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"We arw all here for various reasons. If your having fun why not "thanks she pisses me off shes not intrested | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "I doubt very much that anyone cares. | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "That recent ? Try 7 years | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "Definitely shouldn’t be. You’re married. If you thought you should you wouldn’t ask the question. Having said that there are many many people on here doing exactly the same. And it’s a long way from shouldn’t to won’t. | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "If that's her choosing and you still love her, accept and respect her wishes. Once you have done that, I think that it's equally acceptable for you you have your own personal and private separate agenda, of course the woman is unlikely to see the fairness in that, so it's pointless even discussing it with her and causing shockwaves in your relationship, so discretion is vital and ensuring that she has no way of discovering the secret aspects of your life, we are all human after all with needs and desires. So your presence on Fabguys seems totally acceptable to me. Good luck. | |||
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"Do you think you shouldn’t be on here? " yes i should be | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus
If that's her choosing and you still love her, accept and respect her wishes. Once you have done that, I think that it's equally acceptable for you you have your own personal and private separate agenda, of course the woman is unlikely to see the fairness in that, so it's pointless even discussing it with her and causing shockwaves in your relationship, so discretion is vital and ensuring that she has no way of discovering the secret aspects of your life, we are all human after all with needs and desires. So your presence on Fabguys seems totally acceptable to me. Good luck. "thankyou | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus
If that's her choosing and you still love her, accept and respect her wishes. Once you have done that, I think that it's equally acceptable for you you have your own personal and private separate agenda, of course the woman is unlikely to see the fairness in that, so it's pointless even discussing it with her and causing shockwaves in your relationship, so discretion is vital and ensuring that she has no way of discovering the secret aspects of your life, we are all human after all with needs and desires. So your presence on Fabguys seems totally acceptable to me. Good luck. thankyou"Fairness?! There is no fairness in cheating, justify it however you want, it doesn't change the fact. What's more, yes we have desires but don't confuse sexual desire with need, it's not a need to have sex with men; again, another common justification for being unfaithful. | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "Is it because you're gay? | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "If you are interested in sex with other men , then of course you should be here. Maybe the other half is going through a perimenipause , or may have other reasons for not being interested in sex. Happens in lots of relationships, not just the straight ones . | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus
If that's her choosing and you still love her, accept and respect her wishes. Once you have done that, I think that it's equally acceptable for you you have your own personal and private separate agenda, of course the woman is unlikely to see the fairness in that, so it's pointless even discussing it with her and causing shockwaves in your relationship, so discretion is vital and ensuring that she has no way of discovering the secret aspects of your life, we are all human after all with needs and desires. So your presence on Fabguys seems totally acceptable to me. Good luck. thankyou
Fairness?! There is no fairness in cheating, justify it however you want, it doesn't change the fact. What's more, yes we have desires but don't confuse sexual desire with need, it's not a need to have sex with men; again, another common justification for being unfaithful. "I understand your stance on cheating, but relationships are highly complex and about finding balance. People have different needs and desires, and sometimes that means finding ways to work together. Compromise and understanding are key to making relationships work. It's not always easy in this imperfect world, but addressing unmet needs and desires within the relationship can be a more constructive approach than seeing it as a straightforward simplistic choice between 'right' and 'wrong'. | |||
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"Do you think you shouldn’t be on here? yes i should be " Then that’s all there is to it. It’s not for anyone else to say otherwise | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "It all depends on how much you value your marriage. By the question I assume your wife doesn't know and most probably wouldn't approve. If I'm wrong then why not be here. But if I'm right you have to be prepared that being found out will be a 95% chance of a divorce and public outing as being gay. | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus
It all depends on how much you value your marriage. By the question I assume your wife doesn't know and most probably wouldn't approve. If I'm wrong then why not be here. But if I'm right you have to be prepared that being found out will be a 95% chance of a divorce and public outing as being gay."The skill in "playing away" is ensuring that getting discovered is impossible by strictly using the following strategies / disciplines to ensure that you are always in a safe, 'watertight', and unsuspicious position. 1. Be discreet and constantly aware of the need to maintain secrecy. 2. Remove all digital evidence. 3. Behave as usual. 4. Maintain the same routine. 5. Use friends as excuses (and support). 6. Lock all technology. 7. Limit contact with the extra partner. 8. Appear innocent and have well-considered, plausible lies to cover your tracks. 9. Increase attention to your primary partner. 10. Use a dedicated email or phone. Being mindful of these tactics minimises suspicion. The key is to be consistent and vigilant in your actions, ensuring that your behaviour doesn't raise any red flags. It's never an easy situation, always precarious and stressful, and certainly one that won't suit everyone. | |||
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"Increased attention to partner would be an instant alarm bell. Maintain the usual boredom at all times.🤣" Yes, thanks you are correct, in retrospect I think that should have been phrased as:- "9. Maintain your usual degree of attention to your partner, so as not to raise suspicion." | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "You’re stuck in the pension trap bless you | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "Of life's many knotty conundrums, both slight and pressing .... The one you offer up for consideration is very unlikely to give any significant pause for thought. | |||
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"Increased attention to partner would be an instant alarm bell. Maintain the usual boredom at all times.🤣" Brill | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus
It all depends on how much you value your marriage. By the question I assume your wife doesn't know and most probably wouldn't approve. If I'm wrong then why not be here. But if I'm right you have to be prepared that being found out will be a 95% chance of a divorce and public outing as being gay.
The skill in "playing away" is ensuring that getting discovered is impossible by strictly using the following strategies / disciplines to ensure that you are always in a safe, 'watertight', and unsuspicious position.
1. Be discreet and constantly aware of the need to maintain secrecy.
2. Remove all digital evidence.
3. Behave as usual.
4. Maintain the same routine.
5. Use friends as excuses (and support).
6. Lock all technology.
7. Limit contact with the extra partner.
8. Appear innocent and have well-considered, plausible lies to cover your tracks.
9. Increase attention to your primary partner.
10. Use a dedicated email or phone.
Being mindful of these tactics minimises suspicion. The key is to be consistent and vigilant in your actions, ensuring that your behaviour doesn't raise any red flags. It's never an easy situation, always precarious and stressful, and certainly one that won't suit everyone."For anyone who has read the above and sees it as good practice, just imagine how much better your life could be if you put that amount of energy, dedication and effort into something positive, productive and kind, instead of being selfish, manipulative and deceitful. | |||
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"What do guys think i have not had sex with the wife for three years plus "If you are seeking sex with other men then yes you should be here. If its just to talk about wives and sex with other women then perhaps not | |||
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