FabGuys.com forum: Why does my wife….

By *asttimelord2011 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

Why does my wife not fully understand that I don’t want to spend every waking minute with her? She’s so clingy it’s annoying. Is it wrong to just want time out to spend to yourself!?

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By *dstefiMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

Have you asked her?

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By *asttimelord2011 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

"Have you asked her?"

Sure but she WANTS to be around me all the time. Personally I find it annoying ALL the time.

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By *astDevonGuyMan
2 weeks ago

East Devon

Maybe she has suspicions?

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By *eefandfurMan
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Maybe she is paranoid that maybe her hubby is secretly maybe bisexual and is spending his time of gay hook-up sites looking for cock.

Women! eh? with their intuition and horoscopes and the like.

Maybe.

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By *dambi00Man
2 weeks ago

Leicestershire

You could communicate with her, just a suggestion

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By *asttimelord2011 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

"Maybe she has suspicions? "

Of what?

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By *asttimelord2011 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

"Maybe she is paranoid that maybe her hubby is secretly maybe bisexual and is spending his time of gay hook-up sites looking for cock.

Women! eh? with their intuition and horoscopes and the like.

Maybe.

Nope deffo not that she knows all about FabGuys (read my verifications for proof) so not that….

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By *asttimelord2011 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

"You could communicate with her, just a suggestion "

Yep done that, I’ve told her this, she is just obsessed with spending her time with me - I don’t mind it just not EVERY second of EVERY day.

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By *dstefiMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

"Maybe she is paranoid that maybe her hubby is secretly maybe bisexual and is spending his time of gay hook-up sites looking for cock.

Women! eh? with their intuition and horoscopes and the like.

Maybe.

Nope deffo not that she knows all about FabGuys (read my verifications for proof) so not that…."

Well that's it then. She's obsessed with your sexual magnetism, like iron filings. I think this is what they call a first world problem.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"You could communicate with her, just a suggestion

Yep done that, I’ve told her this, she is just obsessed with spending her time with me - I don’t mind it just not EVERY second of EVERY day."

Must make having a shit a tad alarming.

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By *asttimelord2011 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

"Maybe she is paranoid that maybe her hubby is secretly maybe bisexual and is spending his time of gay hook-up sites looking for cock.

Women! eh? with their intuition and horoscopes and the like.

Maybe.

Nope deffo not that she knows all about FabGuys (read my verifications for proof) so not that….

Well that's it then. She's obsessed with your sexual magnetism, like iron filings. I think this is what they call a first world problem."

I’m not really sure what you mean as I didn’t write this

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By *dstefiMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

Has taking up a really boring hobby failed?

I like aviation museums. They bore my Mrs rigid but she lets me (shocker) go on my own.

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By *asttimelord2011 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Sleaford

"You could communicate with her, just a suggestion

Yep done that, I’ve told her this, she is just obsessed with spending her time with me - I don’t mind it just not EVERY second of EVERY day.

Must make having a shit a tad alarming.

TELL me about it - yep even that isn’t always sacred.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"You could communicate with her, just a suggestion

Yep done that, I’ve told her this, she is just obsessed with spending her time with me - I don’t mind it just not EVERY second of EVERY day.

Must make having a shit a tad alarming.

TELL me about it - yep even that isn’t always sacred."

You’ve been using that new Lynx, haven’t you?

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By *dstefiMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

"You could communicate with her, just a suggestion

Yep done that, I’ve told her this, she is just obsessed with spending her time with me - I don’t mind it just not EVERY second of EVERY day.

Must make having a shit a tad alarming.

TELL me about it - yep even that isn’t always sacred.

You’ve been using that new Lynx, haven’t you?

Lynx England, in special patriotic tins and smells of wet clothes and cabbage?

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By *adforyoumanMan
2 weeks ago

Russell sq. central London

Yep,my wife is exactly the same, since she gave up work.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

Ok, so what reason did she give for not giving you any ‘me’ time?

