualities of the rich tapestry we call life. It's all just bantz after all.

Btw did you know my favourite team in the world who I also love

Celtic from Glasgow, where I am also a native of, have won in one season after a very successful Champions League campaign which enriched their coffers by a further £40 million two trophies, the league cup and the actual league. This is them 🏆🏆. Four league titles in a row this is them 🍀🍀🍀🍀 And the oodles of UCL cash , too much to actually depict on here but here is an example 💰💰💰💰💰.

Another form of love .

All bantz after all.

Mx 🍀🏆 💋"

Ah, football, divisive and pointless, nothing but us and them, it's just daft, no lasting happiness to be found there either.

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By *esp.Man
2 days ago

Surrey

Love very much exists. It can not be explained, defined, understood or measured and it should never be. When did we become such a soulless society that we need scientific explanations or justifications for the most fundamental forces in life ? It's a slippery slope.

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
2 days ago

Motherwell


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜

Oh, I didn't think your rebuttal needed answering, there's nothing in it. Perhaps you're too academic to see sense.

Moi an academic, I am merely a slut on a gay website thread passing the time espousing on the qualities of the rich tapestry we call life. It's all just bantz after all.

Btw did you know my favourite team in the world who I also love

Celtic from Glasgow, where I am also a native of, have won in one season after a very successful Champions League campaign which enriched their coffers by a further £40 million two trophies, the league cup and the actual league. This is them 🏆🏆. Four league titles in a row this is them 🍀🍀🍀🍀 And the oodles of UCL cash , too much to actually depict on here but here is an example 💰💰💰💰💰.

Another form of love .

All bantz after all.

Mx 🍀🏆 💋

Ah, football, divisive and pointless, nothing but us and them, it's just daft, no lasting happiness to be found there either. "

I seem to be discoursing with not the person I thought you were. No matter, football is a joy and the most exciting sport on Earth, it appeals to our basic instincts. If people choose to use it for other nefarious purposes then that's nothing to do with football. The last ditch tackle that prevents a goal, or loss of a game, cup or title or even being relegated. The world class impossible saves, the amazing worldie goals, the spirit and fight of the underdog , this season alone the triumph of the underdog. These are what football is all about, it's the mindless minority who hijacked it's tribalism and have people like you tar us football fans with the same brush. Your point is too general and too sweeping and does not encapsulate the love ( yes that word again) of the game. Mx

I will stop with the Celtic stuff as you are not the person I thought you were.

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By *ucker4you80Man
2 days ago

Calne


"Love very much exists. It can not be explained, defined, understood or measured and it should never be. When did we become such a soulless society that we need scientific explanations or justifications for the most fundamental forces in life ? It's a slippery slope. "

We're not a soulless society and what's wrong with scientific explanations? Also where do you think the slippery slope leads to?

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By *ft pensionerMan
2 days ago

.


"It's better to have loved and lost than to have never loved, can't remember who's phrase it is but it's so right.

It would be an empty cold life without the ability to love a fellow human or even your pet.

From the first crush at school to the all consuming love for someone that hits you from nowhere,it's all part of lifes rich Padgett."

.

Tennyson

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By *ichey6Man
2 days ago

aberdeen


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜

Oh, I didn't think your rebuttal needed answering, there's nothing in it. Perhaps you're too academic to see sense.

Moi an academic, I am merely a slut on a gay website thread passing the time espousing on the qualities of the rich tapestry we call life. It's all just bantz after all.

Btw did you know my favourite team in the world who I also love

Celtic from Glasgow, where I am also a native of, have won in one season after a very successful Champions League campaign which enriched their coffers by a further £40 million two trophies, the league cup and the actual league. This is them 🏆🏆. Four league titles in a row this is them 🍀🍀🍀🍀 And the oodles of UCL cash , too much to actually depict on here but here is an example 💰💰💰💰💰.

Another form of love .

All bantz after all.

Mx 🍀🏆 💋

Motherwell is NOT GLASGOW...

It's a sh*te town on its outskirts, like EK, Hamilton, Airdrie, Cumbernauld and Coatbridge...

Fact!!!

😏😎😜

"

...

...

But...but... snobbery..

Double Standards.

As per.

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By *ph1956Man
2 days ago

COLCHESTER

"GRIEF IS THE PRICE WE PAY FOR LOVING"

Get used to it, thats what being human is all about!