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By *hisMeMan
2 weeks ago

Forfar, Angus

Even though your wife is aware of your presence and activities here, she might simply be a bit jealous about you getting to play without her. This might not be something that she's prepared to admit to, for fear of 'disappointing' you.

Or maybe she's excited at the prospect of your next adventure and hoping it's one where she can join in.

But you both need to have a real honest heart to heart discussion about it, whatever 'it' is.

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By *dstefiMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

Maybe you could give her a hint by playing Chas & Dave's "Rabbit" on loop?

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"Maybe you could give her a hint by playing Chas & Dave's "Rabbit" on loop?"

‘Take it easy’ by The Eagles - it’s very much about a man wanting breathing space, freedom, and peace of mind away from pressures (including a woman “trying to make him change his ways”).

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By *dstefiMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

"Maybe you could give her a hint by playing Chas & Dave's "Rabbit" on loop?

‘Take it easy’ by The Eagles - it’s very much about a man wanting breathing space, freedom, and peace of mind away from pressures (including a woman “trying to make him change his ways”)."

Right up till he sees a girl my lord in a flatbed Ford, then he's fucked again

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By *aremanMan
2 weeks ago

Wymondham

A fake psychiatrist writes - She is feeling insecure. Perhaps she has few or no friends? No interests outside the home? Or is it that marrying you was the alternative to remaining in an abusive situation of some sort?

Of course, one way of reducing her dependence would be to tell her that you have had sex with men for years and suggest she advertises for a girlfriend.

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By *oggy-69TV/TS
2 weeks ago

Gainsborough

Maybe, just maybe she feels your pushing her away, feels un wanted thinks that you don't want her anymore, don't love her anymore.

Try taking her out somewhere nice for a meal and talk to her

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By *tmguylookingMan
2 weeks ago

Chesterfield

If she annoys you that much, why not just leave her

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"A fake psychiatrist writes - She is feeling insecure. Perhaps she has few or no friends? No interests outside the home? Or is it that marrying you was the alternative to remaining in an abusive situation of some sort?

Of course, one way of reducing her dependence would be to tell her that you have had sex with men for years and suggest she advertises for a girlfriend. "

The OP has already directed guys to his verifications where it is plainly obvious that his wife is aware of everything and joins in.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

A meal out is a good idea:

“This is your restaurant - that one over there is mine”.

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By *ardvoyeurMan
2 weeks ago

Donegal

Because she knows you will be wanking?

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By *iwmwpg1Man
2 weeks ago

Kidwelly

"Maybe she has suspicions?

Of what?"

Oh I don't know, how about you're actually Gay and enjoy fucking/being fucked by men more than her?

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"Maybe she has suspicions?

Of what?

Oh I don't know, how about you're actually Gay and enjoy fucking/being fucked by men more than her?

She knows this already.

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By *astDevonGuyMan
2 weeks ago

East Devon

"Maybe she has suspicions?

Of what?"

You playing without her and getting emotionally involved. Is her needing to be with you , know where you are , control or dependency?

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By *eefandfurMan
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Maybe you could give her a hint by playing Chas & Dave's "Rabbit" on loop?

‘Take it easy’ by The Eagles - it’s very much about a man wanting breathing space, freedom, and peace of mind away from pressures (including a woman “trying to make him change his ways”).

Right up till he sees a girl my lord in a flatbed Ford, then he's fucked again"

A play list, that could work.

Don't stand so close to me - Police

Toxic - Britney Spears

Tainted Love - Soft Cell or Marilyn Manson

Close to me - The Cure

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By *aremanMan
2 weeks ago

Wymondham

The OP has already directed guys to his verifications where it is plainly obvious that his wife is aware of everything and joins in. "

Fair enough, didn't read down the thread. In which case I return to my other suggestions. Or get her to a real psychiatrist -this looks pathological.

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By *tephen_b50Man
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"You could communicate with her, just a suggestion

Yep done that, I’ve told her this, she is just obsessed with spending her time with me - I don’t mind it just not EVERY second of EVERY day.

Must make having a shit a tad alarming.