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By *eefandfurMan
2 days ago

Edinburgh

https://youtu.be/uY4cVhXxW64

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By *vmarisaTV/TS
2 days ago

Motherwell


"Poppycock the multiple named 🤡 tries to explain the non existence of a non tangible thing. To describe a mother's love for a child that she grew and nourished inside her body, sometimes at great physical, emotional and spiritual sacrifice as an ego trip of ones own consciousness is quite frankly laughable. As I have said many times,Academics and Academia have fallen a long way since my time if this it's level, I wonder if you publish every year, but then again I doubt it. I totally disagree with everything.

Make love not war, as Rome burns beware the charlatans, carpet baggers, snake oil salesman and pseuds, just fuck until you can fuck no more.

Mx 🍀 🍀 🍀 🍀

Sounds like you're pretty deluded.

Sounds like you have not got a clue what you are talking about as per usual and you avoid answering my rebuttal.

Do please continue, you amuse me . Mx 😜

Oh, I didn't think your rebuttal needed answering, there's nothing in it. Perhaps you're too academic to see sense.

Moi an academic, I am merely a slut on a gay website thread passing the time espousing on the qualities of the rich tapestry we call life. It's all just bantz after all.

Btw did you know my favourite team in the world who I also love

Celtic from Glasgow, where I am also a native of, have won in one season after a very successful Champions League campaign which enriched their coffers by a further £40 million two trophies, the league cup and the actual league. This is them 🏆🏆. Four league titles in a row this is them 🍀🍀🍀🍀 And the oodles of UCL cash , too much to actually depict on here but here is an example 💰💰💰💰💰.

Another form of love .

All bantz after all.

Mx 🍀🏆 💋

Motherwell is NOT GLASGOW...

It's a sh*te town on its outskirts, like EK, Hamilton, Airdrie, Cumbernauld and Coatbridge...

Fact!!!

😏😎😜

"

A bit like you living in Brum, Liverpool or wherever else you say . Two can tango my dear and a merry dance can be lead not just by you in the fab world,mind you I am surprised at you including Airdrie in your snobbishness isn't that your lodge'ing.

Now now remember don't take offence after all it's just Bantz.

Mx

🍀

😜

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By *esp.Man
2 days ago

Surrey


"Love very much exists. It can not be explained, defined, understood or measured and it should never be. When did we become such a soulless society that we need scientific explanations or justifications for the most fundamental forces in life ? It's a slippery slope.

We're not a soulless society and what's wrong with scientific explanations? Also where do you think the slippery slope leads to?"

Science is fraudulent and it has always been. All one has to do is to look back in history.

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By *ammy aka SammyTV/TS
2 days ago

Bedford

If anyone thinks love is an illusion then they've never been in love xx

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By *hris4tvMan
2 days ago

liverpool


"

Science is fraudulent and it has always been. All one has to do is to look back in history. "

Most ignorant statement so far.

Well done that man!

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By *sal paulMan
2 days ago

Walton

To love or not to love that is the question

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By *opalaMan
2 days ago

gravesend


"If anyone thinks love is an illusion then they've never been in love xx "

And life as well is it an illusion.

It if you care does it matter..

We get hurt life doesn’t stop .we feel the pain next door got his own pain. A

We all have our pain most important never give up there is always light at the end and we find our destiny.

Sorry guys if got carried away

But pain is everywhere don’t give up

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By *esp.Man
2 days ago

Surrey


"

Science is fraudulent and it has always been. All one has to do is to look back in history.

Most ignorant statement so far.

Well done that man!"

As for the 'slippery slope'? The above comment is a perfect example.

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By *hris4tvMan
2 days ago

liverpool


"

Science is fraudulent and it has always been. All one has to do is to look back in history.

Most ignorant statement so far.

Well done that man!

As for the 'slippery slope'? The above comment is a perfect example."

How's that fraudulent science helping you connect to a digital world...?

A billion different things working in harmony to assist you searching for knobs - or spouting bottom of the barrel sweeping generalisations, whatever takes your fancy.

Go get'em champ.

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By *sal paulMan
2 days ago

Walton

As four people once said

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

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By *ara JevoTV/TS
2 days ago

Bristol East


"Unrequited love is very painful"

Yes.

Until you meet the next heart throb, and it is reciprocal.

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By *ucker4you80Man
2 days ago

Calne


"

Science is fraudulent and it has always been. All one has to do is to look back in history.

Most ignorant statement so far.

Well done that man!

As for the 'slippery slope'? The above comment is a perfect example."

Science is the very opposite of fraudulent, what can be demonstrated by science is the only truth available in a physical world, which history shows, repeatedly, unless you know something we don't?!

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