TELL me about it - yep even that isn’t always sacred."

You mean ... she stands there ... and WATCHES? You'll be telling us she grades your stools next ...

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By *ubdaveyMan
2 weeks ago

Skerries

Rather suck cock..lol

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By *3versMan
2 weeks ago

glasgow

The OP has already directed guys to his verifications where it is plainly obvious that his wife is aware of everything and joins in.

Fair enough, didn't read down the thread. In which case I return to my other suggestions. Or get her to a real psychiatrist -this looks pathological.

She's read the threads about the journey from bisexual to full paid card carrying poof and waiting to see that beautiful caterpillar turn into an ugly moth

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

"You could communicate with her, just a suggestion

Yep done that, I’ve told her this, she is just obsessed with spending her time with me - I don’t mind it just not EVERY second of EVERY day.

Must make having a shit a tad alarming.

TELL me about it - yep even that isn’t always sacred.

You mean ... she stands there ... and WATCHES? You'll be telling us she grades your stools next ...

She could use the Bristol Stool Chart, eh?

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

The OP has already directed guys to his verifications where it is plainly obvious that his wife is aware of everything and joins in.

Fair enough, didn't read down the thread. In which case I return to my other suggestions. Or get her to a real psychiatrist -this looks pathological.

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certainly sounds in-house stalkery. Op, do you give her the runaround around the house, you know, pop upstairs, she comes up, you walk back down to the shed, she follows….sort of a grim ‘follow-me-leader” type thing.

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By *lackbootzMan
2 weeks ago

Hayes, Middx

" … Why does my wife not fully understand that I don’t want to spend every waking minute with her? … "

I’m interested that you think a Forum of random strangers is the best place to ask this.

Why not speak to the lady herself - or failing that one of her family or her best friends..?

That’s if there is a genuine issue here and you really do have something you need to change in your life. And it’s not just some boastful sounding off. Because you sound very lucky - according to the verifications you are keen to point us to - she’s a sexy lady, joins in, allows you to pursue your interests. You sound very lucky. And she deserves to be treated with respect. All good luck to you both.

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By *arridMan
2 weeks ago

bRiGhToN

Although I can’t help but hum the Benny Hill chase music when I read this thread.

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By *arcosa66Man
2 weeks ago

London

Yes, love is funny that way. When I first met my wife we couldn't stand to be away from each other. I actually miss those days when we were so deeply in love. Time marches on and love doesn't last, at least not in that way.

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By *xtraoneMan
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

Get her a dog

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By *i_guy_WBayMan
2 weeks ago

Whitley Bay

My wife was like that in the early years but soon realised we both needed our own interests and space otherwise we would kill each other.

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By *ookingaroundMan
2 weeks ago

Bristol

"Why does my wife not fully understand that I don’t want to spend every waking minute with her? She’s so clingy it’s annoying. Is it wrong to just want time out to spend to yourself!?"

Is this a new thing or has it always been like that?

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By *azaMan
2 weeks ago

Walsall

Mine is so domineering and argument

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

I absolutely love threads like this, one or two sentences from the OP and hundreds of poundshop Sigmunds deciding and diagnosing all sorts of complex mental conditions. It’s beautiful.

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By *owzerMan
1 week ago

Chester.....

"Have you asked her?

Sure but she WANTS to be around me all the time. Personally I find it annoying ALL the time."

Just tell her and if she won't listen you'll have to solve the problem another way

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By *eefandfurMan
1 week ago

Edinburgh

Go for a run... don't wait for her.

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By *ohnbi1965Man
1 week ago

Aberfeldy

Mine is the same she would be with me 24/7 if she could not interested in being with other people only me.

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By *tuart333Man
1 week ago

STAFFORD

fellow sufferer here - not only wants to be with me but when I am she never stops talking - and try an read a book - no fucking chance

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

Do you think she might be bored or lonely and looking for a companion?

Is there any value in gently sitting her down and trying to find out why? Not looking from your perspective but trying to understand hers and realising that she might not know fully herself?

She will likely get defensive but you need to see and work beyond that and reassure her that there is no judgement but it’s causing you stress and you both need to find a way around it together?

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By *onstant.Man
1 week ago

Middlesbrough

My wife is the opposite can't get a conversation out of her.

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By *dstefiMan
1 week ago

Solihull

Can I brag? Mine and I give each other loads of space. We do get on really well, best friends ever, and she even gives me the odd pass for some gay time, but I believe that space stops us from driving each other nuts.

We did survive a week's holiday together constantly with just the odd tetch this summer too.

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By *issy SiMan
1 week ago

Horsham

"Maybe she is paranoid that maybe her hubby is secretly maybe bisexual and is spending his time of gay hook-up sites looking for cock.

Women! eh? with their intuition and horoscopes and the like.

Maybe.

Nope deffo not that she knows all about FabGuys (read my verifications for proof) so not that…."

If she wants to be with you all the time presumably that includes the times you're having sex with other men

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By *rasshopper200Man
1 week ago

kendal

Bet she’d change her mind if she found out

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By *enardeMan
1 week ago

Barnsley

She might just really love you and see you as her best friend

You can test it by seeing if she takes anal

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By *ospitallerMan
1 week ago

Manchester

"Why does my wife not fully understand that I don’t want to spend every waking minute with her? She’s so clingy it’s annoying. Is it wrong to just want time out to spend to yourself!?"

Does she know you cheat on her ?

Maybe subconsciously she knows ?

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By *fcdTV/TS
1 week ago

Southend

She’s codependent maybe? Can’t function without you? My ex was like that. Thought I shouldn’t need friends anymore as she should be everything I needed and vice versa. Also a trust issue?

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By *ichard66Man
1 week ago

Plymouth

I have the same problem, never actually free for a moment and certainly never any time for a lovely wank

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By *oggy-69TV/TS
1 week ago

Gainsborough

Divorce!

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By *untimesfuckingMan
1 week ago

Newport

There's no nice way to say this but maybe some self reflection and actual thinking (other than about yourself) as to whether your wife/partner is actually as ok being involved in your swinging activities. She's clearly not as confident as she's allowed you to believe and this is probably being demonstrated in her "neediness" which is more than likely a subconscious effort to ask you, will I ever be enough?

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By *uesada guyMan
1 week ago

Middlesbrough

Mine has come out last week and said if we dont have sex again im ok with it

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

"Mine has come out last week and said if we dont have sex again im ok with it "

Does that suggest you should work to make sex something she actually wants to indulge in?

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By *eefandfurMan
1 week ago

Edinburgh

Have you tried Tether Training. Seems quite successful with overly needy attached dogs, might work with a wife.

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By *arridMan
1 week ago

bRiGhToN

"Mine has come out last week and said if we dont have sex again im ok with it "

What was she in for? Robbery, tax evasion, fraud…?

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By *aremanMan
1 week ago

Wymondham

"Mine has come out last week and said if we dont have sex again im ok with it

Does that suggest you should work to make sex something she actually wants to indulge in?"

Don't be an amateiur sigmund. Just play her Shiny Happy People all day.

Should push her over the edge and then you could section her...

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By *arridMan
1 week ago

bRiGhToN

"Why does my wife not fully understand that I don’t want to spend every waking minute with her? She’s so clingy it’s annoying. Is it wrong to just want time out to spend to yourself!?

Does she know you cheat on her ?

Maybe subconsciously she knows ?"

One of the OPs veris says this “ had the pleasure of meeting Dan and his lovely wife , they are a wonderful couple and made me feel relaxed with them. Looking forward to our next meet” and others mention sex with his wife so I don’t think he is cheating, more like sharing and swinging.

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By *ookingaroundMan
1 week ago

Bristol

"Mine has come out last week and said if we dont have sex again im ok with it

Does that suggest you should work to make sex something she actually wants to indulge in?

Don't be an amateiur sigmund. Just play her Shiny Happy People all day.

Should push her over the edge and then you could section her..."

You ok? Or just needing an argument?

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